情感咨询：女生如何制定择偶要求？

　　chaojiafenshouhounanrenhenlengdanzenmeban，zaichuxianchaojiafenshouhou，nanrentongchangyehuibiandelengmojueqing。danshi，womentongguodiaojielaidiaojiezheiyangdeshiqing。xunzhaoyigeheshideshijian，tanchengdigoutongjiaoliubicizhijiandetiyan，qingtingduifangkunrao，shifangchulaineixinshenchudeyuanqi。yucitongshi，zhanxianchulejiehekuanrong，jiqijijizhudongdezhuanbiantaidulaimibuguoqucuowu。tongguojianliyouxiaodegoutongyulijiejiben，nanrendelengmobaoleihuimanmanronghua，xiufuguanliandewenxin。

　　探寻平和的时时刻刻

　　chaojiafenshouhounanrenhenlengdanzenmeban，chaojiafenshouzhihou，nanrenyibanyehuibiandelengmojueqing。yaojiejuezheigewenti，zuixianxuyaoxunzhaoyigepinghedeshishikekelaizhongxinsikaohejiejuewenti。zhengzhideyishunjiantongchangqingxuguoji，huishinanrenlengmodexintaigengmingxian，yiner，dengbicijingxiaxinlaizhihouzaijinxinggoutongjiaoliushihenzhongyaode。

　　坦诚地表达自己的感受

　　zaipinghedeshishikeke，tanchengdibiaodazijideganshoushijiejuewentidiyibu。nanrenwangwangyuelaiyuelengmo，kenengjiushiyinweitadexinlishoudaoleshanghaihuokunrao。yiner，jiyuduifangzheiyangdepingtai，jitamendailaijiyubiaodazijideganshouyutongku，shizhongsuguanliandeguanjiansuozai。

　　倾听对方困扰

　　chukaibiaodazijideganshou，yaojishiqingtingduifangkunrao。chaojiahelengmojingchanglaiyuanyushuangfanghuaiyouyixieyinhuanhedanyou。genjuqingtingduifangkunrao，womenkeyigenghaodelejietadeneixinshijie，jinerweichuliwentixunzhaogengyouxiaodebanfa。xianghuzhijiandeqingtingyulijieyouliyubicinenggougenghaodichaoyuechaojiadenanti，fujianwenxinguanlian。

　　释放出来内心深处的怨气

　　chaojiadeguochengdangzhong，bicihenyoukenengbicituixiezerenchize，jileilexuduoyuanqihexiaojiqingxu。zhenduizheizhongqingkuang，dajiaxuyaoxuehuishifangchulaineixinshenchudeyuanqi。bingbuyiweizhechediwangdiaochaojiadezaoyu，ershiyinggaixuehuiyuanlianghewangjiguoqudeshangtong。genjuyikaoxinlifudao、biaoshuxinxuyuxuexixintaiguanlijineng，dajiakeyigenghaodeguanliqingxu，shiqingxugengweiningjing。

　　展现了解和宽容

　　zaifujianguanliandeguochengdangzhong，lejiehekuanrongshishifenzhongyaode。suiranchaojiahenyoukenengxingchenglebuyukuaishiqing，danshiwomenyingdangchangshicongduifangdejiaoduqukannanti，ganshoutamendeganshou。genjuzhanxianchulejiehekuanrong，womenkeyitigaobicizhijianzhijiandexinren，jiangdilengmodefenwei。

　　积极地转变态度

　　chuliwentixuyaoshuangfanggongtongfendou，nanrendelengmoyaotazishenjijidizhuanbiantaidu。takeyishiyongxingweilaiyanzhengtadexinxin，lirujijihenigoutongjiaoliu、zaihunidexuyaoyuqingxu。genjujijidizhuanbiantaidu，nanrenkeyizhujianjiejuelengmodeqingkuang，shiguanlianzhongfanwenxin。

　　chaojiafenshouhounanrenhenlengdanzenmeban，chaojiafenshouzhihou，nanrenyuelaiyuelengmojueqingbingfeimeifajiejuedenanti。genjutanxunpinghedeshishikeke，tanchengdibiaodazijideganshou，qingtingduifangkunrao，shifangchulaineixinshenchudeyuanqi，zhanxianlejiehekuanrong，jiqijijidizhuanbiantaidu，womennengfujianzuiwennuandeguanlian。suiranwanliuguanlianxuyaoshijianheqinfen，danxiangxinnulifuchudenulizuizhongdouhuihuandemeihaojielun。