男人的这些潜台词，暴露了他究竟是不是真的爱你！

zaihenduorendeqianyishili，huirenweinvrenshizheigeshijieshangzuinanlijie、zuinangaodongdeshengwule。

 womenchangshuo“nvrenxinhaidizhen”，nvrenzuishangshuozhetaoyanshiquebushizhendetaoyan，shuobuxihuanshiquehenyoukenengshifeichangxihuan，shuomeishineishiyoushi，shuoyoushiqueshizhendeyoushi。

danhaoxiangyoushihounanrenhuibinvrengengjianandong。

nvrensuiranoueryinzangqizijideqingxu，danhaishihuijiangxinzhongdexiyue、buman、shengqi、nanguochengxianchulai。

 ernanrenhuiaiyushehuijiaosededingweihelaiziwaijiezhongzhongyuanyin，shidezaiyinzangzheiyifangmiandenenglishihuibinvrengengjialveshengyichou。tamenkeyicongrongdanding，yizhiyuwomenchangkanbuqingtamendexinuaile。

jiuhaoxiang，ruguowomenwenyigenansheng：“nijuedewozenmeyang？”nanshenghuida：“nixinggehenbucuoya，xiaoqilaihenqinqie。”

zheishihoushibushijiuyiweizheigenanshenghaoxiangduiwomenyouyisi？neijiudacuotecuole。

 qishizheijuhuadeqiantaicishi：“woduinimeiyouyijianzhongqingdeganjue，danbudaibiaowoduiniwanquanmeiyouxingqu，ershi‘woxianzaiduinixingqubuda，nihaixuyaojiabajing，zainulinuli’cainengxiyinwo。”

 zheiyangzishuo，dajiayinggaibunanlijieshenmeshinanrendeqiantaicileba，jiuhaoxiangnvrenjujuenanrenshibanfadehaorenka：“nishihaoren，nihuiyudaogenghaode”qishinanren，bingbushiwomensuoshuode“danyixiantiao”shengwu。

nanrenqiantaicidebenyishi“jibuxiangshanghaiwomen，danyouyaoweiwanbiaodazijideyisi”。

 jiuxiangdangwomenmianduizijixihuandenanrenshi，ziranjiuhuijinzhang、naoziyipiankongbai，huadoushuobuqingle，youzhongzhishangjisuxiajiangdeganjue。

 xiangfan，zaiyudaomeiyoutaiduoganjuedenanrenmianqian，womendezhishangjiuhuicengcengdiwangshangzhang，zhongxinzhanlinggaodi，nenggouhenhaozhengliyitaojibushangrenyoubuliuyudidehualaijujuenanren。

 nanrenqishiyeyiyang，danbutongdeshi，xiangneixie“wobuxihuanni”、“womenbuheshi”zhileidehua，duiyunanrenlaijiangshihennanshuochukoude。

 zaitamendeyanzhong，nvrenshiruoshiqunti，xuyaobeibaohu，zheixietaishangrendehuameiyoubanfashuochu。suoyia，dangyigenanrenxiangyaojujuenvsheng，henduoshihouyongdejiekoudouhuishi“wojuedewomenhaishizuopengyoubijiaohao”“nihenyouxiu”zhileide。

 bingshanlilunlizheimejiang：womensuonengzhiguankandaode，zhishibiaomianhenshaodeyibufen，jiwaizaixingwei。gengdadeyibufenneizaishijiezangzailegengshendecengci，buweirensuojian，qiarubingshan。

 biruxianzaiwangshangdereci——“shuijue”、“quxizao”、“hehe”，zaibiaomianshangkansishiyizhonghuiying，shizhidouyunhanletongyijuqiantaici“wobuxiangheniliaotianle，nidaraodaowole”。

 ruguozheishihou，womenhaishahuhudefanwenduifang“xiaoshenmeya？”、“zheimezaoshuijuea？”、“neiwodengnixiwan！”neikezhenshiyijianrangrentoutengdeshiqinga！

ruguowomenmeiyoubanfadudongnanrenhualideqiantaici，neimewomenzuochudefanyinghexingdongjiumeiyoubanfamanzunanrenneixindexuqiu。

 xiangyaodudongduifangdeqiantaici，huanyanzhijiushidudongduifangdeyanwaizhiyi，zhenzhuohualigengshenyicengdeyisi。womenbazheizhongjiaozuobianmahejiemanengli，qishikandejiushiqingshang，yejiushiwomenchangshuode“chayanguanse”。

jintian，womenjiuyiqilaiyanjiunanrenchangshuodeyixieqiantaici，congerbimiannvshengchuxianyixiangqingyuandeqingkuang。

一、拒绝的信号

1)wozhishibanidangchengwodemeimei

jihaorenkadejiqiaobujinduinvhaiyouhaochu，duinanhaiyeyouhaochu。

 chulesonghaorenka，nanshenghuisong“jiemeika”jinvsheng，huiduixiangzijibiaobaidenvshengshuo：“woyizhidoubanidangchengdewojiemeikandai。”

nanrenshuodezheijuhuadeqiantaicikenengjiushi：woxianzaiduinimeiyoushenmehaogan，nizaiwozheishiyigeduoyudeluntai-beitai。

2)“nihenhao”、“nihenyouxiu”、“nixinggehenhao”dengdeng

 nanrenhenishuozheixiehuadeshihou，qishishizaigaosuni：nishihenhao，henyouxiu，xinggehenhao，danxianzaidouhaibushiwodecai，muqianduinimeiyouxingqu，dengwoduiniyouxingqudeshihouwohuilaizhaoni。

3)woxianzaimeixinsitanlianai

 dangyigerenshuochu“woxianzaimeiyouxinsitanlianai”、“woxianzaihaibuxiangtanlianai”，90%doushiyinweiwomenbushineigeduideren，qishitazaijujuewomen，bingbushiyinweitabuxiangtanlianai。

 zheishihouwomenjiuyaoxuehuijizijizhaotaijiexia，buyaozaiquxunwenta“weishenmebuxiangtanlianai？”、“shiyudaoshenmeshiqinglema？”，zheidoushizaiweiwangaosuwomen：nibushiwodecai！

二、男人的免责信号

1)woshouguoqingshang，woyoudianbuxiangxinaiqingle。

henduonvshenggangrenshinanshengshi，bufennanshenghuizhudonggentashuo，zijibeiqianduanganqingshanghaiguozhileidehua。

 guniangmenkebuyaobeizheixiehuapianle，zheibushiweiboquwomendetongqing，ershitixingwomen：“ruguowozuoleshenmeduibuqinideshi，biruchugui、baofunvren，youhuozheheqianrenzhongwenjiuqing，qianwanbuyaoguaiwo，neishiyinweiwobeishanghaiguo，wobuganxin，suoyizhishixiangbaofueryi。”

 yibanzheizhongdoushiganqingjinglibijiaofengfudehuahuagongzishuodehua，tingtingjiukeyile，buyaodangzhen，fouzezuihoushoushangdehaishiwomenziji。

2)wobushiyigezhuanyideren，wohenhuaxin。

 youyixienanren，tabingmeiyouchengxinyaohewomentanlianaishenzhitanhunlunjiadeniantou，ruguowomenhetafashengguanxihoubuyongtafuzeren，neitashishifenleyi。

 zheishihou，tahuiduinvshengshuo：“qishiwoshigehuaxindenanren。”yisijiushi：ruguowojianglaizuochuduibuqinideshi，niyebuyaoguaiwo，woshiyoutiqianhenishuode。

3)wohenmang，pingshimeiyoutaiduodeshijian，zhoumokenenghuiyoukong。

 qianzaiyisijiushixianggaosuwomen：henibaochiqinmideguanxikeyi，danwobuxianghuazheimeduodeshijianzainishenshang，niyebuyaozongshuowobuhuashijianpeini，yaoshinitongyile，neijiuxiangdangyuwomenzuolegeqiyue。niyaoxingmudian，buyaoyoushimeishidezhaowo。

yishangsuoyoutaici，qishidouzai：wojiuzheiyangzile，nizijikanzhebanba，nengjieshounijiulai，jieshoubuleyeshinideshiqing。

三、试探底线

1)ruguoyihouwopituile，nihuizenmeban？

 zheizhongqingkuang，yibanhuichuxianzainvrenxiangnanyoutucaolingyigenanrenshi，liru：womenhenanyoutucaoguimidenanyouchuguile，kaishishitahuihewomenyiqiqianzeneigenanren，danzuihouhuibuchongyiju：ruguoyihouwopituile，nihuizenmeban？

zheijuhuakansiwuyidetiwen，shizhizheishiyijuzaishitanwomendui“chugui”derongrenduzaina，rangnanrenkeyizuohaonanie。

2)zheihenzhengchanga，nanrenbudoushizheiyangme？

 dangwomenjinanyoufawangshangdegezhonghaowuqiushengyudezhinancaozuoshi，takanguobingmeiyoubiaoshi，huozhehuiyingyiju：“zheihenzhengchanga，nanrenbudoushizheiyangme？”zheijuhuakanzhehaoxiangmeimaobing，shizhishishitanwomenduizheileishiqingdedixianzaina，haorangzijiyihouyudaolekeyizhidaozenmezuo。

四、告诉你想要往下发展

1)现在没有女朋友

zheijuhuahenmingxianjiushi：woxianzaimeiyounvpengyou，nihenhewodekouwei，wodengzhenilailiao，dengnilai，wojiuyounvpengyoule。

shuobailejiushi“nikuailailiaowo。”

2)woyexuyaoyourenlaizhaogu

 nanrendezheijuhuayibanshizaixiangwomenchuanda：“wohenlei，woyexiangyaoyougerenkeyirangwoyikaoyiyang，zaiwoleideshihoubaobaowo，honghongwo，xiwangnijiushineigeren”。

3)“woquzhaoni”、“zenmebujiedianhua”

nanrenshiyizhonghenhanxudeshengwu，changchanghuiyayizijideneixinqinggan，busuiyibiaolu，erhuihuanzuoqitadeyuyanbiaoda。

例如：

“woquzhaoni”——woxiangjiannile；

“zenmebujiedianhua”——woxiangnile；

“nishuilema？”——woxiangheniliaotian，xiangrangnipeipeiwo

……

 nanrenhaiyouhenduoqitadeqiantaici，biru“zaiwoyanlinibitapiaoliangyibaibei”——kenengjiushi“zhaoshihuidalenidewenti，nijiuhuishengqile”，zheidouxuyaowomenzijixixinfaxian。

 youdenanrenkouzhuo，shuoqihualaizheshimeiyoubanfayitaoyitaode，kenenghaizonghuiredaowomenshengqi，danzheidoushitadezhenqingshiyi，zhishibuzhidaozenmebiaoda。

 youdenanrenshuoqitianhua，rumuchunfeng，wanrujinruletangguoshijieyiban，qishitayejiushiweilehongwomenkaixin，boqunei“huimouyixiaobaimeisheng”。

 youxieqiantaicixuyaowomenxixizhenzhuo，danyouxieqiantaicishinannvzhijianwushangdayadeqingxu，haiyouyixieshiganqingzhongdezhutuiqihezhuranqi，nvrenshizaiwuxuguoyujijiao。

 womenbujinnengtongguo“qiantaici”laidudongnanrendeqianzaixuqiu，bingjiyumanzu，hainenggenghaodilejienanren，panduanzheigenanrenzhibuzhidewomenquai。

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