当代大学生如何处理好人际关系

 chuangjianyouliangderenjijiaowang，shizijishiyeyouchengdejiben。dangdaidaxueshengzenyangjiejuehaorenjijiaowangni？bamianlinglong，dexinyingshou，bixuyikebaorongdexin，bixuzhenxinshiyi，bixuzijuexingdejijizhudongxiangchu，yaoyingzaoyouliangdexingxiangqizhi，shanyugezhonggeyangyurengoutongfangshi，baituoshehuizhijuezhongdechengjian。zuoyoujigefangfashijiaoniruhejiejuerenjijiaowangde。

一、悦纳自己克服自卑心态状态

yaoxiangrongqiahaorenjijiaowang，rangtarenjieshouhexiaizishen，zuixianyaoyuenaziji。

 zijibuzixin、buzixintongchangyuduizishenmeiyouchanshengqiadangdelejiehedianpingyoufeichangmibukefendelianluo。renmenyubierenkaizhanshehuifazhanjiaoweishi，yiyaoyaoliuyijiaoweideguifan，bukeyiyiyizhiduanqubitarenzhangjiu，neiyangbiranzaochengjiaoweidepiancha。ershijiaoweishiwubiliuyiyaokeguanxing，ganwanbukeyijuedezishenmougefangmianbibushangbierenjiuquandoubibushangren。

 yaoshanyufajuegerenyoudianheyoudian。zhinengneiyang，nenggouduizishenyougekeguanxinggongping、qieheshijideziworenzhiyudianping。dangduizishendelejieyudianpingkeguanxingyouxiaoshicaihuitigaozishendezixinxin，xinxinqiangcaiyoujianghuibaituoduoyudezibeigan。

 jiaruduizishendelejieyudianpingbuqieheshiji，kuadaqicilegerenquedianquedian，kanbujiangerenyoudianheyoudian，zezongshishizishenzaitarenyanqianqueshizixinxin，tigaozibeixintai。zaigoutongjiaoliuzhong，yaoyouxiangchuqudechenggongdezixinxin，bubiyizhibeiyurenxiangchuhuibuchenggongdexintaizhuangtaisuokunhuo。zhinenggenjuduoyurenxiangchu，nenggoutishengyubierenkaizhanshehuifazhanjiaoweidejiyu，yenenggouyouyiyuchajuedeyoudian，jineryouyiyuchanshengqiadangdeziworenzhiyudianping，tigaozishendezixinxin，baituozibeixintai。

二、真诚待人、尊重别人是人际交往的基本要素

 xianrujindangdaidaxueshengzenyangjiejuehaorenjijiaowangni？zaixiaodaxueshengzailejiexiangchuzhongzhenchengdairen，bixuhuiyingduogebuzhengquedelejie，bixufenbianzhenxinshiyi、gangzhengbua、tanlv、zhengyansizhejiandeguanlian。zhenxinshiyijiushizhizijidairenjiewudexintai，shizijifazifeifuerbingbushixuqingjiayideduibierendeguanzhuhezhongshi。gangzhengbuajiushizhizijidepinxing。shiduizijipingwende、yizhiyilaidezhiliangshengdefenbianhedianping。renhegoutongjiaoliushi，yingdangshuodaojutifangfa，tebieshizaizaibiaoshuweimanshiyeshiyaochongfenkaolvxiangchulingyibandejieshoudu，yibianyugongzuokeyitishengrenjijiaowang，jiangdishejiaozhongjianduoyudemaodunhemoca。

 tongchangzhuangkuangxia，zaibiaoshuweimanshi，renmenjuedeyingdangzunzhaoyixialianggenbiaozhun：shouwei，duishibuduiren。duishibuduirenjiushishuozaibiaoshuweimandeneishihou，zhiduiexingshijianyouzishen fabuzishenbuyiyangdeguandian，bubijingonglingyifangderengetezhi。qici，duijicuowuren。duijicuowurenjiushishuozaibiaoshuweimandeneishihou，yaolijibiaoshuzishendexinlitihui，erjinliangbuyaodiduilingyifangdegerenxingweidinglun。yibanshuolai，zaixiaodaxueshengdelijiexingquanshijiaoqiangde，zaizijiwanzhuandibiaoshulezishendeweimanyihou，shihuiyouyidingdeganshoude。

 yaobaozhengduibierendezhongshi，haiyaobaozheng：zuixian，yaoxuehaobaochiweixiao。xiaorongshifazifeifudeduitarendeyoushan、jieshou、zancheng、lejie、baoronghezhongshibingbushipixiaobuxiaodexuqingjiayi；yansurenzhenduirenzhuandadezeshifengbishi、lengdan、huijue、diren，zenghendengxinxineirong。yinci，yaofanyingduibierendezhongshi，haiyaoxuehaoxiaorong。cizhi，yaoyongxinlingting。zhongshidelingwaiguanjiandezhuyaobiaoxianfangfashiyongxinhuilingting。

三、平等待人是与人相处的基本

 gongpingzishen dehanyishihenpubiande，baohanzhengye、jingjifazhan、falvfaguidenggegelingyu。xiangchuzhongdegongpingguanjianjiushizhijingshenshizhiherengetezhishangdegongping，guanjianjiushizhijingshenshizhiherengetezhishangdegongping。jutirichangshenghuo，xiangchubicizaizhengye、jingjifazhan、wenhuayishu、diweidengcengmianshimeibanfachedigongpingde，suoyourendezhangxiang、youcaihuadengdoushiyouchabiede，dansuoyourenderengezunyanyingdangshigongpingde。

 yurenxiangchuzhongyingzunzhaozhezheitiaohujinghuzundebiaozhun，huoshichengweidengjiabiaozhun。pingdengdairendebiaozhundaibiaozheizhongduizijijichurenminquanlidezhongshi。lingwaipingdengdairendebiaozhunyedaibiaozijijichurengetezhidedandu，daibiaoduirenherenzhijianrenshenyifuguanliandefouren。

 richangshenghuozhong，shejiaozhongjianzhenshiyaobaozhenggongpingxiangchushihenjiannande，biru，yingxianglijiaogaoderentongchanghushiyingxianglijiaodideren，jingchanghanyouzheizhongzhigaoqiyangdexintaizhuangtai；eryingxianglijiaodiderenyitongchanghuibuzixin、bugangaopanhuobukengaopandexintaizhuangtai，zheijiufeichangrongyidaozhixiangchuzhongdexintaiwenti。

 yaobasuozhangwogongpingxiangchudebiaozhunbujinyaoyiwanshuiduanping，pingdengdairen；bubudongzhuangdong，yishiquren，yicaiquren，yiwuquren，yijiashiquren，yixueyechengjiqurendeyucitongshi，haiyaogongpingdaiji，kefuzibeixintaizhuangtai，bubizimingbeirenkanbuqi。

四、宽诚待人接物反映在校大学生的优良品性

 zaixiaodaxueshengmendexurongxinshishifenqiangde，burongxutarensuibiandidezuizishen，tashinenggoulejiede，danyoushihouhaiyaoxuehaorenshou。yixiedaxueshengzaishenghuozhongyidianerkuiyechishao，yichujitiao，dahuojiuzhe，yuanbenyaoweihubaoyangzishendezizunxin，dantongchanghuishideqifan。yingdanglejiezenyangjiejuerenjijiaowangdenanti。

 zaixiaodaxueshenggexinghuadeduoyuanhua，juededepifuguominnanyibimianhuizaochengmouxiefenqi。zheijiuguidingzaixiaodaxueshengzaigoutongjiaoliuzhongbubixiaodujichang，xiangyaoweitarenzhexianghuoda、kefuqianrang，buzaihulingyifangdexintai，buzaihulingyifangdeyanyu，bingganyudanfuzishendexingweizeren，baozhengzaixiangdulinengchengchuan”。yaoshixiongjinkaikuo，fapiqiderenbixuyehuizhudongfawei。baorongkefubingfeirouruo、qieruodezhuyaobiaoxian。fanguolai，zheishiyouxiuyangduliangdezhuyaobiaoxian，shichuangjianyouliangrenjijiaowangderunhuaye，neng“huagangeweiyubo”，huodedaliangdepenyou。

五、把握社交有效沟通和语言艺术

 1、jiaofadedang。jiaofatixianchudajiazhongjianxintaizhuangtaiguanliandeshuiping。shidangdedangdejiaofa，shirennengdedaozheizhongxintaizhuangtaikaolv，shilingyifangjuedeqinjin，xiangchubianyongyouyouliangdexintaizhuangtaifenwei；jiaofabudeti，tongchanghuizaochenglingyifangdehenmannaizhidichu，shixiangchuyuzuhuozhongduan。yinci，zaixiangchuquanguochengzhong，yaoyijulingyifangdenianji、zhenshishenfen、gangweidengxiangxiqingkuangjixiangchudechangsuo、biciguanliandeqinshujinyuanlaijuecelingyifangdejiaofa。duilaorendejiaofayaozunzhong，duipingbeidejiaofayaoqinjin、youshan，duimiqiexiangguanderenkezhihuqiming，duibulejiededeyongjingci。

 2、shuohualiuyiwenminglimao。qiadangyingyongyuyan，biaoshuqingxi、xuxurusheng、jingque、youganzhaoli、luojixingqiang，shaoshiyongliyuhetuhua，qiewupingdanrushui，luanyongcizao，hanhanhuhu；shipinyuyin、yuqi、shengyinsuduyaoshidang，yaoyijutanhuaneirongdeneironghechangsuo，caiquxiangyingdeshipinyuyin、yuqiheshengyinsudu；shuoxiaohuayaoliuyilingyiban、changsuo、fencungan，yifangduanzijiangdebudeti，sunhaibierendexurongxin。

 3、shidangdikuazanlingyifang。meigerendouqidaitarenzanyanggerenyoudian。jiarurenmenkeyiwajuelingyifangdeyoushi，kaizhanzanyang，lingyifanghuihenxiangyaoyuniduogoutongjiaoliu。keshizanyangyaoshidang，yaoyoushijideneirong，juebunengquyifengying。zhenxinshiyidezanyangtongchangnengdedaoyixiangbudaodeshijixiaoguo。

woxiwangquanbukaixin，buyongzhuangzuo。woxiwangjinshengjinqing，chichengshanjierenyi。