爱情刚开始的时候,你侬我侬,羡煞旁人。进入婚姻,激情退去,柴米油盐等繁琐小事慢慢占据生活的全部。面对天性多偶的男人,一个不经意间,第三者便横空出世,给你措手不及。根据2011年的一个调查显示, 男性的出轨率接近50%,也就是说,中国有一半已婚的男性不是已出轨就是在出轨的路上。
据调查显示,夫妻之间一般男方出现以下反常行为,则很有可能已经出轨或正在预谋出轨:
1.无事由的情绪高昂、兴奋;
2.duibanlvhuohaizigewaiwenrou、titie,zhudongxianyinqie。zheishichuyuchuguidekuijiuganerduibanlvjinxingqingganbuchang;
3.wuduanyinfafuqijianzhengchao。yongmaodunweichuguixingweixunqiuxintaianwei;
4.夫妻生活频率或状态出现异常。
直接判断老公出轨四大“反常”症状:
1、公司天天加班;
2、手机回家就关;
3、短信看完就删;
4、内裤京城反穿。
男人为什么爱出轨?根据一个知名网站的调查显示, 男人出轨主要有以下五个方面的原因:
面对男人爱出轨的天性,女人该怎么做去 预防男性出轨 ?
yigenvren,xiangyaonanrenyongyuanbuchuguikeyicongzheilianggefangmianrushouyufang:
一、保持婚姻幸福:
·适当管理期望值 ——zaizhangqiguanxilimian,zuizhongyaodehexinjiushi“qiwangguanli”,yejiushimanyidu(tongsulaijiangjiushikaixinbukaixin)heyilaidu(tongsulaijiangjiushizheigeguanxiwendingbuwending),zaiyiduanlianaiguanxili,manyiduheyilaiduyuegao,guanxiyuewending,yuehuigandaoxingfu。zaizhangqidejiaowangguanxili,yifangchuxianbuganxinbumanyi,daduoshiqiwangguanlibudang,suoyi,goujianduiduifangdeyuqi,bingqieduiqishishiqiadangdeguanli,shiyiduanwanmeiguanxilibibukeshaodehuanjie。
·把老公当情人去崇拜而不是当供养者 ——jizhunijiajita,weitahuaitaishiyue,shiyinweiaita,buyaodongbudongjiuba“woweilenizenmeyangzenmeyang”“wojiajinibujiushituniduiwohaome”zhileidexuanyangzijiweidadejiazhidehuaguazaizuishang,zheileihuajiushituotuodibalaogongdanggongyangzhe,jiuerjiuzhibianhuirangduifangfanganshenzhichugui。duizijidelaogong,yaodangchengqingren(yejiushinanshen)dacongxintaiquchongbai、aimu,duiyulaogongzuodehaodedifang,yaohaobulinsedikuajiang,quguli,manmanyindaota。
·提升自己,保持新鲜感 ——fuqizhijianzuijihuiyifangzaijinbuerlingyifangtingzhibuqian,yaoshishikeketishengziji,wulunshiwaimaohaishineizaide,yutagongtongjinbu。chuletishengziji,haikeyiliyongnanxingduooudetianxiang,tongguojiaosebanyan,moniduoou,rangtayongyounifangfotongshiyongyouduogebutongdenvrendeganjue。
二、永远别让男人满足:
·婚姻中,女人应该是道家,无为而治,以退为进:
一个聪明女人在婚姻中应该当道家,无为而治,女人在婚姻当中,在恋爱当中要学会以退为进,要学会保持神秘感,避免男人的审美疲劳。男人喜欢女人,首先第一点,不在于这个女人是不是漂亮,当然漂亮也很重要,首先在于这个女人有没有神秘感。
nanrenzaiaiqingfangmian,zheizhongshouliebenneng,gentazaishiyeshangshiyiyangde。henduogeshengyishangdenanrenshizheiyangde,tazhengleyiqianwan,tamashangyaozhengliangqianwan。birushuotashougouleyigegongsitajiumeixingqule,tayaoqushougoulingwaiyigegongsi。nanrenzhengfunvrenyeshizheiyang,jiuyidingyaorangtaganjuenimeiyoubeitachedizhengfu,zheigenanrenyibeizijiuhuiduinibaochiwuqiongdeyuwang。
结婚以后,女人也要保持自己的独立和空间,做“三不”女人。什么叫“三不”女人呢? 深藏不露、琢磨不透、飘忽不定 denvren,jiushishuozheigenvrenyongyuanrangzheigenanrenganjuetachongmanshenmigan、xinxiangan、juligan。
·保持自己的伴侣价值,同时学会婚后半睁眼
yufanglaogongchugui,zuikaopudebanfa,jiushibaochizijidebanlvjiazhi。
hunhouhaikeyibaochizijidebanlvjiazhi,yifangmian,nengrangnidelaogongyizhiaini,lingyifangmian,xianbushuolihunle,jiushuowanyizanyougetianzairenhuode,laogongmeile,digezhen,laogongmeile。nimashanghainenggouzhaodaoyigehaolaogong。buyaozongxiangzhe,jiehunlenijiudeduiwofuzeyibeizi,ershibaochiyizhongzaihunyinshichangshangyongyuanyoujiazhidezhuangtai。
zaixintaifangmian,yinggaishihunqianxiangmaozhuolaoshuneiyangzhengdayan,hunhougenlaogongxiangchuni,yinggaixianglaohudadunneiyangbanzhengyan,qianwanbuyaoyidaohunhoubianchengledama。
如果千防万防,老公还是出轨了,应不应该原谅呢?
ruguoduiyulaogongdezuixingwanquanwufarongrendezhunbeilihunde,neimexianweizijimouhaochulu,jinliangbaochihaopiqi,rangnanfangduodiankuijiu,zhengqulihunshizijizhengquliyi,bijinglihunduinvfangdeshanghaigengda。duiyufuqiliangrenyouganqing,bushedefenkai,qienanfangzhudongchengrencuowu,huiguijiating,bingyuanyicongcigaiguobuzaifande,keyijitageguanchaqi。
观察期间,除了要看他回归家庭后的表现,还要 小惩大诫 ,rangtazhenzhengyishidaocuowu:
1 ruguonvfangmeiyouwozhujingjidaquande,yimeianquanganweiyou,yaoqiuzhangwojingjidaquan。
2 shouwojialidejingjidaquande,keyitongguorangtagaidiaoyigetebienangaidehuaixiguan,rangtaweicifuchudaijia,jizhujiaoxun;shizaimeishenmehuaixiguande,bianrangtaweinizuoyixietapingshibuyuanyizuodeshi(dangranbuketaiguo)。
所谓一个巴掌拍不响,当初两人能够顺利进入婚姻,无论是为爱情,还是看中对方的某些优点,必定都是心甘情愿的,婚姻中出现裂痕,犯错方负主要责任,当主动犯错方承认错误,改变自己的时候,另一方也要检讨自己,是自己什么地方疏忽了,让老公有了暂时抛弃家庭寻找第三者的温暖的想法,找出原因,做出改变。
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