你是否感觉一段关系走不下去？大多是因为这两种动力

zaiganqingzhong，youyigehenweimiaodexianxiangshi：

youbushaorenshimeibanfayongyouzhangqiguanxide，jingchangshihaimeikaishijiujieshule。

dan，wentijiujingchuzainaleni？

“juedezijihenmeiyoumeili，doumeiyouyixingxihuan。ganqingfangmianzongshiyouyubujue。”

jintian，yigenvshengguqiyongqishuochuleshenzangzaitaxindiduoniandegushi，tashuo：

 wojinnian32sui，shigefeichangmeiyouanquangandenvsheng，yebuhuiheyixingjiechu。zongshirangduifangjuedeyalishanda，wuquyouhuoyaoweishizu，haixihuanjiangdadaoli。

 wojuedewozhendeyoubing，rengeyeyouwenti，yikaishihenanxingjiechu，shaoyoubushufu，jiuxihuanlaheishanchuduifang，guoduanshijianyoutianjiahuilai，ranhouguoduanshijianhouyoukaishifanfanfufu，zhidaonandeyanewo，meilehaogan。

 laoshishuo，woduizijizheizhongxingweiyefeichangtaoyan，shenzhijuedeyaobengkuile。yizhimeiyouzhangqiguanxi，jingchangshihaimeikaishijiujieshule，wogaizenmeban？

 “henanxingjiechu，shaoyoubushufu，jiuxihuanlaheishanchuduifang，ranhouguoduanshijianzaibatatianjiahuilai，zaiguoduanshijianyoujixu，fanfanfufu，zhidaoduifangchediyane。”

tanlvdishuo，nidezheizhongxingwei，wozhinengshuo，zhishaoniyudaodeneixienansheng，haishixiangduilaishuomeineimeyouyuanzede。

 yaoshihuanlewo，yudaoyigenvrenyiyanbuhejiubawolaheishanchule，ranhouguoduanshijianyouxiangbawotianjiahuilai，henbaoqian，woshijueduibuhuibanizaijiahuilaide。

suoyi，neixiebeinifanfulaheizhongjiaderenkenenghaishigengyounaixin，shenzhishiduinimendeguanxibijiaoliulianderen。

ernizaibaduifangjiahuilaizhihou，weihehaiyaofanfudizhemoduifang，zhizhishuangfangchedijieshuni？

原因很简单，有两种驱动力：

1)你在通过反复索取证明自己有魅力。

 jiandandianshuo，nibixuyaotongguobierenduinidewanliushenzhishiwudixiandetuoxie，laizhengmingtashizaihunide，zhengmingzheiduanguanxiduitalaishuoshizhongyaode。yinweinirenweizijimeiyoumeili，suoyiniyaofanfudirangduifanglaizhengming。

2)你删除拉黑时代表的是一种结束，是想给自己证明看：

“nikanba，zheiguanxizhongjiuhaishiyaojieshule。”

 zhengshiyinweinibuxiangrangzijizuihoushiwang，suoyinijiugancuitiqianrangzheigejiejudaolai，bayuyanbianchengxianshi。zheiyangyifangmianshixiangduifangzhengming，lingyifangmianyeshixiangzijizhengming。

suoyi，zheijiushiweihehaimeiyoukaishijiujieshule，yinweizaiyikaishi，nijiuyijingtiqianshedinglejieju，bingbajiejushangyanle。

nijuedehentaoyanzijidexingwei，shenzhijuedeyaobengkuile，neiwojinizhiyitiaoguangmingdadao：

yihou，zaiyiduanguanxikaishideshihou，nijiuheduifangshuo——

 “duibuqi，woyouyigefeichanghuaidexiguan，jiushidangwoganjueyouwentideshihou，wojiuhuilaheishanchuni。danzheiyidingbushinidewenti，ershiwodewenti。

 qiunizaineigeshikedaolaideshihou，jiwoyidiandiannaixin，nenggouxiangzaijintianyiyangzaicitixingwoyouyicidihuidaoleguoqudemoshidangzhong。

woxiangnichengnuo，woyidinghuijinwosuonengzaizheiduanguanxizhonggaibianwodemoshi。qingnitixingwo，woyidinghuinuligaibian。”

 zheishinizaiguanxidekaishijiuxuyaoxiangduifangtanchengde。jizijizhuruyigexindemoshi，zaiganjuezijiyoubushufudeshihou，yaoquzhijiebiaodazijibenshendebushufu，erbushiyonglaheishanchudefangshizaicihuidaoyuanlaidemoshizhizhong。

zongshang，tongguoyishanglianggebuzhou，nikeyibaxindemoshijianliqilai，zheiyangcainengyongyouheguoquwanquanbutongdexindeguanxi。

总之，所有的好事情，都是通过改变发生的。在未来面前，我们都还是个孩子。