冷眼观爱：技巧用多了，还能动真感情吗？

　　laogonghewodixifuchuguizaban，danglaogonghewodixifudechuguiluchushuimianshi，dajiamianlintongkuyuyihuo。cicizaisuonanmianbeipanbudanchangshilezheiduanhunyin，yejielulejiatingzhongyixiliewenti。mianduizheiyangdezhuangkuang，womenyinggaishenkelijiebingmianduizijideqingxu。yucitongshi，jianjuecaiyongshiyidexingwei，rugoutongjiaoliu、xunzhaojishuzhuanyexiezhu，yizhonggouxinrenhexiufuguanxi，baituozheiduanganqingkunjing。

　　beipandekuchu：hunyinyujiatingdekunjing

　　发觉不可忽视的背叛

　　laogonghewodixifuchuguizaban，zaiwobujingyifaxianlaogonghewodixifujiandehunyinguanxishi，wogandaojingya、shiwanghexintong。zheileichuguibudanshanghailewobenrendeaiqing，bijiaoyanzhongdisunhaileyigejiatingdexinrenzhangqiwending。wojiubeikunraozheyigewenti：mianduizheileibeipan，wogaizenmezuo？

　　面对内心深处的问题疑惑

　　zuichu，woshenganshenshendineixinmaodun。woyifangmianxiangyaoyuanliangwodelaogong，jingyingaiqingdeyitihua；lingyifangmian，youmeifazhishenzheiyichangbeipandeyinmaizhong。dixifudewaiyuyeshiwojuedeshiwanghezaodongbuan，woruhemianduizheiyiyigejiatingdekunjing？

　　了解情绪，婚姻生活左右为难

　　zaizheiyangyigejinyaoguantou，woyidingyaoduizijideqingxujinxingquanfangweiderenzhi。womenxuyaoqingchuzijiduiganqingdeqixudaodedixian，binglizhidipingdinghaiyoumeiyouxinrenhefujiandegailv。mianduicicibeipan，womenxuyaotanxunningjinghepingjing，sisuohunyinshenghuohaiyoumeiyouzaiciqijiazhi。

　　沟通与商议的必要性

　　weijiejuezheiyijiatingweiji，goutongyushangyishishifenzhongyaode。wobudebuzhenchengdihewodezhangfuhedixifujinxingjiaoliu，lejiezijidedongyinheneixinshenchudezhengtuo。yucitongshi，wojiubixubiaodazijitongchufennu，zhengdebicizhijiandelijieyuzhichi。

　　寻找技术专业协助，复建关联

　　mianduizheibanfuzaerbeishangdezhuangkuang，xunzhaojishuzhuanyexiezhushishifenzhongyaodeyibu。yikaohunyinzixunshihuoxinlizixunshizhuanyezhidao，nengbangzhuwomenshulifujianguanliandeliuchengyufangfa。gengzhuanyedeshiyongkeyibangzhuwomenjiejuexinliwenti，xunzhaohenyoukenengjiejuefangan。

　　重构信任，修复婚姻

　　xinrenshihunyinshenghuodezhongyaoqianti，danyidanbeibeipan，fujianxinrenyuelaiyuefeichangjiannan。danshi，zaijinglibeipandekuchuhejiujiehou，womentongguoshizhang、chengxinyunulilaimanmanzhonggouxinren。chuangjianjiankangyuzhenchengdejiaoliufangshi，gongtongfendouxiufuhunyinzhongshoushangyibufen。

　　面对实际，探寻自己的爱情

　　buguanzuihoudejieguozenyang，wobudebushikelaojizijideaiqingheneixinshenchudebixu。zaimianduijiatingweijishi，wogaijizijishezhidaodedixian，fenbianhunyinshenghuoshibushihaifeichangzhidezaiciyunying。youshi，fangshouyeshiyizhongbaituohezaicikaishidekaishi。

　　结束语

　　laogonghewodixifuchuguizaban，mianduilaogonghewodixifudewaiyu，womenyinggaijiandingdimiandui，yilixingheyongqixunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa。bulunshixiufuhunyinhaishixuanliqu，zuizhongyaodeshiyaozhongshizijidexiangfayuxuqiu，rangzijideaiqingbianchengzuihoudezhuixun。