【钟恒原创】“女强人”也可以学会做女人（下）

　　nanrenchuguidexinlifenxishiyixiangshenruyanjiu，qianshedaogerendeqingxu、xuqiuyugerenxingweidongji。bulunshichuziyuxunzhaoxinxiandecijixing、qianquedadaodeaiqingyaoqiu，yeshiyinweibuzixinhuozhangkongyu，nanrenwaiyutongchanglaiyuanyubenzhixinlishangdefanzadongji。tongguoduibizheizhongxinlizhangai，womennenggenghaodilejienanrenchuguideyuanyin，bingqieweidajiatigongyixiedexinliguanhuaiyujianyi，bangzhuqijianqinghuofangzhizheizhongzuofadechansheng。

　　男人外遇的本质动机

　　nanrenchuguixingweishenhouyunzangzhezhuduofanzazuibenzhidedongji，zheizhongdongjizaiyidingchengdushangjuedingzhehaizidexingweitiaoxuan。lejienanrenchuguidexinlifenxi，bixuyanjiuyixiajizhongguanjianzuibenzhidedongji。

　　对新鲜的刺激的游戏渴望

　　youyixienanrenwaiyuyouyuduixinxiandecijideyouxikewang。zhangqixingdeganqingshenghuokenenghuishitamenjuedekuzao，xunzhaowaibudecijixingbianchengdadaoxinlikewangdeyizhongfangshi。zheileidongjikezhuisudaonanrendeshengwubenneng，zhuiqiugaibianhetanxianjiushitamenyushengjulaitexing。

　　情感需求的缺失

　　lingyileinanrenwaiyuzeyinweiqingganxuqiudequeshi。dangtamenjuedezaihunyinshenghuozhongqianquebeirenlijie、beiguanhuaihebeiguanzhudeqingxudadaoshi，takenenghuixunzhaobierenlaimibuzheiyiquekou。zheileichuguixingweiyinggaishibenshenqingganxuqiudeyizhongchangshidadao。

　　不自信和安定感不够

　　zibeixinliheandingganqianqueshidaozhinanrenwaiyudebenzhidongjizhiyi。nanrenhenyoukenengyouyuzishendezhangxiang、diweihuoshiyalierjuedebuzixin，tamenxunzhaowaibuderenkehebeikewangdeganjuele，yitigaozijidezizunxinheguishugan。

　　克制欲望的达到

　　yeyouxienanrenchuguixingweilaiyuanyuduiquanlihezhangkongdekewang。zheizhongnanshihenyoukenengyouqiangliedecaozongchongdong，xunzhaozaihunneichuguiguanlianzhonghuoquduibierendeguankongquanlaimanzuzijixianshixuqiu。zheileiwaiyudongjijingchangyuchongdongsuoyinfademanzuganyijiduiyuquanlidexiangwangxiangguan。

　　探索身份认同的探索

　　nanrenwaiyuyoushihouyeheduishenfenrentongdetansuoxiangguan。zaihunyinshenghuozhonghenyoukenengjuedejushuheshenfenrentongdequeshi，tamenxiwangyongheqitarenchuangjianfangshilaishixianzijidemengxiangziworenzhihegerenbiaozhidegaizao，yixunzhaoxinlingshenchudezhenzhengyudadao。

　　nanrenchuguidexinlifenxi，genjuduinanrenchuguixingweidexingweixinlixue，womennenggenghaodilejiezheiqizhongdedongji，bingtigongxiangguanxinliguanhuaiyujianyi。duiyuyixiekewangxinxiandecijideyouxinanren，nenggouzhaodaobiedefangshiqumanzuxinlideshijiantansuochongdong，lirufazhanqushigerenaihao、anshigenggaishenghuodangzhongjiezougandengxingshi。zhenduiqingganxuqiudequeshi，tiyigaijinfuqizhijiandegoutongjiaoliu，tishenggoutongjiaoliu，tanxunfuqiguanxilidexiangtongdianhegongtongaihao。zhenduibuzixinheandingganbugou，jilinanrenjijikaizhanxinlifudao、xinlifudaodeng，tishengzixinxinhezhenshiziwoguishugan。yucitongshi，zuizhongyaodeshiyingxiaotuiguangsuzaojiankangdeshenghuohunyinguan，tishengshehuifazhanrenzhidu，weinanrentigonggenghaodehunyinshenghuoyuxinlijiaoyu。weiyoutongguoshenrudexingweixinlixueyijixiangyingdeshiyong，dajiacainenggenghaodexiezhunanrenlejieneixindexuqiuyudongji，congerjianshaohuoshijiejuechuguixingweidechansheng。