爱情秘籍：教你小作怡情的恋爱大法

 qianduanshijiandahuodemeiju《zhimingnvren》wanjiele，juqingweiraozhetongyidongzhuzhaizhankai。zhuyaoxushulezai1960niandai、1980niandaihe2019sangeshiduantongyizhuzhailibutongzhukedehunliangushi。

 sanweinvzhuxinggegeyi。2019niandetaileshigecongmingnenggandelvshi，tadezhangfushiyiweibianju，ranerzhengzhengliangniandoumeixiechuzuopinle，suoyitaileyibianchengshougongfangdejudayali，yibianhaiyaozhaoguzhangfudezizunxin，keyishuoshihen“dongshi”le。

 1963niandebeisi·anshigexianhuiwenroudejiatingzhufu，bajialidalidejingjingyoutiao，yiqieweiraozhangfu，shenzhizhiyaoqiaoqiaobeiyan，jiuxiangnvyongyiyangpaoguoqudaokafei。

 er1984nianxiaozhangrenxingde“zuonv”samoniwuyishizheisangenvzhuzhongzuirangrenxianmudeyiwei。samonishigemingyuan，tahezhangfukaerzhijiansuiranyeyouhenduoqipiandewenti，danzaiganqingzhong，tahaishishouhuolehenduopianai，shizheibujuzhongweiyide“tianmigouliang”。

youdepengyoukenenghuijuedemingmingtailehebeisi·anduidaibanlvgengjiayongxin，weishenmehuodezuishuangdeshizui“zuo”denvren？

suoyiwomenjintianjiulaitanyitan“zuo”dewenti。

一、过于懂事也是在破坏关系

1、buganzuo“huairen”，chuchupaduifangbugaoxingdeguanxishishulide、meiyouanquangande。

 zuoshishuohualiuqingmian，bawofencunshihaoshi，danshibuyunxuziji“zuohuairen”、buganzuodeguanxishishulide，quefaxinrenzhenchengde，meiyouanquangande。

youhenduoganshou、henduoxuqiu，kanqilaibuneimeweida，youxiezisi，budaibiaoneijiushibuduide。

qishi“zhimingnvren”zhong，wocongdiyijikaitoudeshihoujiujuedeguanxizuishuyuanshi2019detaileneiyidui。

 tailedejingjiyalihenda，danshitajuedezijibunengqucuiculaogong、jilaogongshiya，suoyitayizhizaiyayiziji，xunwenlaogongjubenjinzhandeshihouyeshixiaoxinyiyide。

 tamenfuzadesanjiaoguanxizhishibiaomianwenti，hexinwentishizheilianggerendebuzhenchengbuxinren，bicizhijiandejuliyuelaiyueyuancaishidedisanzheyoujikecheng。

2、weizhuangtaohaohuirangnibuzhibujuedepaichihuoyuanlibanlv。

nimingmingjiushiyouyuanqi，feiyaozhuangzuomeiyijian，meicuo，nihaoxiangshibu“zuo”le，dannibiande“zuozuo”le。

 weizhuangshihenleide，shijianjiule，nijiuhuijuedehenlei，jiuhuixuyaoyigefangsongdechuangkou，nikenenghuitaobibanlv，huozhesuzhuyudisanzhelaipinghengyali。

 tailejiushiyinweiyayiduizhangfudebuman，weizhuangdetaileier“aishang”lejiede，suoyiyouxierenchuguiyuzijibuhuizhenshibiaodaxuqiushiyouguande。

youderenhuishuotaileneiduibenlaijiushikaifangshiguanxia，dantailehuineimeqinjinjiedequeshishiweilepinghengyali。

3、yayibumanhuiyinfagengjiayanzhongdeyinxinggongji。

yejiushishuo，niziyiweinimeiyouzeguaiduifang，dannihuizaibujingyijiangongjidaoduifang，congerchanshenggengdadewenti。

 biru，youderenduidaibanlvkenenghuishuohuayinyangguaiqi、hulenghure；youderenkenengzijidoubuzhidaozijijingchangchouzheyizhanglian、taiduhenbuhao。

shenzhiyouderenyinweiguoduyayizijierkaishiziwogongji，zuizhongxianrutongku。

yinxingdegongjibimingzhegongjigengkepa，gengrangduifangbushuang；suoyihaiburuyikaishijiuzhenshidequbiaodazijidebuman。

二、“自私”的“作女”为什么能得到真爱？

henduolaifangzheyehuixiangwoqingsu，weishenmezijititiebaorongzuihouquehuibeigufu？

weishenmeyouxie“toulanzisi”tingzuodenvren，queguodeyouziyouweide？

ganqingzhongshibushizhende“sheirenzhenlesheijiushu”？

 qishibierenzenmeduidaini，shinizijiyunxude，nipaqichongtu，budongdezhenshibiaoda，yushibierenjuedezheiyangduidainishikeyide。

 nibunengrongrenzijibeidangzuo“huairen”，wanshidouzhuiqiuhejie，shengpabierenduiniyouyijian，buduantaohao，yushibierenjuedenishimeiyoudixiande。suoyiniyuelaiyuelei，debudaolijieyuguanhuai。

neime，hui“zuo”denvrendaodiyoushenmemeilini？

1、hui“zuo”denvrenbijiaorongyiherenchanshengshendulianjie。

 biru“qingshenshenyumengmeng”zhongdefuwenpeihenshanliangbaorong，danshixiaoxinjinshen、quefaziwo；nihuijuedetashigehaonvren，danhennanhezheiyangderenchanshengshencenglianjie。

 guoyu“dongshi”shihenshulide，zhenzhengguanxihaodejiemeizaiyiqi，henduoshihoudoushihuduide“sunyou”，bingbuhuikekeqiqidepadezuiduifang。

2、hui“zuo”denvrenwangwanggengjiayouzhenshide“renqingwei”。

 yuebuzixinderenyuexiangyaodedaosuoyourendexiaiyurenke，tamenhuijuede，ruguoziji“zuo”le，bierenjiubuxihuanzijile，suoyizongshixiaoxinyiyide。

wohuifaxian，zheiyangderenzaichangshizuoyigeshen，erbushiyigezhenshideren。

 heyigedongshibuzuodeshenzaiyiqi，niyededuanzhe，fenweiqingsongbuqilai，jiuhuihenlei。heyigezhenshilingdongderenzaiyiqi，nihuijuedeqingsong，yinweinibubiheduifangtaikeqi，niyebeiyunxuzuoziji。

3、hui“zuo”denvrenwangwanglingdongzhenshiyouqingdiao。

 taiguodongshidenvrendaduokebanwuqu、meiyoulinghun，dajiakenenghuinianzhetadehao，danshihetazaiyiqibingbuhuigandaoqingsongyuyue。

jiuxiang“zhenhuanchuan”zhongdeshenmeizhuang，duanzhuangdafanggengjiataopopoxihuan，biqizhenhuanquequefanverjiadeqingdiao。

 youderenyexuhuishuo，meizhuanghenshihedanglaopoya，wojuederangzijiguodexingfuzheijianshi，nidexiankaolvzenmezuoziji，zenmezuoweiyigeren，ranhoucaishidanglaopo。

dangranle，tai“zuo”jiuguoyujiuchanle，suoyixiaozuoyiqing，haidedongdefencun。

三、如何“小作怡情”？

1、zhengmianzhijiedebiaodabuman

shuangkuaidian，jiyinyangguaiqi，fengciwaku；buyaodengzheduifangcaixin，jiushilunshi，zhijieshuangkuaidebiaodachunalibuman。

2、lianpiyaohou，xijingyoumo，nengqunengshen

ganyubiaodabuman、ganyutiyaoqiu，ruguoduifangbumaizhangyenengshunzhetaijiexialai，meiyoutaijieyenengjizijizaotaijiexia。

birushualai、gezhiduifangnaoyangyang，“xiaochuichuichuixiongkou”dajixiaqiayiba，zaisajiaohefukuadechennuzhongziyouqiehuan。

3、jiaoduifanghongni，jianhaojiushou

 zhudongjiaoduifanglaihongni，erbushiyiweidengzheduifanghongni，zhiyaobushidawentijianhaojiushou，buyaorangduifangjuedenishihongbuhaodenvsheng。

ruguoniyizhizuoxiaqu，neiduifangyihouyebuyuanyihongnile，yinweimeiyonga。

 biru，womenkeyishuo，“wobugaoxingle，buxing，nikuailaihonghongwo，buranwogennimeiwan”。duifanghongwanle，womenkeyiaojiaodeshuo“zheihaichabuduo，aini，guai”。

 chenxiaochundelaopoyingcaieryinwei“qizidelangmanlvxing”zheigejiemuhuole，henduopengyoujiuhewoshuo，juedechenxiaochundelaopoyingcaierbijiaonengzuo，piqineimeda，weishenmehainengbatongyangbaopiqidechenxiaochunchidesisideni？

 qishiwomenhuikandao，caiersuiranpiqibuhao，dantahenshuangkuaibuhuishengmenqi，zhendeshinengqunengshendexijingbenjing，erqietayeshiyoufencunde，huijianhaojiushou。

 biru，youyicijiemuzuwenyingcaier，duixianzaidehunyinyoumeiyoushenmebumanyide。caierjiukaiwanxiaosajiaoshuo“shenghuobugououxiangju”，pangbiandechenxiaochunmashangshuo“gaijiaba”，zheizhongqingkuangyouxienvshengkenenghuijuedelaogongzaijiemushangzheiyangshuobutaijimianzile，huiduqi；danyingcaiermashangbaichuyifuhenfukuadejingyadebiaoqing，feichangyoumoyouqu。

 suoyizuizhongyaodeqishishineixindeanquangan，dangchenxiaochunshuo“gaijiaba”，yingcaiermeijuedezheishibochiletademianzi，yemeijuedezheishiduitadefouding，suoyitahuiyibijiaoqingsongdexintailaichuli。

youdepengyoukenenghuijuedechenxiaochunyeshikaiwanxiao，danyedeyingcaierzheigerenkaideqiwanxiaocaixing。

 qishi，henduodifangkeyikanchulaiyingcaierqueshijiushizheiyangdexingge，napaduifangzhenderezijishengqile，caierdechulifangshiyehuibijiaoshuangkuai，buhuixianrudao“nijiushibuzaihuwo”zheizhongmeianquangandesiweizhong。

 biruchenxiaochunheyingcaierdaoqianshuo“sorryge”，bijiaolansanfuyan，yingcaierjiuhenjianjiepoladeduihuiqu“sorrymeiyou‘ge’！”jiushilunshi，feichangshuangkuaigancui。

 suoyixiaozuoyiqingzuizhongyaodebingbushizenmequ“zuo”dehuashufangfa，ershi，dangduifangmeiyoumanzunideqingganxuqiudeshihou，buyaobazheigedangzuoshiduinizhenggerenjiazhihuozhemeilidefouding，yebuyaoyinweigebiedexiaoshijiuwuduandefoudingtaduinideganqing。

zheiyang，nicaihuiyou“xiaozuoyiqing”dezixinxin，cainenggengqingsongyoumodebiaoda。

youpengyouwenwo，ruguoyujianle《zhimingnvren》zhongdetailedeleisiwentigaizenmeban？

ruguoxiangbanlvbaoyuanlebuman，duifangjuedehenshoushang，fanguolaizhizewomenbugoulijietazenmeban？

woxiangshuodeshi，dangniqueshiwufabaorongdeshihou，zhenshidibiaodabumanshidexuanze，zheiyangnenggoubimianshengchugengzaogaodewenti。

 ruguozheishihoubanlvfanguolaizhizewomen，womenkeyigaosuta：qinaide，woainishizhende，danzheibingbuyiweizhe，wojiubunengyoumaiyuannideshihou。

ruguolaogonghaishihenyouqingxu，neijiupeitachaojiju。

 jiankangdeguanxibushizhiyouxiangqinxiangai，haodeqinmiguanxijiushihuicunzai“xiangaixiangsha”deshihou。dangnimenbuzaiganhuxiangbiaodafumianqingxu，neizheiduanguanxiyekuaijiejinweishengle。

dangranle，wobingbuxiwangdajiameiyoujiezhidequzhizebaoyuan。chaojiakeyi，“zuo”yekeyi，danbaorongyeshihenxuyaode。

作者|杨夏