冷眼观爱：感情里如何保持双方格局平衡

　　zaixiandaishehui，youhenduorenliuyidaoyigezhuangkuang：40suinanrenfeichangrongyichugui。zheiyinqiledajiadetansuoheshijian，weiheqiafengrendaozhongniandenanxinghuixianruneiyangdejiongjingni？shifoudedaolehunyinyaliweihai？huoshinianjisuodailaidezibeixinliheqiujinyizhongdechongdong？benwencongxinli、shehuishenglixuedengduogefangmianzheiyixianxiangkaizhanshenrufenxi，yiqiujieshiweishenme40suidenanrenrongyichuguidekunhuo。

　　weishenme40suidenanrenrongyichugui

　　心理障碍：人生低谷与自尊

　　zhonglaonianshiyigenanxingxianjiedeshiqi，tongshiyoushizaoyujidajingshenyalidejieduan。zaizhichangzhong，40suinanxingtongchangzaoyushichangjingzhengjilie、shengzhikongjianyouxiandeziyuanjushi，xingchenglezhonglaonianjinpogan。zheileijinpogankenengzaochengtamenduizishendezizunshoucuo，tamenxiwanggenjuwaibushurongherenkelaigaibianziwoshiyongjiazhi，jinerhenyoukenengbeihenduorenzhuixunxinxiandecijixing、zhuixunziwohaowuyiwenyouhuoshenshenxiyin。

　　婚姻关联：承受的职责和压力

　　40suinanrentongchangyijingjinrujiatingshenghuodehuanjie，wanhunbingqieyongyouernv。hunyinlianxidepingwenyurongqiatongchangxuyaobicigongtongfendou，danshitamenyechengshouleyigejiatingdezerenyushimingyuyali。gongzuoyujiatingderenjichongtujingchangduinanxingdailaimafan，tebieshichuzaigongzuorurizhongtiandenianlingceng，henrongyihulvehunyindejingshenxuqiu。yiner，yixie40suinanrenjiuhenyoukenengxunzhaojingshencengmiandedadaohebaituo，erchuguichengweiwomenzaisuonanmiantiaoxuan。

　　社会现状：机会与引诱

　　shehuixianzhuangdebianhuahaidui40suinanxingxingchengleyidingdeyingxiang。jinnianlaisuizhedejueqiheshejiaowangluodexingqi，dazhongdeshejiaoquanziyuelaiyuegengweiguangkuo，yuyixingjiechudetujingdaliang。yucitongshi，bangongchangsuodedanshennvshengzhanbiyezhubuzengjia。zhongzhongyinsujunwei40suinanxingtigonglegengduojihui，shitamengengkenenghuiyudaoshihezijiyixingpengyou，bingchanshengyizhongxinxianganhexingfengan。yourenwaizaiyinsuzaijiashangxinlibuwending，cushiyixienanrenzaochengchuguidechongdong。

　　对策：自我反省与夫妻沟通

　　yingdui40suinanrenfeichangrongyichuguideqingkuang，womenyinggaixiangzheruhejiejuezheixiewenti。zuixian，nanrenmenyaojinxingziwofansheng，duizishendexinlijiankangzhuangkuangkaizhansikao，xunzhaodikangrenshengdigudelianghaofangfa，tigaoziworentongganyuchengjiugan。yucitongshi，fuqizhijiandejiaoliuyeshifeichangzhongyaode。genjutigaofuqizhijiandelijieyuxinren，shidulingtinglingyifangdeyaoqiuhetihui，yitongchulihunyinzhongcunzaidewenti，nenggouyouxiaofangzhichuguidechansheng。

　　结束语

　　weishenme40suidenanrenrongyichugui，jinguan40suinanrenfeichangrongyichuguishiyigeshijicunzaidebuzu，danwomenbukeyiyinerduitamenxiajielun。meiyigerendoumianlinbuyiyangdeshenghuoheyinyou，zuizhongyaodeshiyaogenjutigaoziworentonghefuqizhijiandejiaoliu，xunzhaojiejuewentidefangfa。weiyouruci，cainengzhenzhengdechuangjianlaogudejiatingchengyuanguanxi，wanchenghunyinxingfuhechijiu。