冷眼观爱：已婚男泡妞三部曲

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典型的已婚男人泡妞一般有哪三部曲？

1 、她对我不好，我和她没感情了；

2 、我爱的是你，我会离婚娶你的，我们来啪啪啪吧；

3 、对不起，因为种种原因（孩子还小 / 妻子自杀 / 长辈反对 / 工作安排 / 财产分割等等）我离不了婚。

其实，已婚男人能让你跟她在一起， 无非有两方面的原因 ：diyi，zuoyigenuannan，songnigezhongxiaoenxiaohui。dier，takeyijinitigonghengaodeqingxujiazhi。

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