老师精选：女生在约会初期为什么要适当地迟到？

　　nanrendouhuichuguiduibudui？zheizhongqingkuangyinqilepubiandefenqiyuyanjiu。youxierenrenweinanrendeshenglixuyaocushichuguibianchenglezaisuonanmiankeguanshishi，erlingyixierenzechanshulezerenxinhedaodeguanniandebiyaoxing。budebuchengren，chuguizaixiandaishehuizaoyixiyiweichang。danshi，shibushiquanbunanrendouhuichuguihaiyaoyijuziwodexuqiulaishenrufenxi。buguanzenyang，zheiyiwentiyinqileduilingyibanguanxihexingzhongshidetansuo，zhaohuanzherenmenduibicizhijiandechengxinhegoutongjiaoliudegenggaodeyaoqiu。

　　nanrendechuguizhuangkuangyizhishiyigebaoshouzhengyiheguanzhudewenti。shijishang，bingbunengyigaierlundeshuo“nanrendouhuichugui”，yinweizheigeqianshedaogerendeguannian、daodeguannianherenshengjinglidengzhuduoyaosuzongheweihai。

　　情绪失望：当爱情遇上平平淡淡

　　nanrendouhuichuguiduibudui，hunyinshenghuoerzhangqideairenguanxitongchanghuiqinshenjingliqingxushangxindehuanjie。zaishenmiganxiaoshizhihou，bicizhijiandeguanxihenyoukenengyuelaiyuepingdanfawei，zheishihounanrenchuguidexiangfahuizengjia。tamenzhuiqiucijihexinreqing，changshimibuneixindekumen。danshi，bingfeisuoyoudenanrendouhuiyichuguilaimianduiqingxushiwang，youderenhuitiaoxuangenjuzhongxinsikaoguanxi、jinxingjiaoliuhetanxungongtongdegerenaihaolaibaochiaiqing。

　　重获新生：心有余悸诱惑

　　youyixienanrenchuguinenggoumanzuzishenhaoqixinliposhi，huozhexunmizhonghuoxinshengdehaojihui。tamenyexutihuidaozhewufayizhideneixinchongdong，xiangchangshixinxiandecijideyouxiqinshenjingli。danshi，bingbuyiweizhemeiyigenanrendouhuituoxieyuzheileiyinyou。youderennengtongguoziwodiaokonghezikongnenglilaiyizhineixindexiangfa，keshouzuorendedixianhefuwuchengnuo。

　　心理需要：没有安全感和自我认可

　　chuguigerenxingweiyeyoukenenglaiyuanyugerenneixindebuanheziworenkedequeshi。nanrenyoushiyehuigenjuyutarenguanxiqumanzuneixindexuyao，qiuanweiherenke。danshi，bingfeisuoyounanrendouhuitiaoxuanchuguiqumanzuzheizhongxuqiu，youderenhuixunzhaogengyouxiaolvdexingshilaitigaozijidezizunxinhechengjiugan。

　　社会现状：文化思想与社交圈子危害

　　shehuixianzhuanghaiduinanrendechuguizhuangkuangchanshengyidingdeyingxiang。yixiewenhuasixiangheshejiaoquanzideguanniancushinanrengengweihuixianruchuguidejudongzhong。danshi，bingbushimeiyigenanrendouhuizaoshouzheileishehuixiaoyingdecaozong，youderenhuijianchizijidebiaozhunhesixiang，zhuixunchixudexingfu。

　　nanrendouhuichuguiduibudui，zongeryanzhi，genbenwufajiandanlaishuo“nanrendouhuichugui”，youyuzheizhongqingkuangxuyaokaolvgebiechayihegezhongyinsuzongheganrao。nanrenshibushichuguizaiyutadedaodeguannian、renshengjinglijiqiduilingyibanguanxigaoduzhongshiyuweihudexintai。jianlilaogudeairenguanxi，bicibixuxianghuzunzhong、goutongjiaoliuyuzunzhong，yitongnulichuangzaowanmeideaiqing。