想要二胎又怕负担不起，我该如何管理自己的预期？

　　fenshouhouyigeyuenanrendinghunshenmexinli，fenshouhouyigeyuenanrendinghun，yinqilerenmenduiyutamenxinlizhuangtaidexiangguanwenti。shiyouyunanguoerbulizhi，yeshiyinweisangshierqipantianbukongque？tamenshibushizhendeyijingwangjileyiwangdeaiqing，huozhezhichangshitaobitongku？zheizhongzuofashenhouhenyoukenengcunzaixinlidehunluanyubuan。yexu，taxuanzezheiyangzuoshiweilexunqiuxindeqidian，huozheweiledapoyiwangdezhigu。buguanzenyang，zheiyijuedingtixianchunanrenzaifenshouhouxunqiuanweijiyudexinlixuqiu。

　　jianshu：nanrenzaifenshouhouyigeyueneidinghun，zheiyixingweibeihoudoushishenmeyangdexinlituidongli？tamendouzaizhegaitongchu，haishixunqiuxindeqidian？xiamianjiangtaolunnanrenzaizheiyishiqikenengmianlindexinlidouzhenghexintaibianhua。

　　fenshouhouyigeyuenanrendinghunshenmexinli，1. buyuanmianduishiwang：nanrenzaifenshouhoutongchanghuijingliyiduanshiwanghebeishangdejieduan。dinghunkenengshiyizhongtuolixianshidexingshi，tamenxiwangtongguotoushenyuxindeganqinglaimibuqiannanyousuodailaidekumenyutongku。zheiyangdejuedingkenengshitamenshitugaobieguoqu，bingxunqiuyizhongxindeqingxudadao。

　　寻求躲避与忘掉

　　2. qipanzaicijianligerenjiazhi：fenkaiyibanhuirangzizundaozhiyanlidaji，youqishiduinanrenlaijiang。dinghunkenengshiyizhongfangshi，rangtamenjuedezijiyijiuyouyingxiangliheshiyongjiazhi，tebieshidangtamenhexinairenzhankaiyiduanyigexinde、chongmanqidaiguanxishi。zheizhongzuofanenggoubeishiweiyizhongzaicipeiyangzixinjianchibuxiedenuli，suiranzaijingshenshanghenyoukenengyirancunzaiyidingdeyisunxing。

　　寻求自我认可

　　3. qipantianbukongque：fenshouhou，nanrenjiangmianlinzheyizhongwuligan。tamenyexubunengrenshouyigerendezhuangtai，qipanzailingyiduanguanlianzhongxunzhaoaiyupeibankuanwei。dinghunkenengshiyizhongzhuixunwendinghewendingdefangfa，jitayizhongyikaoheyuedingdejuede。zheizhongzuofashenhou，henyoukenengcunzaiduiairenguanliansuozaochengdekongbaidekewanghexuyaotianchongdexinlixuqiu。

　　寻求弥补和稳定

　　4. aiqinghuanchongqi：youshihou，nanrenzaifenshouhouyigeyueneidinghunhuoxubushichuziyuminganhuoqingxuhuadexinlizhuangtaituidongli，ershiyinweitamenzaifenshouzhiqianyijingkaishirenshidaoheqianrenlianxidepibei，bingxunsuhexinairenzengjinganqing。duitamenlaishuo，dinghunkenengshiyigeziranjindu，biaomingtamenzhunbeichangshixindechengzhangjieduan。

　　新的恋爱环节

　　fenshouhouyigeyuenanrendinghunshenmexinli，huizong：fenshouhouyigeyuenanrendinghundexinlidongjibujinxiangtong。youdeshiweiletaobitongkuhemibukumen，youdeshiweilexunqiuziworenkehexindeqidian。wulunshihezhongxinlixuyaoposhi，zheigexuanzedoutixianlenanrenzaiganqingshoushanghoushituxunzhaoxindemubiaoheanweidexiangwang。