跟喜欢的人聊天技巧 不知道怎么与人说话

 genxiangqinduixiangweixinliaoshenme？rujindeshehuishangmianyouhenduorenyouyubudanggoutongjiaoliuerzaigongzuozhongherichangshenghuolvcizaigentou，herenrenjijiaowangshidoubishanyuyanyuderenfeijingdeduo。genxihuanderenliaotianjiqiao，guanxintitieyouburoumadehua。

 goutongxiediaonengliqueshibixutianzifuchi，danhaikeyizaihoutianxinglijinghexuexizhongqusuzao，zaizheierhuizongchulehaoduogerenherenzhijiangoutongjiaoliudexiaoqiaomen，kanlehaijidegerenshouzang！

一、倾听别人

leimengdeshuoguo：“yaozuoyigeshanyucilingderen，jinyouyizhongfangfa，bianshixuehaotingbierenjianghua。”

 zaiyurenxiangchuzhong，henduorenzongdanyouyaoyubushanyanciderenjiaowang，jibianshishanyuherengoutongjiaoliudewoyebuchuwai，galiaodeshikedequeyouyixienankan。

rangrenshenxinpibeideyeyoulingyizhongren：genzheileirenjiaowang，nihuagangdaozuishang，tadelianzhupaojiunengshiniwuyanyidui。

 xiaozhaohesisishimousuogaodengyuanxiaodetongpidaxuebiyesheng，yinweilianggerendegongzuonenglishifenchuse，jianxiqineijiuzaoyiruyuanyichanghuodelexinaideoffer。

lunzhuanyenengli，lianggerenzhengtishilifeichang，nanfenbozhong；zaiweirenchushidecengmian，lianggerendefenggequejiongranbutong。

 meiyicigongzuozubixuxiezuojinxingfangancehuashi，xiaozhaoduziyirenyizhishiqianbayichengbubiandouzhengtiguihuahaola，tantaoshiyezhinengyiweishuchuzishendejianjie。

qitachengyuanqianxinwankudaizhetaqichuandejiyukeyijianghuale，xiaozhaoyousanyanliangyubatarendetiyichedifoudingle。

riziyijiu，pengyoumendoubukenyutayoutaiduochupengle。

huiguotoukansisisuolingzhedegongzuozu，yizhihuanhuanxixi，dajiadounengdachengyipian。

meiyicixiaozuhui，sisiconglaibujiqiebiaotaifayan，yizhidaishangshangxixiwangdeyanguangqulingting、jiluchengyuanmendetiyi。

 zaineiyangdegongzuozuqifenxia，dajiadouhenjijizhudongtantaofangancehua，zailijingsisideronghe，zuihouchuqudejihuafangandangranshijianshoubingxudejingcui。

 bushangdabannian，xiaoshouyejiyiqijuechendesisishendelingdaoqizhong，zaipengyoumenyizhiyinjianxiabianchenglebeipogetibadechusexinshou。

 erzuichutijidexiaozhao，jiuzhibushangsangeyuejiuyouyuchibuxiaopengyoumendelengmocizhile。youyuganjuezishennandeyijianbolexiangma，qijinrengzaizhaopinpingtaipanghuang。

mingbailingtingdeguanjiancongbuqujueyufenbianlingyifangdejianjieshibushiqiadang，zhishiyaozunzhongbierenbiaoshudezhipeiquan。

zhidaolingyifangjiangwanle，diandiantoutishizaijiangzishendeniantouweiweiertan，qibumeizai？

二、掌握言语分寸感

《zengguangxianwen》zhongxiedao：“haoyanyijusandongnuan，huabutoujibanjuduoliuyuehan。”

xianzaiyouhenduorenbazhishuanglvzhizuoweixinzhikoukuaidetuoci，quebuzhidaozheishuobailedezhiqingzhixinghuizhaolaiduoshaodebubian。

tangdaishirenwentingyuncaihuachuzhong，wenxueleigongdipogao，danshitadeyishengdouguanyunburuyi，lvshibudi。

zheiyutadexinzhikoukuaituobukaiguanlian。

wentingyunzhangzhezishencaigaobadouxuejiushicaifangkuang，jibianyingduizhebizishenshenjugaoweiderenyeyiranmanhengwuli。

 neishihourenchengxiangyizhidelinghutaohenshiqizhongtadecaihua，jinguanlejiewentingyunshigeziyiweishideren，yechangchangyaoyuetajindaozishendeguandiyutashenrutantao。

youyici，linghutaolejiewentingyun“yutiaotuo”delaiyuan，wentingyunduitashuoyuanyu《nanhuajing》，yejiushi《zhuangzi》。

 benlaibianshiyiwenyidadesuoshi，kewentingyunpianyaoyouyaoduociyijuzaijiangduoyiju：《nanhuajing》yebushinaxielengpideshu，zaixiangguojiagongwuzhiwai，meishieryegaiduokanyixiaguji。

linghutaolikejiejudewudizirong，zheibingbubianshijinrenjiezhishuoguoxiangchengnianrengulouguawenerbuzizhima？

 duineiyangyiweikuanrongrenshoutadechengxiang，wentingyunbudanmeiyouganxiedexin，rengzaiandilibianpailinghutaoshi“zhongshushengneizuodajiang”。

jianyanzhijiushilinghutaosuiranzaizhongshushengzuochengxiang，daxuewenquebuguoshijianglingdeshuizhun，jidelinghutaoqiqiaoshengyan。

chengyishikoushezhikuai，jibianshishecanlianhua，lingyalichi，doubusuandeshanggemingbaigoutongjiaoliuderen，zaowanshihuizixunfannaode。

三、别对亲密接触的人说伤人的话

《xunzi·rongru》zhongyouyandao：yurenshanyan，nuanyububo；zhishangzhiyan，shenyumaoji。

shitieshengzaiershiyisuineiyinianbeijuliangtuipiantan，zicixingziyuelaiyuebaonuwuchang。

youyicitademamayongzhejibenshangshiyaoqiudiyudiaogaosuta：“tingwenbeihaishidehuaduodoukaiguo，wotuizhenichuquzouzou。”

zaizhengqiushitieshengyunxuhou，tajidongdeyihuierzuozhe，yihuierzhanqi：“neimejiugankuaitiqianzhunbeitiqianzhunbei。”

shitieshengtingdaohouyanfandidahoudao：“fanbufan？liangbulu，youshenmehaotiqianzhunbeide！”

neishihoujiangquanbuqifendouxuanxiezaimamadeshenshangdeshitiesheng，haishibuqingchumamayihuanyoubingzhong。

zhidaomeiduojiuhoumamalishitacaigaoqingchumamadeyongxinliangku，yihanyiqiedouyushiwubu。

 shitieshengzai《woyuditan》zhongxie：wohaoxiangquanjiequanbuzhangdayihoudexiaohai，qianwanbiegenmamaguzhi，haixiujiugengwuxu，woyijingmingbailekewoyijinglaibujile。

buzhidaocongshenmeshihouzhujian，dajiazongxiguanxingbazuiruilideyujujiaojizuiqinmiwujianderen。

huoxushidajiataimingbaitamenderuanzhu，huoxushiqingxitamenduidajiayongyoutiejinwujindekuanrong。

yanyujianshaodianchuzhong，duoliuyouyudi，shiduishenbianrendebaorong，yeshiduizishendewenwan。

四、不必随便承诺

mozishuo：“yanbuyizhe，xingbuguo。”

chuerfanerderenbudanjubuweijian，haihenyoukenengdaozhihuoduan。

qiuchunshi，qixianggongpaijiangjunliancheng、guanzhifuqushouhukuiqiu。

lianchengwenqixianggong：“dajiashashihouhuijia？”

neishihouqiahaoshitianguafashoushijie，qixianggongyibiankeguaziyibianshuo：“2022nianchiguashipairengenghuannimen。”

 yinianyihou，qixianggongquewangjilechengnuo。lianggerenzhinengsongshangwanshandeguaguoshucaianshizheqixianggong，sheiliaoqixianggonggenbenmeiyouzhaohuitamendezhunbei。

liancheng、guanzhifujianqixianggongchuerfaner，youqiyouhen，andilixietonggongsunwuzhijubingmoufan，jujianlexindejunzhu。

qixianggongbujiangzhongxin，zuihouluogebeibierendadao，luogeyingnianzaoshidejieju。

 zhengsuowei“qingnuobiguaxin”，richanggoutongjiaoliuzhongbubisuibiankuaxiahaikou，renwuxinerbuli，zishiqiyanderenzhongyouyitianhuizizuozishou。

jianghuashirendetianxing，huijianghuashirendexiuxi。

 buguanrenhechanghe，yurenxiangchudouxuyaoqiejishuohuadeyishu，zheibanfangnengtuxianconghuiyubuju。genxiangqinduixiangweixinliaoshenme？genxihuanderenliaotianjiqiao，guanxintitieyouburoumadehua。