导师精选：高情商的人是怎么说话的

 shuohuadetishihengliangyigerenqingshanggaodidezhongyaobiaozhizhiyi。keshihaoxiangwomendongdehenduodaoqueyiranguobuhaozheiyishengyiyang，womenkanguohenduojiaorenshuohuadeshuji，shangguohenduojiaorenshuohuadekecheng，queyiranhuizaizijideshenghuolicaikeng。youxierendairenjiewubinbinyouli，weirenchushiqianxudidiao，kehaishinanyibimiancaiguoyixiajigekeng。

01

闲聊时交浅言深

xueshuohuaqianwantiao，qiemojiaoqianyanshendiyitiao。

 kenenghenduorendouyoubiaodadeyuwang，qingsudexuqiu，suoyijibianzhidaozheigedaoli，haishihuizairenjijiaowangdechanghezhongbatawangdaonaohou。

zheiyeshizaizhichangzhongtebieduojian。

 youyici，xuexiaoqinglaileyigetuiguangmoukuanxinxihuajiaoxueruanjiandezhuanjiajiwomenpeixun，youtongshitiyiwomenbazheikuanruanjianyingyongdaopingshidejiaoxuegongzuozhong，rangxueshengshangkedouyongshouji。

 wodexiangfashishoujikeyizuoweiyigelianxigoutong、chayuezhishi、yulexiuxidegongju，danbixuyougedu，bunengyincihuangfeilezhizhiyuedu、daimanlerenyurenzhijiandemianduimianjiaoliu。

 dangwobazheigejianjiezaibangongshiqitatongshimianqianfabiaohepipanneigetichujianyidetongshishi，youweitongshiduiwogezhongfuhe，gezhongzhichiwodeguandian。

 zhidaoyouyitian，wokandaoxuexiaoqunlifabuleruanjiangongsianyingyongruanjianchengduhepinlvpingchushengjishidarenwudebaodao，qizhongyouyiweijiushineigefuhewodetongshi。

 wocaiyishidaoyuanlairenjiazaifuhewodetongshiyezaijijixiangyingdanweihaozhao，yingyongcishudoukeyipaizaishengjiqianshimingle，beidanweibiaoyangtibadetongshihaishouyaodaobeijingcanjiaruanjiangongsidenianhui。

zheijianshirangwomingbaile：womenkeyiyongzhengquedefangshitichuyijianhuojianyi，danbiesuiyidaochupingpanrenshiwu。

wulunshizhichangshanghaishishenghuozhongyidingjinfangjiaoqianyanshen。

meigerendouyoufabiaoyanlundeziyou，douyoushufaqingxudexuyao，danzhaocuotujingbiaodajiuyaozuohaoweicichengdanhouguodezhunbei。

02

夸人时踩一捧一

 pingshiwomendouzhidaozanmeikuajiangbierenkeyicujinrenjiguanxidehexie，danshikuarendeshihouyidingxuehuibimiancaiyipengyi，fouzezhihuibeidaoerchi。

 jideyouyicinianzhongsuimo，womenbumendelingdaoweilejulongrenxin，guwushiqi，zitaoyaobaoqingdajiachifan。qizhongyiweitongshiganghaochuchameidecanjia。

 dajiazuoluozhiji，youweitongshikaiwanxiaodishuodaihuiyaobameishipaizhangzhaofajineigechuchadetongshi，rangtazhidaotacuoguolezheimeduohaochide。

 lingdaotinglexiaohehede。zaichangdelingyiweitongshixiaoa，huiyingdao：“renjiazaiwaimianchuchachidebinihaoduole。”lingdaosuiranmeishuosha，danshilianshangdebiaoqingzongguishiguaiguaide，zheihuajiuxiangzaibianditaqingdefana!

 houlaicaishangwanle，dahuoerchidehenkaixin，xiaoafazineixinxiangyaozanmeiyixialingdaoqingchidecaitebiehaochi，shuodao：“zheixiecaidouhaohaochia，bipingshizaijiudianchidehunyanhaihaochi……”。

 erzaichangdejiuyouhaojiweitongshijiehundoushizaijiudianqingde，qizhongyiweihaishibujiuqiangangjiedehun，qingdeke。zheihuayichu，bierendoumeizaijiele。

 zheijiushicaiyipengyi，benyishiyaokuacaihaochi，duilingdaobiaodaxieyi，keshiyongbiandiqitarendefangshi，kuarenjiubianweile。zheizhongcaiyipengyidezuofadezuiqitarenbushuo，beikuaderenyebuhuihenkaixin。

03

无意中揭人伤疤

 zheigegushilaiziwoyigeweirenshanliangsuihedepengyou，zaitasanshisuineinianyourenjitajieshaoleyigeduixiang，gefangmiantiaojiandourangtamanyi，weixinyiliaocaifaxianshitayiqiandetongbantongxue。

 zhishizaineigeqingsedeniandai，tamensuirantongbanleliangnian，quemeijiangguoyijuhua。biyehougebendongxi，tameicanjiaguotongxuehui，bicizhijianjihumeiyouguanyuduifangdehuiyi。

zheiweinantongxuedezhiwopengyoushilaotongxue，tebieqinqie，liaobujiubianyixujiudeliyouyuelewopengyouchifan。

 chifanshi，liaoqiyiqiandeshuxuelaoshi，nantongxueshuodangshidushushidaibijiaodiaopi，xuexichengjiyebuhao，youyicihejigetongxuedalanqiuwangjishangkeshijian，keyishangleyiban，tamencaimomodizoujinjiaoshi，zhijianlaoshibaketingxialai，haobukeqi，ehenhendimatamen：“laji!”

 zheimeduonianguoqule，nantongxuebazheiduanjinglidangxiaohuajiangjiwopengyouting，wopengyouhuixiangqidangshishuxuelaoshiqueshishiyigecongbujixueshengliuqingmianderen，banshangjihumeigerendoubeixiongguo，baokuotaziji。

 houlailianggerenliaodetinghao，yuehuijianmiandecishuyeduole。zhidaoyouyici，nantongxuegenwopengyouliaoqizhiqiantaqulingyigetongxuenongcunlaojiacanjiatadehunli，jigenianqingrenjuzaiyiqishebudechifan，zaiyibiandapaiwannao。

 neigejiehuntongxuedeyeyejiaotamenchifan，jiaolehaojici，zhongyukanbuxiaqumamalieliedibapaishouzoule。zheigenvtongxuetinglehahadaxiao，shuodao：“ganjuedangshineigeyeyeneimexiongdiduidainimen，haoxiangwomendeshuxuelaoshia!”

 zheiweinantongxuedunshibiaoqingbiandeyoudianqiguai，fuhedao：“shia，xiangshuxuelaoshimawomenlajideyangzi!”houlainantongxueduiwozheigepengyoubiandemeineimereqing，zuihouliangrenyemeizaiyiqi。

 huoxuzheigenantongxueyoudianbolixin，danduitalaishuoyigeguoquzheimeduonianbeilaoshimadejinglizongshiyiduanbuhaodehuiyi，neiju“laji”jiuxiangyikuaibakezaitaxinli，jinguantahuiyundanfengqingdijiangjibierenting，danzuoweitingzhezaitijijiushijierenshangba。

shenghuozhong，jibianshiyigexihuanziwobiandiheziwodiaokanderen，yebuxiwangbierenxiangtazijineiyangbiandita，diaokanta。

 shuohuashimenyishu，tongwangyishudedaolushangyouxuduokeng，yuanmeigerendounengxuehuibikai，diedaoledongdepaqilai，buyaoliangcixianjintonggekeng。