提高情商说话技巧 提高情商的4个说话技巧

womenmeitiandouxuyaohebierenjiaotan，shuohuayekeyibeishiweiyimenyishu，yixiegaoqingshangdeshuohuajiqiaokeyirangwomenjiaodaogengduodepengyou。ranhou，xiaojiangdaininxiangxilejietigaoqingshangshuohuajiqiao。

1.见人说人话，见鬼说鬼话

dangwomenhebierenshuohuashi，womenbixupanduanduifangdegexing，duifangxihuanyouya，shuoliulidehua;duifangxihuanzhilv，shuozhilvdehua;duifangtichangzhishi，shuoshenkedehua;duifangxihuantanlunsuoshi，shuojiandandehua。ruguoshuohuadefangshinengyuduifangdegexingyizhi，neimebicizirankeyiyipaijihe。zhengru《guiguziquan》zhongtidaodeneiyang“jianrenshuofa”jiuzhong：

yinci，yuzhizhedeyanyibo;yuzhuozheyan，yibian;yubianzheyan，yiyao;yuguizheyan，yishi;yufuzheyan，yigao;yupinzheyan，yili;yujianzheyan，yiqian;yuyongzheyan，yigan;yuguozheyan，yirui。

zheiyiweizhe：yucongmingrenjiaotan，yikaoboke;yubenzhuoderenjiaotan，yikaoxiongbian;yushanbianderenjiaotan，yikaojianjie;yugaoguiderenjiaotan，yikaohongwei;yufurenjiaotan，yikaoyouyahewujuwushu;yuqiongrenjiaotan，yikaoliyiyouhuo;yubeiweiderenjiaotan，yikaoqianxuhezunzhong;yuyongganderenjiaotan，yikaoxunsudejueding;yujiduanderenjiaotan，yikaominruidezhihui。

zheixiedoushiyurenjiaotandeyuanze。tatixingwomen，renkeyifenweibutongdeleixing，rendechujingbutong，zhuiqiudezhuyaoliyihedanyoudezhuyaosunhaiyebutong。dangwomenyutamenjiaoliushi，womenyinggailiyongtamendexingfenheruodianlaikongzhitamen。

zongzhi，huishuohuaderenzaiyurenjiaotanshidongdelinghuo，dongdemianduibutongdediwei.butongleixingderenyaocaiqubutongdetanhuafengge，yishiyingduifangdexinlitedian，zheiyangcainengbimianpengdingzi.bushitimian，baozhengtanhuashunlijixu。

2.重复对方的词汇

tanhuashi，duifanggangcaishuoleyigeshuyu.liyuhuokouyu，nikeyilijiyongzainixiangshuodehuashang，zheihuirangduifanggandaofeichangyouhao。tebieshiduiyuyixieshuyuhuoliyu，shiyongduifangshuodehuakeyibiaoxianchuduiduifangdejidazhichihekending。

3.识别对方的感官词

meigerendouyouzijidecihuipianhao。butongleixingderenxiguanyushiyongbutongdeganguandanci。tingduifangshuohuashiyaoduozhuyitadepianhao。dangnifaxianduifangdeganguanpianhaoshi，nikeyiyouyishidishiyongduifangshuohuashixiguandecihuileixing。

liru，duifangdehuajingchangchuxian“kanshangqu”“guandian”dengci，nikeyiyongzheixiecilaiquedingduifangqingxiangyushijue，ranhounikeyizaiweilaidetanhuazhongshiyonggengduodeshijueci，bujinjinshi“kanshangqu”“guandian”haikeyishiyongqitashijuecihui，liru，“guancha”“fanying”deng。

ganguancitongchangshiyinzangde，nixuyaofeichangminruidizhaodaotamen。tongshi，nishiyongyuduifangxiangtongleixingdeganguanci，duiduifangdeyingxiangyeshiyinzangde，duifangtingnishuohuahuiganjuehenshunli，danbunengshuoweishenme。

4.模仿对方的习惯语言

tigaoqingshangshuohuajiqiao，xiguanyongyusuchengkoutoushan，shiyigerenxiguanyongdeci。liru，youxierenxihuanshuohua。“wusuowei”，huozhe“taibangle”“taibeile”“henku”“meiyisi”dengdeng。youxiezhouyushishishangdeliuxingyu，youxieshifeichanggerenhuade。wulunshenmeyangdexiguanyuyan，ruguonixiangtigaonideyingxiangli，nikeyizaiheduifangjiaotanshizhudongshiyongta，shenzhibiduifanggengpinfandishiyongta。zheizhongqinqieheqinmideganjuehuirangduifanggandaojingya，yinweiniheduifangdexiguanyuyanyiyang，duifanghuirenweinimenliangdexiangfa.xingge.shenghuoshixiangside。