【冷爱原创】吸引力指南——你想成为一个魅力非凡的人吗？

很多人都希望成为一个有吸引力的人，但却很少有人知道吸引力究竟是什么。

 zaiwokanlai，guanyuxiyinlidezuicubaozuijiejinbenzhideyigejieshishi：“xiyinlishizhijiejianglidezonghezhi。”zaizheilimian，youlianggeguanjianci：jiangli、zhijie。

 shouxian，womenxianlaifenxijiangli，shiyinweitashilianggecizhongdegenji。tongsudishuo，zheilisuoshuodejiangli，shijishangshiyizhong“tigongjiazhideyiyuan”chanshengzuoyongdejieguo。weilefangbianlijie，wobachangjiandejiazhifenchengyingjiazhiheruanjiazhiliangdaleilaimiaoshu。

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 duiyuruanjiazhi，womenyouhenduozhongrenzhifangfa，liruwomenchuantongsixianglimiandeshierzhong“ren、yi、li、zhi、xin、zhong、xiao、ti、jie、shu、yong、rang”，meiyizhongdoukeyizuoweiyigeweiduqukan。youlirusailigemanxianshengsuotideliuzhong：“zhihuiyuzhishi 、yongqi 、renai、zhengyi、jiezhi 、jingshenzhuoyue ”，zheishiyigekuawenhuadeyanjiu，meizhongxiamianyoukeyihuafenruogandian。

 dabufenrensuoyongyouderuanjiazhi，jingguoxuexihoukeyizaihenduanshijianneijiunengbeiziwoganzhi，danshitamenhennanbeikuaisuzhanshi。liru，jiashexiaomingshiyigeyongganderen，duiyuyigelurenlaishuo，guanchazheiyidianshifeichangkunnande，yibanxuyaoshijianlaituidong。zaijiashe，xiaominggenlurenyiqizaizuogongjiaoche，zheishihouhuranchuxianleyigexiaotou，qitarenxiushoupangguan，erxiaomingfenyongshangqiannuliqinzei，neimezheishihoucaikenengbijiaorongyizhanshichuyonggan。

 wulunzenyang，womentongguoyingjiazhiheruanjiazhidefenxi，zhishaodazhizongjielejiazhishizenmehuishi。neimezaijiexialai，womenzhongyukeyigaoqingchujianglidelaiyuan：tarenxiangnitigongdejiazhi。lirushuo，xiaomingkenengxiangnitigongdejiazhibaohanleyingjiazhiheruanjiazhi。jiashe，xiaomingshigegaofushuai，nigentazuopengyoudehua，takenenghuixiangnitigongshengcunjiazhibaokuodanbuxianyuqingniquchifan、lvxing、songniliwudengdeng；zaijinyibu，ruguonihetajiehundehua，yexuyehuishenggeyougaoyoushuaidebaobao；zaijiashe，xiaomingshigeyongganderen，neimenimenyiqiyujiandaitudeshihou，tahuitingshenerchubaohuni，shenzhibuxixishengziji。。。

zongdelaishuo，zheixie“tigongjiazhideyiyuan”，doushijiangli。

suoyishouxianlaishuo，jianglizheigeguanjianci，juedinglexiyinlidejibenmian。

qici，qianwentijidelingwaiyigeguanjianci“zhijie”，zechengweitarenganzhixiyinlidaxiaodeguanjian。

 liru，haishineigetongyangdexiaoming，tashigaofushuai；ruguobatadelanbojini、baidafeilimeishou，huanshangyitaojianzhugongrendefuzhuang，gengongrenmenganshangyigexiatian，kongpacongyiqunjianzhugongrenlimianshibiechutadejiazhiyebuneimerongyi。youliru，haishineigetongyangdexiaohong，tashibaifumei，ruguomeishoutadeshoushi、xiongzhao、gaogenxie，buxuhuazhuang，pishangmougezuijiduanjiaopaidedaheizhangpao，kongpanicongyiduidaheipaolimianzhaochusheishixiaohongdouchengweiwentile。

 dangran，yishangjulidoushijiduanqingkuang，xianshishenghuowangwanghuifuzadeduo。julijianhuafenxi，zhuyaoshiweilejieshixiyinlishishenme，congheerlai。

 neime，weishenmerenyurenzhijiandexiyinliweishenmeyoutianrangzhibie？youderenmeilifeifan，youderenquezongbeihulve；womenhaishicong“zhijie”he“jiangli”zheiliangguanjiancirushou，huidaoxiaomingzheigelizi。

 cong“zhijie”zheigecengmianlaishuo，jiashexiaomingzhendezaigongcheshangqinzei，lurendoufaxianlexiaominghenyonggan。danshixiaomingzheigezhanshideguochengchengbentaigaole，takenenghuishoushang，yekenengbeitongsi。yushirenmenfamingleyigehaofangfalaizhanshiruanjiazhi：jianggushi。xiaomingkeyizairenshixiaohongdeshihoushuo，shangciwozaigongjiaocheshangpengdaoyigezei。。。kexideshi，jianggushidenengligeyougaodi，zaijiashangrenleiyoujingchangsahuang，suoyirenmenduiruanjiazhidepandingyebushineimerongyideyijianshiqing。

cong“jiangli”zheigecengmianlaishuo，youliangdian。

第一点，对待价值发展要有不同思路。

 gaibiannisuonenggaibiande，jieshounisuobunenggaibiande。yingjiazhiyoudianxiangmutongxiaoying，zuidideneikuaibanzijuedingleninengzhuangduoshaoshui；ruanjiazhiyoudianxianghelijiqun，zuigaodeneigeyoushijuedingleninengbeiduoshaorenfaxian。suoyi，tishengjiazhideguanjianzaiyuchixujianshibinggaishanyingjiazhilimiannenggaishandepingjing，xunzhaoruanjiazhizhongdejizhiyoushibingchixufahui。

 liru，jiashexiaomingshigeaiqiongcuo，takeyichuanzenggaoxie，takeyinulifendounulizhuanqian，tahaikeyigaishanziwoxingxiang。zheigegaibian，zaiyutishengyingjiazhipingjing。youliru，xiaomingfaxianzijishigeyongganderen，danshibuneimemingan，neime，tayinggaixuanzeneixiegengzhuzhongyongqidezhiye，xuehuigengjialeguandikandaizheigeshijie，zheijiushifahuiyoushi。

第二点，努力改善提供价值的意愿。

 haishihuidaogaofushuaixiaomingneili。jiashetahenkou，suirantahenyouqian，danshitagenxiaohuobanmenchuquconglaidoushitaodan，yiqiwanlianaadoubuken，neimetaxianranshiyigemeiyouxiyinlideren。jiashetaxinggebutaihao，suirantahenshuai，danshitaduiyangmutadenvshengshuo，huiquzijizhaozhaojingzi，nvdiaosihaixiangchitianerou！neime，tadexiyinlixianranjiangdile。

 suoyi，yigerenyongyoujiazhidaxiaosuiranshijibenmian，danshiyaozhuanhuachengjianglideshihou，haidekan“tigongjiazhideyiyuan”。fuyougenpinqiongbingbunengwanquanjuedingyigerendexiyinligaodi，yigefeichangkangkaidezhongchanjieji，biyigejidulinsedefurengengyouxiyinli，yinweiqianzhedetigongyiyuangengqiang，jiangligengduo。tongyang，meichouyebushiwanquanjuedinglexiyinligaodi。congzhangqiguanxidejiaodukan，yigetaiduyouhaofeichangshanliangdeputongguniang，yaobijiansuankebochongmanfunengliangdemeinvgengjuyouxiyinli。

 zongdelaishuo，renyurendexiyinligaodi，zaiyunixiangtarentigongzhijiejianglideduoshao。youderenmeilifeifan，neishiyinweitamentigongdezhijiejiangliduo；youderenzongbeihulve，neishiyinweitamentigongdezhijiejianglishao。gaoqingchuzheidian，ziranhuimingbaizaishenmeyangdechangheyinggaishuoshenmeyangdehua、chuanshenmeyangdeyifu、zuoshenmeyangdeshiqing。

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