老公不疼婆婆不爱，懂得自保的女人如何做到情绪稳定？

 zuijinlilizonggenwoshuo，zijigongzuoyalida，jiatingfenweihaihenbuhao，zhangfuchengtianbanyehuijia，zijihepopozaiyuerlinianshangyouyouhendadechayi，ganjuejinnianshenmebuhaodeshidoujitayushangle。

tajingchangshenyeyigerenkuqi，shangbanshiyeouerhuiqingxubengkui，yongtadehuashuo：“danweilisuoyoumeirendejiaoluowodoukuguo！”

 tamiaohuizijilixiangdezhuangtaishi：“woxiwangzijideqingxukeyiyizhibaochiwending，congbushitai，woyaozuoyigeqingxuyongyuanbubengkuideren！”

wojiuzhengta：“qingxuwendingbushiyongyuanbubengkui，nibushixiangbazijibianchenglengxuedejiqirenba？”

tamangrandikanzhewo，sidongfeidong……

 yezhengshiyouzheigeqingkuang，rangwoxiexialezheipianwenzhang，hedajiafenxiangyigechengshuderen，shiruhebaochizijideqingxuwendingde？youzenmequdiaojiezijidefumianqingxude？

一、什么是情绪稳定性？

 qingxuwendingxing(emotional stability)zhideshirenmenzaiyingduiyaliqingjingshi，rengnengbaochiqingxupingwendenengli。

 ruguoyigerenyoujiaoqiangdeqingxuwendingxing，budaibiaotabuhuijinglifumianqingxu，zhishitayougenghaodeqingxudiaojienengli，nengrangfumianqingxubuhuisunhaigongzuochanchu、renjiguanxideng。

jidajiajigecankaobiaozhun。yigeqingxujiaoweiwending、diaojiezishenqingxunenglijiaoqiangderen，youyixiasigetezheng：

(1)gengrongyiyizhizhuanzhuyushixianmubiao。

 jugelizi，danggongzuochucuobeizhichuhou，qingxuwendingzhenengjixuzhuanzhuyudangqiangongzuo，erqingxuwendingxingdiderenzekenengfanfudizize，ershiqugongzuodongli。

(2)gengnengkongzhizijidechongdong。

buhuizaichuxianfumianqingxushizuochongdongde、guojidexingwei。

biruhejiafanggoutongshi，buhuiyinweitaicuobaierkouchueyan，yingxianggoutongxiaoguo。

(3)yougenggaodeqingganqingxidu。

 nengqingxidibianrenzijiganjuedaodeqingxu，erqingxuwendingxingchaderen，wangwangjiangbuchuganshoudaoqingxudejuti，zhinenglongtongdishuo“nanshou”huo“kongxu”。

(4)nenggenghaodijieshouzijideqingxufanying。

biru，buhuiyinweiyoufumianqingxuergandaoxiuchi、zizehuodanyou，buhuirenweiziji“buyinggaiganshoudaofumianqingxu”。

qingxuwendingxingdexingchengyuyuanshengjiatingdemoshihehoutiandechengzhanghuanjingmibukefen。

 duiyuzhangqichuzai“buanquan”dejiatinghuoshejiaohuanjingderenlaishuo，tamenhuichixushoudaohuanjingzhongqitarenduitamenqingxudeyingxiang(birufumupinfanchaojia)，beidongdijinruqiangliedeqingxubodong，zhangjiuyiwang，daozhitamenduizishendeqingxudiaojiewunengweili，zaiqingxuchanshengshibuzhisuocuo，youhuoshixiguanyongbuchengshudefangshiyingduiqingxu，danchundijiangqingxufaxiechulai。

二、情绪不稳定的人，缺乏这两点

(1)quefayingduiqingxudejiqiao

莉莉曾经和我说过：

 “wocongxiaojiujingchangmudubamachaojia，babazabeizishuaiyizi，mamadajiaonigemeiliangxinde！youshihouzhanhuoshenzhimanyandaowoshenshang……jianjiandi，woxuehuiwushizheixie，zhuanxinxuexi。

 shangdaxuezhihou，wojiaolediyigenanpengyou，hetazaiyiqihenkaixin，danyiyouzhengzhi，wojiuhuomaosanzhang，kongzhibuzhuzijidepiqi。

 wozhidaoneiyangbudui，danwoyehenwunai，conglaimeiyourenjiaowochuleqiangliedeqingxufaxiehebaoli，hainengyongshenmelaijiejueneixindechongtu。

 buguonanpengyouhenbaorongwo，tameicidouhewojiangdaoli，changshihewogoutong。jingguohenduoci，wozhongyuzhujianyishidao：yuanlaibufapiqi，wentiyekeyigoutongjiejue！”

yaoyongyouwendingdeqingxu，womendezhaodaoheshidefangfa。

dangniganjuenideqingxuhennanwendingshi，shuomingxuyaoxuexijiqiao。heqitadejiqiaoyiyang，buduandichangshiheshijiancainenggengyouxiao。

bufanghebierengoutong，congbierenneixiquhaodejingyanhejiqiao，zheishizhongzhongzhizhong！

(2)quefaanquande“bifenggang”

 zhumingdexintaixuejiayuehan·baobitichu，lijiezishenhetarenqingxudenengli，xuyaozaianquanyilianguanxideqingjingzhongcainengdedaofazhan。fumuhezinvzhijiandeanquanyilianguanxi，jihaizitigongleganyumianduizishenhetansuozishende“bifenggang”。

 yejiushishuo，fumuyunxuhaizidadandibiaodazijideqingxu，buquzuoduicuodepingpan，bingqiejiaohuitamen“shenmeyangdeqingxujibierenshenmeyangdeganjue”(birufennuhuirangbierenhaipa、kaixinhuirangbierenyuyue)，haizijiunengzaineizaidetansuoguochengzhongfangkaishoujiao，bushoujushu。

 xiangfan，ruguofumumeiyoutigongzheiyangde“bifenggang”，biru：zaihaizichanshengfumianqingxushi，fumumeiyoujienahaizideqingxu，ershiduihaizideqingxujiyubuhaodepingpan(ruchize、chaoxiaohuohulve)，haizihuiyincichanshengyizhong“wodeqingxuhenkepa”deganjue，erxuanzetaobiqingxu。

yueshitaobi，jiuyuebudongderuhemianduihechulizijideqingxu，jiuhaoxiangwomenyuetaobikaoshi，yuekaobuchuhaochengjiyiyang。

三、如果让自己的情绪变得稳定？

(1)duanlianziwojuecha，chouliqingxudenengli

xiangrangzijideqingxubiandewending，shouxiandezhunquedijuechazijichuyujiliedeqingxudangzhong，bingxuehuichoulizheiyangdeqingxu。

changyongdefangfashifensanzhuyili。

wojidajiajuyigelizi：

 banengrangzijikaixindeshiqingxiezaiyizhangzhangkazhishang(biru：hepengyoudianhualiaotian、wanwangzherongyao、kanyibuxijudianying、quxxtongshijialumao、fankanzijixueshengshidaideriji、zuoyujia、gouwumaimaimai……)zainiganjueqingxubiandejilieqienanyipingfushi，suijichouyizhangkapian，quwanchengzheizhangkapianshangmianxiedeshiqing。

zheiyangnijinengzhuanyizhuyili，youkeyihuodeyukuaidexinqing。

 dingqi(2zhouyici)zhongxinzhenglihetianjiaxindekazhiheneirong，biqiqingxuhenzaogaodeshihouzaiqukongzhihebujiu，buruzaiqingxuwendingshizuohaozhunbei。dahaoyufangzhen，weijishikecaibuzhiyushushouwuce。

(2)写情绪日记

 guanliqingxubudengyukongzhiqingxu，shuodaokongzhi，dajiawangwanghuixiangdaodayaheyayi，huirangrengandaojinzhang。yuqikongzhiqingxu，buruxuehuikanjianqingxu。

xieqingxurijidemudeshiweilerangwomennenggougenjuzishendeqingkuang，juechadaoqingxuchanshengdejizhihexiansuo。

ruguotongyangyileishiqingjingchangchufawomendefumianqingxu，neiwomenjiuyaoxuehuibikaizheixieshiqing，huozheyigenghaodefangshichuli。

 youhuozhe，dangwodeqingxufenshuzongshijugaobuxiadeshihou，yexuwoqueshaoleqianmianjiangdaode“yingduiqingxudejiqiao”，neiwoyinggaiduoquchangshixindefangfagaishanqingxuzhuangtai。

leisidefangfahaiyouhenduo，xiwangjintiandewenzhangnengjidajiatigongyizhongbaochiqingxuwendingxingdexinsilu。

 xiangyaozhenzhengzhangwo，haixuyaobuduandixuexihelianxi，xiwangmeiyiweiduzhedounengchengweiyigeqingxuchengshuderen，zairenjijiaowangzhongzhaodaoshihezijidezhuangtai！