冷眼观爱：男友没有上进心怎么办？

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　　探寻证据：观查个人行为征兆

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　　搜集证据：通讯记录和社交媒体帐户

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　　储存证据：拍照和储存信息

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　　寻求技术专业适用：私人调查与婚姻律师顾问

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　　留意依法依规：遵照法律法规

　　zaiquzhengdeguochengdangzhong，jinliangzunxunbendixiangguanfalvfagui。weishouquanqinlvetarendeyinsikenenghuizhishijiufen，jinerxiaoruoniguandian。baozhengniercaiqudegerenxingweihehufaguiguiding，buqinfandeliyi。ruguoduibendifalvfaguibutailejie，kezixunzhiminglvshiyihuodeyouguantiyi。

　　解决取证结论：与爱人会话或寻求婚姻辅导

　　ruguonishoujidaochongzudezhengjuhou，nikenenghaixuyaoyuairenhuihua，yingduizheiyibeishangdekeguanshishi。beihaonizhengju，bingxuanzeyigeshidudeshijianduanhedizhijinxingjiaoliu。zaitanhuazhong，baochilixinghekeguan，biaoshuzijidexiangfaheguanxin。ruguogandaomeifaduziyirenjiejue，keyixuanzexunqiuhunyinfudaojizhuanyexinliliaofadezhichi，yihuanjienimendeguanxinanti。

　　laogongchuguiruhequzheng，genjuzheixiefangfa，nikenenghuikeyiyouxiaodiquzhenglaogongchugui。bulunshiguanchayanxingjuzhi、chaxuntongxunjiluheshejiaomeitizhanghu，huoshipaizhaohechucunxinxi，zheizhongliuchengyejiangbangzhuzijisoujizhengju，binggengqianglumianduizheiyishiji。zaizheigeguochengzhong，baozhengzunshouxianfayaoqiu，bingjilaoyilixing、chenzhelengjingdexintaijiejuequzhengjielun。buguanjieguoruhe，weichizizunxinhezizunziai，xunqiushidudebangzhuyuzhichi，weizijiderenshengchongfenzhunbei。