导师精选：致命女人：远离消耗你的男人

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一、远离极端以自我为中心的男人

womenqufenxibaobodexintai，nihuifaxianbaobozheigerenshiyigefeichangyiziwoweizhongxinderen。

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二、远离你无法信任的男人

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三、远离严重大男子主义的人

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四、远离无法体会到你感受的男人

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