冷眼观爱：爱他，就一定要去他的城市生活吗

　　zhualaogongchuguizhengjuzuijiandandebanfa，dangzaoyuyoulvhezhiyishi，bawozhulaogongchuguidezhengjuyoukenengshimeiyigeshoushanglaopodeyouxianxuanze。danshi，yaoxunzhaoyouxiaodefangfajuefeiyishi。zheiyiguochengbixuweixiaoruweidefenxihediaoyan，baohanbuhuotamenyantanjuzhibeichipingshidezhengzhao，qiaoqiaodexunzhaotongxingongjuheshejiaomeitilideyinhen，huoshipinyongyiweijishuzhuanyetanandezhichi。zhangwoshulianzhangwozheixiefangfa，nenggouweishoushanglaopojiyuwukezhengbiandezhengju，bingbangtazuochumingzhidexuanze，bulunshifangkaishouhuoshiwanhui，dounengzaizheiyijiannandeshikexunzhaoneixinshenchudejunhengyujianqiang。

　　dangmianduiganqingchuxianliehenshi，fajuebanlvwaiyudezhengjujianghuichengweiyigebixuliucheng，tebieshidangwomenyinggaijiechugulvbingjizijizuochuguanlijueceshi。suirantanxunzheizhongzhengjujuefeiyishi，danyixiacuoshinengbangzhuwomenxunzhaohenyoukenengzuiyoujiandanyouyouxiaodefangfa。

　　1. 观查个人行为征兆

　　zhualaogongchuguizhengjuzuijiandandebanfa，guanchabanlvyantanjuzhiyuxingweidegaibiannenggoutigongyouyiyideanjianxiansuo。liuyitashifougengweixinxibaomi、shenmihuobuleyifenxiangjinixinxi。turanchuxiangongzuojiaban、jingchangheyixingduchuyishidengqingxing，douhuichengweitamenyouwaiyudezhengzhao。

　　2. 数据印痕跟踪

　　xiandaikexuejishuweiwomendailaileyigefujiachuangkou，nenggoutanxunbanlvdexingji，rushoujidiannao。kexueyanjiutadetongxunjilu、xinxishujujiluliulanlishikenengjielutashifouyubierenyoulianxi。

　　3. 社交媒体调研

　　shejiaomeitiyijingchengweirenmenshufaqingganhelianluorenjijiaowangdezhongyaochuangkou。renzhenguanchabanlvdeshejiaomeitizhanghu，zhuyitamenheqitarenzhijiandehudonghexinxigongbu。xiangpian、pinglunhebiaoshidebuweidengdoukeyidechuanjianxiansuo，shibushitamenheqitarenyoubutongxunchangdehudongfangshi。

　　4. 寻找技术专业协助

　　zaiyixiefanzaqiantixia，dajiakenenghaixuyaoxunzhaojishuzhuanyetananhuohunyinshenghuozixunguwendezhichi。tamenyongyoujishuzhuanyezhishihejineng，keyibangzhuwomensoujikexinlaidezhengju，jiqichulikenengchuxiandeqinggankunhuo。

　　5. 私底下会话或咨询好朋友

　　sidixiayiduiyidejiaotankenengjieluyixieshiqing。jiaruniyougulv，nengzhijieyubanlvgoutongjiaoliu，kantamenzenyanghuifu。chucizhiwai，yuxinrendepengyoumenhuozhejiarengoutongjiaoliu，zhengqiutadetiyiheyijiandoushizuimingzhidexuanze。

　　6. 留意判断力和内心想法

　　yiban，womenneixinhuitigongyixieanshizhe，rangwomenjuedebutaiduijing。zheileipanduanlizhenduifajuebanlvwaiyukenenghuijiyumouleianjianxiansuo。ruguonizhengandaojiaolv，hebulijibiaoshunidejiaolv，xunzhaobanlvdechengxinhejieshi。

　　zhualaogongchuguizhengjuzuijiandandebanfa，buguannixuanzeyongshenmeyangdefangfa，jilaolizhihelixing。soujizhengjujinjinjiejuewentidiyibu，bingbuyidingyiweizhejuedingfenshou。zaizheigeguochengzhong，baochilianxihehuxianglingtingyouweizhongyao，bianyuzuochumingzhidexuanzeguanlijuece，bulunshiwanhuihunyinhuoshiwanbiguanlian。