老师原创：男友不懂浪漫，如何让他为我改变呢？

　　benwenjinjinweirao"zhongniannanrenchuguidexinlifenxi"shenrutantao，yanjiuzhongniannanrenwaiyudeshenhoutaiduheyuangu。genjushenrufenxizhongniannanrendexinlingyaoqiu、qinggangongzuoyaliyugerenfabingyuanyin，jieluchuguixingweidexinlijiben。yucitongshi，ronghexinlililunheshizhengyanjiu，zhanxianchubijiaochangjiandexinlifangshihexinlidongyin，shiwomengenghaodilejiegaizhuangkuangxingchengdeyuanyinbingqieweichuliwentitigongyixiesikaoyutiyi。

　　简述：

　　zhongniannanrenzaihunyinshenghuozhongchuguixingweidexinlipouxishiyigefuzaqieyinrenzhuyidehuati。genjushenrufenxizhongniannanrenneixinshenchudeyaoqiu、zhengtuoyuyali，womennenggenghaodilejiechuguixingweidexinlidongyinhebiaoda。benwencongxintaiyaoqiu、shenfenrentong、hunyinwentijiqiqingganfabingyuanyindengduogefangmiantaolun，yiqiuxiezhuyueduzhegengjiaquanmiandilejieyulijiezhongniannanrenwaiyudexinli。

　　一、心态要求：追求刺激与达到

　　zhongniannanrenjingchangzaihunyinshenghuozhongzaoyuxinliyaliqingganshichangxuqiudezhengtuo。yujiandandeganqingshenghuoduibi，tamenqipanxinxianganhecijixing，xunzhaodadaoxinlishangdechongdong。zheizhongxuqiuposhitamenxiangwaizhaodaoxindecijiyuan，zaochengchuguixingweidexingcheng。

　　二、身份认同：坚持自我认证与重构

　　zhongniannanrenzairichangshenghuozhongjingchangshenxianduizijidejiazhiheyunweidecaiyi，qingganlidekumenyubuanshidetamenzhuixunwaiburentong，xunzhaozaiciquedinggerenjiazhihegaibianziwopinpaixingxiang。chuguixingweichengweiyizhongbiaoshushenfenrentong、huodechengjiuganhegaibianziwopinpaixingxiangdexingshi。

　　三、婚姻问题：达到与伤心的双向心理状态

　　hunyinzhongdewentishizhongniannanrenwaiyudeyigezhongyaoyinsu。zhangjiudehunyinwenti，lirugoutongbudaowei、xingshenghuobuxiediao、youhaodujiangdideng，yehuidaozhitamenzaihunyinshenghuozhonggandaobumanheshiwang。chuguixingweichengweiyizhongtuolixianshi、zhaoxundadaohemibuxinlikumendexingshi。

　　四、情感发病原因：追寻爱与不爱的达到

　　zhongniannanrenwaiyurengrancunzaiqingganfabingyuanyin。zaihunyinshenghuozhong，tamenkewangdedaogaoduzhongshi、beizhongshiheshenai，danshizongjuedexianshishenghuozhongwufamanzu。waibudeyinyouherenkebianchengdadaoqingganshichangxuqiudejinshucuihuaji，chuguixingweitigongleyizhongtanxunaiyubuaidehaojihui。

　　五、心理矛盾：道德与内心的欲望选择

　　zhongniannanrenzaiwaiyuhuanjiezhongchangchangzaoyudaodeyuneixindeyuwangxinlichongtu。tamenyexuyishidaolechuguixingweidebudangzhichu，yucitongshidaodeyujiatingyalihaizaishangxiatadetiaoxuan。zheileineixinshenchudemaodunyuchongtushitamenzaiqingganhexingdongshangzaochengcuoluan。

　　zongdelaishuo，zhongniannanrenchuguidexinlifenxishejidaohaojigeyaosu。xintaiyaoqiu、shenfenrentong、hunyinwentijiqiqingganfabingyuanyindeng，gongtonggouchengzhongniannanrenchuguixingweidexinlijiben。yaojiejuezheixiewenti，bixucongyuantoushanglejiebingmanzuzhongniannanrendeqingganyaoqiu，gaijinhunyinwentibingxietongpeihe，helijiejueneixindechongtuyuyinyou，yijingyingaiqingwendinghemeihao。