冷眼观爱：如何让一段爱情保持长久？

　　nanrenchuguihuiqupenglaopoma？zheizhongqingkuangshejidaozherenmenduiyuhunyinyubuzhongdesisuo。zaiyiduanhunyinzhong，yingduinanrenwaiyu，qizidexinlingchengdanfeichangdadetongkuhesunhai。danshi，yuanbuyuanyijiyudiercijihui，zaiyutamenzhijiandeqingxulilunjichuxianghuzhichi。youyixienanrenyaojinglihuigaiyuziwofansiyihouzhongguihunyin，qinfenxiubuhunyinxinrenhezhonggoufuqiganqing；eryoudezezaicitiaoxuanmengpianhezaiciwaiyu。hunyinzhongshibushicunzai“huijiapenglaopo”degailv，zuihouzaiyuchuguizhedebianhuayuhuihen，jiqiqiziyuanbuyuanyijienazheiyidiaozhenghejiyujihuidejuece。

　　nanrenwaiyuyuhunyinkunjing：xinrenyuxiufujiandezhengtuo

　　失去的东西信任

　　nanrenchuguihuiqupenglaopoma，hunyinlidexinrendoushijiyubicizhongshihechengxindejichuzhishang，danshi，dangnanrenwaiyushi，hunyindexinrenchedibengkui。qizibeipanbiandekuchuwufayanyu，tajuedezizunzaoshouyizhi，buzhidaoruhemianduizheigexianshi。zheishihou，nanrenyuanbuyuanyihuijiapenglaopo，chengweileyigejiweizhongyaodenanti。

　　挣脱与思考

　　zaihunyinkunjingzhong，nanrenyibanhuixianruyiduanshijiandezhengtuohesikao。takaishishenshizijigerenxingwei，yishidaolewaiyujiqizihehunyindailaideshanghai。yingduiqizidexinhanyutongku，yixienanrentiaoxuanlangzihuitou，bingbuduanxiubuhunyin。takaishirenzhenwanchenghunyin，bingfuzhunulilaifujianxinren。danzheiyiguochengjixuyaoshizhang，haiyaonanrentouruzhenchengdehuigaidexin。

　　复建与更改

　　zaifujianhunyinxinrendeguochengdangzhong，nanrenyaofuchushentilixingzhengmingzijidebianhua。zhuyaobaokuoyichengxiangdai，jijiyuqizigoutongjiaoliu，bingzhanxianchuduiyutadezunzhonghezhenxi。takenenghuijienaxinlifudao、canyufuqiganqingxuexipeixun，yizhuiqiujishuzhuanyedezhichiyubangzhu。zheizhongxinkunulizhizaibangzhuqizitihuidaonanrendezhenxinshiyigenggai，zaicigoujianqixianghujiandeqingganniudai。

　　妻子的挑选

　　jinguannanrenhenyoukenengnuligaibian，danqiziyuanbuyuanyijienatadezhongguishiyigefuzaqiebenrenjuece。tamenbixushensishulvzijidexiangfayuxinliyaoqiu，jiyunanrenkaizhanshenrujiaoliu。youyixieqizihenyoukenenghuijiyunanrendiercijihui，jianxintadediaozhenghehuigai；eryouxiehenyoukenengwufawanghuaiwaiyudetongchu，jieshuhunyin。buguanqizizuochushenmeyangdequeding，tamendouyingcongzijideguandian，bingtanxunshihezijidexingfukuailelumian。

　　复建婚姻信任的高路

　　jibianqizitiaoxuanjienananrenhuigui，fujianhunyinxinrenrengshiyigemanzhangjiankudequanguocheng。bicibixuyaoyouzhenchengdeduitan，lingtingbicizhijiandetiyanhexuqiu，yitongtanxunfujianxinrendelujing。nanrenbixubuduannuligenggai，zhanxianchuduihunyinchengnuohezeren。erqizijiuxuyaojiyunanrenyidingdexinrenyulijie，yucitongshiweihuzishendeliyihedaodedixian。jinyoubicizhenxinshiyi、baorongyuqinfen，hunyincaiyoukenengzhonghuoxinren，bianchenggengjianguzhijiandeguanxi。

　　结果

　　nanrenchuguihuiqupenglaopoma，nanrenwaiyuhuijiapenglaopo，bulunshifouqudechenggongfujianhunyinxinren，douyaobicizhijiandeqinfenyulijie。hunyinshiyigeqianshefanzaqingxuyuzerendeqiaoliang，dandanghunyinzaoyukunjingshi，gengyinggaibicituanjieyixin，gongtongfendouzouchuyinying，bingmanmanhuifuxianghujiandexinrenyuqingyi。