冷爱理论：如何运用同理心解决情感问题

　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，zaiqingganshenghuozhong，nvrenchuguishizuilingrenwanxideshizhiyi，dantamenjingchangchoumeibuzhanshizhi，yidanbeifaxianle，nanrenbianyishenmeyangdefangshikaizhanbaofu。zheileihaipaqianzangzaixinli，ducuzhetamenweichizhongshi。youyunvrengaoqingchu，nanrendebaofuyoushiyehuiwanquandakuatamendeshenxinjiankang，bulunshigenjuyanci、gerenxingweihuoshiduozhongfangshi。nvrenchuguizhihouzuidanyoudeshinanrenkeyiduitamendeshenghuodaozhishenmewufawanhuizaochengdeshanghai，zheileihaipashenshendidianranletamendexinling，cujintamensisuodaodizhibuzhidebeipandedaijia。zhongjiu，padejiushinanrenbaofusuodailaidewuqionghouhuimoji。

　　对策

　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，kefudelumian：nvrenchuguizhihouxunzhaoxiufuduiceyufangzhibaofudexingshi

　　bansuizheshidaidebianhua，hunwailianchanshengdecishuyezhubuzengjia，nvrenwaiyubianchengxianshizhongyizhongzhuangkuang。danshi，nvrenchuguizhihoujiaodadejiaolvshinanrenjiangcaiyongnazhongfangshibaofutamendepanbiangerenxingwei。yiner，nvrenjingchangshenxiansisuo，zenyangtianbuyufangzhibaofu，yizhonggouyubanlvzhijiandeguanxi。

　　在信任中创建振兴之桥

　　nvrenchuguizhihou，zaisuonanmianduiyuganqingzaochengzizehouhuimoji。tamengaoqingchubaofukenengzaochengbanlvxianghuguanxigengweifensui，yinerxunzhaoxiufulumianjiuhuibiandezhiguanzhongyao。chuangjianxiubudechuangkoubixugenjuyouxiaodegoutonghexinren，nvrenyingdangjiandingdiyubanlvyichengxiangdai，chengrenzijiguoshi，bingbiaoshitongyiqinfentianbu。

　　挽回方法：更改本身，重构关联

　　weilenengwanliubanlvxin，nvrenchuguizhihoubixucongxinlizhujiansikaoyugaibianxianzhuang。tamennenggenjusuzaojijizhudongpinzhihexiguanxing，zaiciyingzaogerenxingxiang，jibanlvliuxiashenkeyinxiang。yucitongshi，jijikaizhangongtongdegerenaihao，yiqichengzhangheganshou，yitigaoxianghuzhijiandechuanqizhifuchengxu。

　　心理辅导：复建内心深处的牢固碉堡

　　nvrenchuguizhihoumianlinneixinshenchudetongkuyuzhengtuo，zheishihouxunzhaoxinlifudaodezhichishishifenzhongyaode。jishuzhuanyexinlizixunshinenggoubangzhutamenshulixinxu，zhangkongqingxu，congergenghaodichuliyubanlvjiandenanti。genjuzixun，nvrenkeyifujianneixinshenchudelaogudiaobao，zhongshizixinyuzaibanlvganqingzhongdejingzhundingwei。

　　重构信任：时间和行为的证实

　　xinrenshibanlvguanliandezhongyaoqianti，nvrenzaichuguizhihoubixutongguoshizhangyuxingweilaifujianxinren。zheijiuxuyaonvrenzhanshichuziyidechengxinyunuli，genjujianchibuxiedezhuyaobiaoxian，zhengmingzijigenggaihejinlifangzhixiangjincuowu。yucitongshi，nanrenyeyaojiyubaoronghezhichi，gongtongfendouchuangjianqigenglaoguzhijiandeguanxi。

　　防止报复：思考问题的根源

　　weilenengcongyuantoushangfangzhibaofudechansheng，nvrenyaoshendusikaopanbianweifaxingweideyuangu。tamenyingdangsikaobenshenshifoucunzaibumanyihuoquefadejingshenxuqiu，binghebanlvkaizhanpingdengjiaoliu。genjuchuliwentidebenzhi，nvrengengkeyifangzhishenxianzaicichuguidedibu，fangzhibanlvcaiyongbaofuxingwei。

　　确定将来：彻底改变关联主要参数

　　nvrenwaiyuqinshenjinglihuanjiezhong，xuyaohebanlvchedigaibianguanlianzhuyaocanshu，quelibicideqidaihedaodedixian。keyijiecijihui，fuqiliangrennenggoutaolunxianghuzhijianyaoqiu，shangyizhidingshiyibiciguizeheliyi，yifangzaidushenxianwaiyudekunjing。zheizhongchedigaibianyouliyulaogubanlvguanlian，tigaobicizhijiandexinrenhexianghulijie。

　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，nvrenwaiyujinguankenengdailaipohuaihetongku，danjijiyubanlvgongtongfendou，xunzhaoxiufugenggai，nenggoufujianguanliandezhongyaojichuxinren。nvrenyinggaizhidao，fangzhibaofuzuizhuyaode，shipingjiezijidexingweijiyubanlvdexiezuo，yitongzhuixunxingfuhezhangjiudeganqing。