时尚网红阿沁刘阳分手 | 长久经营感情必须要注意的3个方面！

 zuijinliuyangchuguidengshangresou，xuduowangyoudoubiaoshinanyizhixin：yinxiangzhongshangzhouqianchongqikuangmoliuyang，haizaiweibozhongyudajiashaichuyunvyouaqindetianmishipin，zenmezheizhoujiuturanfenshoule？

 zaiwangyoudexinzhong，liuyangzheigezaishipinzhizuozhongyiluchengzhangqilaidewanghong，yizhidoudazhechongqikuangmoderenshe，huoyuezairenmendeshixianzhong。

wuniandeaiqingzhangpao，shiwushuliuyangheaqintiandaobaoderichang。

 xuduowangyoufenfenliuyan，zijiguanzhuleliuyangyuaqinzheiduicpliangnianzhijiu，meitiandouhuikantamenweiboxiuenai，manmanjiuxiguanle，juedetamenmanzulewomenduimeihaoaiqingdesuoyouxiangxiang。

jideneiduanshijian，liuyangheaqinzaiweiboshangkuangsagouliang，liuyanggengjiang“chongqi”yiciyanyidaolejizhi。

aqinxihuanmeimei，liuyangjiupeitazhuixing，jingchoudaolehemeimeideheying。

 aqinshengri，liuyangsongtaxianglian。yibanrendoushifeijinglexinsizhuomohaokuanshi，erliuyanghaiyaojinvyouduoyidianyiwaizhixi——mailailewurenji，guazhelihecongaqindeshenhouhuanhuanchuxian。

liuyangzongnengbaliangrenderichangguochujingxi，guochujingzhi，guochunvrendouchongjingdelangmanweidao。

 tamendeaiqing，yousuyoutian，xiangjilemanhuazhongdemalisujuqing。zaifensidezhufushengzhong，tamenduguoleyigeyouyigejinianriheshengri。

ranercongquanwangzuitiandaosipolian，liuyangaqindeaiqingjiuxiangyizhijuemeidetaoci，shuosuijiusui。

cengjingdeaiqingyouduotian，xianzaijiubeishuaideduoxinsui。

“hunfangdoumaihaole，jiudengtashuoquwo。”shuozheihuadeaqindenglailemanshenluomo，hewunianlaijizandeshanghen。

zaiaqinfawenbiaoshidanfangmianfenshouyihou，cengjingyiluqinxiandewangyouzuiduodegantanjiushi：“wozaiyebuxiangxinaiqingle！”

shia，wuniandeguangyin，aqinshibasuishijiukaishigensuizheliuyangdejiaobu，yiqifendoupeiban。

womenyanzhongdeshenxianjuanlvdoudasuileaiqing，erwomenzheixiezaiyongchangzhongshicuodeputongrenhainashenmexiangxinaiqing？

 liuyangaqindeaiqing，shineizhongnenggouyiyanwangdaolaodeaiqing。erxianzaihenduorenfenfenyihuo：“neimezhenzhengjingyingganqingdexiangchuzhidaoshishenmeni？”

一、感情长久的相处之道

1.小别胜新婚

 renmenjiedu“zhangfu”shishizheimeshuode：“yizhangzhineicaishifu，lideyuanlelabuzhu，lidejinleshoubule。”suoyiaiqingxuyaoshidangdejuli。

woxiang，relianzhongdelianrenzhisuoyiruciruchiruzui，youyibufenyezhengshiyouyulianaideshenmihebuduanshengjidetansuoyu。

lianggerendelianjietongguoyidianyididexiangchu、fenli，jiashenduibicidejiban，chanshenggengjiashenkedelianjie。

“xiaobieshengxinhuan”zheijuhua，jiudianchuleaiqingzhongdeninongwonongguohoudenanshenanfen。

 guoduodeniannizaiyiqi，changchanghuishiaiqingtoubuguoqi，erguozaodejinrutongjuguanxi，yewuyishijizijideqingchunjinxingyixianggaofengxiandetouzi。

 zaijinxingshifouyaojinrutongjuguanxidexuanzeshi，womendexinzhongkeyiyouyibabiaogan：zaijinrutongjuguanxiqian，bicishiyinweixiangshoufeihunyindezhuangtai，haishiweizouxianghunyinzuopudian。

tongjuyouliyumohelianggerendeganqing，keyizuoweihunqiandejianyan，yeshiduanqiguanxijinruzhangqiguanxidezhongyaozhuanzhe。

ganqingderenxinghechijiu，xuyaowomenyoujiqiaodibawoyujingying。

2.坦诚地面对自己的需求

 zaiganqingjingyanbuduodeshihou，womenduizijizhenzhengdexuqiuwangwangbugoulejie。yinci，womenzaixuanzebanlvdeshihouyehuiyouxiangyingdewucha。

jiuxiangzijidiyicizufang，zaiyulaobanqiandinghetongshi，womenhuiganjuedahuanjinghaoxiangdouchabuduo。

dandangzijimanmanyoulejiduanbutongdezufangjinglihou，caigengrongyilejiezijijuzhuzenyangdefangzigengshushiyuyue。

congzheigejiaodu，jiuchangchanghuiyou“xiexienijiaohuileworuhequai”zheiyishuo。

 tongshi，renmenhennanlikaiyiduanmeiyoumingxianwentideganqing。yinweizheibingbuhuidailailijidehaochu，quehuidailaifenkaidejiaolvhetongku。

suoyi，womenhenrongyikandaoyiduanyinwei“gandong”erjinrudeaiqing，yiluhunzheguoriziyenengjiangjiu。

 youxierenxiwangbanlvhenyouqian，danyoujuedezijizheizhongxiangfahenbaijin，shibuhaode。yushizaiqianyishizhongyayilezijidexuqiu，shuofuzijixuanzejijishangjinderen。

youxierenxiwanglingyibanxingganwumei，danshiduizijideqingyugandaoxiuchihechijing，yushiqiangpozijijieshouyigewaixingputongderen。

 hunqianwufatanchengdekanjianzijizhenzhengdexuqiu，hunhoudeshenghuo，jiuhuichuxianyuziji“butanchengxingwei”dezhongzhongmoca，zhidaozhongyukanjianhechengrenzijizhenshidexuqiu。

二、如何从旧的价值系统中重生？

aqindezibaizhong，liuyangshuoleyijuhua，beizhaijinzhananyulu：“monijiuxiangmoziji。”

youfensifenfenliuyanshuo：“suoyiniaishangleyipiansenlin。buxihuanmeiyoucuo，danshibeipanheqipian，jianjuebunengren。”

 dagaihenduorenyeshiduizheimipaodeaiqingsilexin，bushaofensidoufachuzheiyangdeshengyin：“beichuguicuihuiyigenvhaidezixin，qiehuohainvhaiyishengdelianaiguan。jintian，wozisunyiqian，yeyaohuinibabai。”

bucuo，aqindezibaijiuxiangyibaruilidedaozi，jiegouzhezijiduzaizheigenanrenshenshangdeqingchun。

 danjiushizheiyang，tamendeaiqingyeweinengmiansu，beipanshishizaizaidefashengle，lingwaiyigerenchuxian，fenzoubanlvdezhuyili、qingganheshijian。

liuxiaweiaimiwangdeaqin。

xijuhuadezhuanbianrangwomenbudebukaishimianduiqianzangzaizijineixindeyixiegongke——neixiexuyaogaibiandejiazhiguan。

beipaoqi，yiweizhe“woshibuzhidebeiaide。”

beihushi、beibijiao，shuoming“wobugouhao，bugouyouxiyinli。”

beilveduo，“suoyiwoshikuifade。”

zheixieshangtongtigongjiwomenyigexinxi——yizhiyilai，zaiqianyishizhong，womenganshouzijidaokuifade。yejiushidijiazhigan。

 erqiewomenjiangzijidejiazhigan，wanquandehelingyigerenduiwomenquanxinquanyidechengdubangzaileyiqi。zheizhongkunbangjianghuidadaxueruonideliliangganyuxinxin。

 dangchuguiqiangxingdasuilewomenzheigejiazhixitongshi，shouxianyaozuodeshijiezhuzheigejihui，chengshidemianduiyinzangzaizijineixinfennuxiadecuobaihewuligan、neizhongxiangzhuazhuqueshenmeyezhuabuzhudeganjue。

 aqinshuo：“zheimeduonian，wojihucongbufankantadeshouji，wutiaojianxinren，danjiushizheifenxinren，rangtahaobufeilideqipianliyongwozheimejiu。”

 mianduiyijingshoudaoshanghaideshishi，duiyuwomengengjiayouyiyideshixuyaomingbai，zaibanlvwaiyushijifashengzhiqian，tadexinyezaojiulikaile。

 lianggerenyexuhaiweichizhebiaomiandeyiqiezhengchang，ranerzaojiubuzhidaoyouduoshaoantaoxiongyong。qishizaishiqingzhenzhengfashengzhiqian，jiuyouhenduozhengzhaofasheng。

 zhishirenmenyaomebaozhejiaoxingxintai，quhuibishencengcidesikaohekandaozijidewenti；yaomerangzijibiandemamuchidun，sangshiduihenduoshiqingdeminganyuganzhi。

 dangwomenzhendejingyouzheiduanguanxikanqinglezijineizaidemoshizhihou，buzaizhongfuyiqiandeshenghuomoshi，juedingduiguoquduiweilaizijidoufuquanbuzerenshi，jiukaishilezijililiangganheyongqidezhongjian，zheizhongzhongjianjiushihexinshijiedelianjie。

jiranbeishanghaiyichengweileshishi，womenjiubixuqumiandui。

erduiyushoushangdeneiyifanglaishuo，zheihechangbushiyigezhongxinkaishisikaozijirenshengdehaojihuini？

yongganmianduiweizhideshenghuo，zheizhongfenkai，yehuizaiweilaimanmanchengzhanghuodeliliang。

作者 | 柳橙芝