大表姐刘雯黯然单身的背后：想要脱单，离不开这5点

 zaizuixinyiqide《qiyurensheng》zhong，dabiaojieliuwentouluzijimeitanguolianai，zipuzijibadabufenshijiandouhuazaigongzuoshang，shengchenggongzuojiushitadenanpengyou，danhaishibeitongbanwuyichuozhongleidiandangchangluolei。

keshiheayaduchushi，dabiaojiedeyanshenquezangzhenanyiyanshideshiluo。tashuo：“haodefengjingmeirenfenxiangyehenjimo。”

 zhongrenbujinchijing，dabiaojieliuwenkeshidiyigeyazhoumotedengshang“weiduoliyademimi”neiyixiudewutai，2014nianzaifubusigongbudequanqiumoteshourubangzhong，yi700wanmeiyuanyumilanda·keer、kaitemosibingliedisan。

怎么才能拥有一段顺遂的长期关系呢？

 duiyuhenyouxiudenvshenglaishuo，suiranshijiehenda，danshixiangzhaodaoyigekeyiyiqikanfengjingderenhaishimeineimerongyi，wuyiyudahailaozhen，zhangwohaodefangfakeyigengkuaiyudaoneigezhitongdaohederen。

1、对感情投入时间和精力

 dabiaojiedanshenyihanrangrenxixu，keshiwomenbunanfaxian，tademeirixingchengguihuali，doushitonggao、zouxiuguanggaodengdeng，quannianwuxiu，dengyushuomeiyoushijianqutanlianai。

meiyoushijianjiushituodandewenti，meiyoushijianhudongqulejiebici，yixingyehennanfazhanchengpengyou。

 liuyanzaicengjingdeyicicaifangjiushuoguo，zijideshijiandouhuazaishiyeshang，suoyizijimeiyouzhaodaolingyibanhenzhengchang，bijingganqingshixuyaofuchushijianhejinglide。

 zheigeshijianhejinglibudandanzhideshi：zouchulairenshiyixing，ershiyaoyouyidinghudong，quhuashijianlejieliangxingxiangchuzhidao，zheiyangkeyijiasuzhaodaoneigeduideren。

 zhiyoujishaoshurencaihuidedaocongtianerjiangdexingfu，ouxiangjulibadaozongcaiyijianzhongqing，guangsuaishangbuqiyandenvzhuqiaoduanranghenduonvhaihuataiduoshijianquzuomeng，erbushitishengziji，fazhanyouxiaolianxiren。

 woyougepengyou，tashenbianzhaobudaoyouxiaolianxiren，gongzuotiantianjiaban996，meiyoukongyushijian，taguoduancizhiqulingyijiaitgongsimianshixingzheng，zhaodaolixiangbanlvzhihouhuangongzuo。

 kenengyouxierenjuedebukesiyi，danshizaitazheiliganqingshiyouxianxuanxiang，gongzuokeyisuishizhao，danshitakewangzaizuijinliangnianjiehun，neimechulefadongpengyouqinqijieshao，zuiyouxiaodefangfajiushiqudaogaojiazhinanshengduodedifang，zhaodaoheshideyizhongren。

xianzaidetajiehunshengzi，huanlegongzuo，riziguodeyoushengyouse。

meiyoubulaoerhuodeganqing，xianwenzijikeyinachuduoshaoshijianhejingliqushaixuannideyizhongren？

你愿意付出什么呢？

 zheibushixiangwomenbaogebanbeikao，kaoshangjiubuguanle，ershizhenzhengdetongguobicigoutong，querensanguan，yijigefangmianxinggexiguan，fazhanyiduanzhangqiguanxi。

2、创建有效联系人标签：有感，可约，单身

 youxieguniangkenengshuowoyeyoufazhanduixianga，danshitayoulaopole，bukenlihun，danshitagenbenyuebuchulai，woshuoyoukongma，tazhijiehuiwomeiyou。 qinggannantihenxinlei？10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan！

haiyoujialijieshaoyigegefangmiandajiadoushuohewoxiangpei，danshiwozhendehentaoyanduifangdeyangziwufajieshou。

yinweijimoercuoai，jiuhuiyinweicuoaierjimo。

weilexunzhaomr.rightwomenbixumingqueyouxiaolianxirendedingyi，sanzhongqueyibuke。

yougan：bujiandefeiyaoyijianzhongqing，kenengnikantabutaoyan，keyilejiekankanjiusuanshiyougan；

keyue：zuzhihuodongjiaodechulai，bujianyiyidilian、yiguolian，jianmianchengbentaigao；

danshen：zheigeshibiyaotiaojian，jiaocaintiaochuandezhananzaiyougankeyuedouyaolitamenyuanyuande。

biqizaimangmangrenhaizhong“zhaoyuanfen”，zaiyouxiaolianxirenzheigequntilisoudaolixiangbanlvxiaolvchaogao。

cankaowujingdangniangangtiezhinanzhuixienan，sanlianwen：

nijiehunlema？younanpengyouma？nishushenme？

wenshuxiangkeyishuoshinanshengdeyigexiaoxinjile，yinweinvshengduinianlinghenmingan，wenshuxiangsuanyixiajiuzhidaotaduoda。

 wujingfaxiandaandoufuhe，jiuanshengqingsububuweiyingquzhuile。erzaixienandejiaodukanwujing，yejuedetashiyouxiaolianxiren，jitajihuizhui，lianggerenhudongyiduanshijian，zuihouwujingqiuhunchenggongxijielianli，xianzaixingfudexianshapangren。

3、接纳自己

lengaishuoguo：yigerenzhenzhengdechengshu，shicongrengechengshukaishi，errengedechengshushicongduizijidelejiehejienakaishide。

 jienaziji，ganshoudaoneixinshenchudebanlvxuqiu，cainenggengkuaibangwomendaoxinlideneigeren，erbushizhaoyigebierenyanliheshideren。yinweiguanqimenguorizi，rurenyinshuilengnuanzizhi。

 linzhilingjiehunhongdongyulequan，nanfangakiramingqiburuta，yanzhizaiyulequanliyebugao，qianyeburutaduo，danshiduifangjitazuixuyaodeaiqing，tazaijiehunxuanyandexiaokapianshangxiedao：“xiwangmeigexiangxinaiqingdenihenidounengyongyoushuyuzijidexingfu。”

sheishuo45suibunengzhaoaiqingni，tazhenzhengzuodaoqianheyangmaowodouyou，nijiwoaiqingjiuhao。

jiusuanrenmeigaoqingshangrulinzhiling，tayezhidaorenbushishiquanshimeide，taxuanzelelingyibangengkanzhongganqingnongduhehudong。

 erwomenputongren，yefeiwanren，jienazijixiangyaozhaodebanlv，tongshijienaduifangdebuwanmei，zheigelianggerenzaiyiqideshijiqueshiganghaowanmei。

4、把提升落地到每一个具体的细节

 youxienvhaizijuedebierenjitajieshaoderendoukanbushang，xuanzetishengzijiquzhaolixiangbanlv，zheiyeshiyigetuodandebanfa，jiusuanmeiyouchenggong，zaizheigeguochengliyechengweilegenghaoderen。

 jihuishijiyouzhunbeideren，daduoshurentuodandewuqushi：tishengzhishiweilequyuelingyiban，qishitishengshiweilezijikeyiguodegenghao，yongyougenggaodebanlvxuanzequan。

changjiandewuqushi：woyaoyudaoyigezugouhaoderen，wozaijianfei、hufu、daban、tigaoqingshang。

qishiyouzhidelingyibanwangwangyaonitishengdaozugouyouxiucaiyuanyizoujinni。

 kenengyixierenyiweiziwotishengduiyunvshenglaishuojiushihuazhuang、daban、jianshen，qishineiwaijianxiucaishizhenglu。fouzekongyouhaokanderongmao，quefaxiuyanghediyun，nanshengjuedehenimeiyougongtongyuyan，yehennanxiyindaoyouxiudenansheng。

tebieshitigongqingxujiazhidenengli，shiwomenmeigerenyishengdegongke。

woyougepengyouxiaoluowulundaona，taqishizhangxiangbingbujingyan，jiajingyeputong，danshijiadehenhao，laogongchongtaxianggongzhu。

 tajianglezijixuexixintaixuezhishi，canjiakecheng，jiechuyouxiuderen，buduantishengzijixiuyang，zuoqingxudezhurenerbushibeiqingxuzhipei。

 yiqiantashineizhongxinggeneixiang，renxingaifaxiaopiqidenvsheng，houlaizaijiantashihou，buzhibujuewofaxianhetazaiyiqitebiekaixin，worenbuzhujingtantadegaibian，taxiaodao：“shibiesanridangguamuxiangdaiya。”

5、示弱

 nanshengzaizhuiqiunvshengzhiqianhuikaolvchenggonglv，taididekenengyagenbuganquchangshi。meimaoyucaihuayuyishendenvshengxuyaorangnanshengjuedeyoujihui，shiruojiushihenyouxiaodefangfa。

 ruguonishidabiaojieliuwenzheiyangdewanmeixingnvsheng，shidangdeshiruo，shifangyidiankedexing，napashidongtian，taohuayehuikaidezhengwang。

 yougeduanzishuodehao：“xiangyuyouhaogandenanshenghudong，zuijiandandefangfajiushizaitamianqianningpinggai，jiushiningbukai。”suiranshigeduanzi，qishijieshileyigedaoli，xuehuishiruo。

bushaonvhaizicongxiaoshoudaodejiaoyudoushi：jianqiangyonggan，weidujialishaole，shiruodeyike。

shanyuqiuzhu，renyurenzhijiandeganqingcaideyiliudong，“qiangzheshiruo，ruozhechengqiang。”

 qiuzhuyouhaogandenansheng，yifangmianrenkeletadenengli，lingyifangmianyouyouliyoujianmianhudong。xienanzuichuhewujingjiechudeshihou，yeshiqingtajiaozijiyitaofangshengongfu，houmiancaiyoulehudongjianmian，wujingyehenshouyongnvfangduitadechongbai。

 gudaisixianglaozishuoguo：“manchibucun，shetouyouzai”。yisishi：yachixuyingdantashoumingbuzhang；shetouxuruan，danshengmingligengqiang。

 youdenanshengtuwudixianghenvshengzhitijiechu，shiruozhenghaoshijujuedewuqi，“nihedaowole”，zheijukeyirangduifangyoubaohuyudetongshi，youaonaozijitangtujiarenle。

nvshengyaoxuehuibagangqiangxiezaixindibuwaixian，wenrouyishiren，yiroukegang。

jiyouqianyouzhimingduhaigao，dazhongyanliderenshengyingjiadangrudabiaojie，ranertadeyihanyeshiganqing。

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