离婚后我走出了阴霾，成为魅力女人

30 岁那年，因为前夫的出轨，两人无休止的争吵，我却再也无法信任他，两人辛苦折磨了半年，最后我选择了离婚。原以为离婚后的我应该能恢复单身时的洒脱与自由，哪知道这种轻松的感觉并没有持续多久，我的情绪就开始陷入低落期。每天面对无边无际的孤独，又是沮丧又是怨愤，只觉得自己从此被贴上大龄离婚女的标签，对这段婚姻也充满了挫败感，工作提不起劲儿，不想跟人交往。朋友见我这样，建议我去花镇看看，我将信将疑，迟迟没有行动。

 jiuzaizheidangkou，wotingdaolebushaoxianyansuiyu，yourenshuowotaiqiangshi，yourenshuowoxinggebuhao，zongzhiyiqiemaotoudouzhixiangwo，mingminglihunshiwozijideshi，weishenmeyaobeitamennalaidangchayufanhoudetanzi？shengqizhiyuyekaishihuaiyiziji，huaiyizijishifouzhendezheimechajing，caidaozhitaquwaimianzhaoqingren？zhaojingzideshihou，xiangzixikangejiujing：zijishifounianlaoseshuai，meiyoumeilile？yihouhaiyouhaonanrenxihuanwoma？danshenshenghuodeguduyupanghuang，duiweilaiqingganshenghuodedanyou，lihunjifadecuobaiganhezibei，zheirangwoxianruleshenshendejiaolv。

 shijianyizhang，faxianzijishenmeshiqingdouzuobuhao，wunaizhixiaxiangqizhiqianpengyoutiqidehuazhen，youxiewuluzhiludizhaodaolehuazhenqinggandaoshijinxinglezixun。

 laoshigaosuwo，juyanjiubiaoming，lihunshijinciyusangoudezhongdajingshenciji，aiqingyuanquangandesangshi、xingshenghuodezhongduan、shehuijiaosedegaibiandeng，douhuiduidangshirendexintaichanshengyanzhongdeyingxiang。hunyinmoshideturandapo，wulunshibeidonglihunhaishizhudonglihun，dourongyichuxianshenxinshangdebushiying。suoyizaiwoshenshangchuxianzheizhongqingkuangbingbushioufaxing，rangwobiejinzhang，baizhengxintaiqukandai，bingweiwozhidinglehuifumeilisibuqu。

一、客观看待婚姻失败的原因。

 qishizaitachuguideneiduanshijianzhiqian，wojiuyijingkaishishengzhijiaxin，jiabanjiadian，jingchangtongxiaobuhuile。neiduanshijianwoduitadeguanxinqueshishaole。tagongzuoyemang，youshihouliangrenxiuxishijiancuokai，changchangxiaobangeyuejianbudaomian，jibendegoutongdoumeiyoule。liangrenfenkai，zijiqueshiyeshiyouzerenzaide。

二、学会爱自己。

 laoshirangwozongjieyixiaziji，neixinxihuanguodedaodishizenyangdeshenghuo，guoquhunyinshenghuoyounaxieyihan。qishi，jiehunqianwoderiziyizhiguodexiuxianzizai，gongzuozhiyuhuilianlianyujia、tiaotiaowu、zuozuomeirong，huijingxindabanhaozijicaishangbanhuojuhui。hunhouweilejiatingdefazhanerpinminggongzuo，weilezhaogujiatingerfangqixuduoyuhaoyoumenxiangjudeshiguang，yemeiyoutaizhuyiwaibiaole。

 laoshirangwozhongxinanpaixihaobingshishi，yushiwokaishilemeitianbanxiaoshilianxiyujiahuowudao，meitianzaoshangyongbanxiaoshijingxindabanziji，anzhaozijidefenggezhongxingouzhiyiwuhuanfaxing。meizhougouwuyici，meizhoucanjiayicijuhui，meizhouzuoyicimeirong。

三、接纳人生重新开始。

 zuoyixiexindechangshihegaibian，xuehuigaobieguoqu，jienaxinshenghuolailin。laoshihewojingguotaolunlaijueding，tabaxianzhudefangzizuchuqu，bandaolingyigefangzishenghuo，jiaruxindejiaoyouquanzi，jieshixinpengyou，yangyizhixiaogou。

四、重建精彩社交生活。

 laoshirangwogenjuzijidexingquaihaoquzhaoyixiezhitongdaohezhe，zheiyangyouliyukaituozijidexinshejiaoquan。wocongyiqianjiuyizhixiangcanjiajueshiwuban，danqianfubutongyi，jiuzhihaofangqile。xianzailiyongkongxianshijianquxuetiaowu，jiejiaolebushaoyoutongyangaihaodepengyou。xiatiandeshihou，wohaicanjialebushaohaibinlvyoutuandui。

 bannianxialai，wojuedezijideshenghuozaizheixiejihuazhongmanmanbiandechongshierxinxian，zhenggerenyezaihuanfazhebutongdeguangcai，pengyoumenshuowokanqilaiyuefaxiandenianqingle，bannianlailuluxuxuyeyouyixingzhuiwo，zheidourangwoxinxinbeizeng。xianzaizhaojingzi，yejuedezijiyuefayoumeilile，woxiangxin，zouchuyinmaidewo，nengyudaogengmingmeideyangguang。