情感咨询：离过婚总感觉价值很低怎么办

 you dao：“liguohunzongganjuejiazhihendizenmeban？”huazhenqingganzaibenwenfenxiangyigeqinganli，gaosuniliguohundenvrengairuhediaozhengzijidexintai，zhonghuoxinsheng。

一、情感咨询

我的问题是：

 tiqianlingzhengle，danshimeijiehunyemeifashengguoguanxi，siwugeyuehoujiuchaojialihunle，wozhudongtuihailesuoyoucaili，fendechedi，meiyourenhelianxihejiufen。shijidengyumeijiehun，danfalvshangyishiliyi，wojinhouzenmezhaoduixiangnengruohualingguozhengdeyingxiang，duizijizuiyouli？

 wo90niansheng，shenghuichengshidushengnv，youwendinggongzuo，gongxinjiecengjiating，fumudouyouwendinggongzuohetuixiujin。164，98jin，zaizhiyanjiushengxueli，yanzhizhongshang，xiangqinjibenbuhuiyinweiyanzhibeifouding，xinggeyibanzhengchang，bijiaodanchun，buaisuanji，kanzhongganqing。

2016nian26suixiangqinrenshiqianren，qijianmaodunjiaoduo，ganqingyibanxianghuyoucouhechengfen。

 2018nian2yueannanfangjiasuanderizibihunqitiqianhenduoshijianlingzheng，houlaiyinweigezhongsuoshiheqianqiweijiejuedemaodunbaofahoujuedinglihun，2018nian7yuezhengshilinglihunzheng。

 fendechedi，yinianduole，rujin29sui，zijidezhuangtaihenhao，shenghuofengfuxinqingyebucuo，qijianyourenjieshaodeduixiangwodouhenbumanyi，zijiquanziyehenxiao，renshiderenhenyouxian。

 woyizhidiaozhengziji，rangzijideneizaihewaizaidounulibiangenghao，woxiangzhaoyigegefangmiantiaojianheshi，younenghuxiangxihuanderen，jinliangruohualingguozhengdeyingxiang。

ruguoxiangqinkendingyaoyikaishijiugaozhi，zheiduizijihenbuli。

ruguoyoubuzhixiaoqingkuangderenzhuiqiuwo，wogaishenmeshihougaosuta？

ruguowoyouxihuanderen，gaizenmequzhudonglianxi，zenmegaozhizijideqingkuang？

jianglaiyongshenmeyangdexintaihezitaimianduiweilaideshenghuocai？tebiexiwangdedaohuifu。

二、情感解答

 da：nicongtoudaoweidouhenjieyizijizaifalvshangliguohunzheijianshi，bingqieyizhixiangxunzhaoyigefangfa，shenzhishiyikelingdanmiaoyao，tunxiaqujiunengbanideguoququanbuxishuayixin。

ruguoyourenkeyishunjianbanizaifalvshang“liyi”zheigezhuangtaimodiaodehua，zheiyinggaishinizuixiangyaodedaodejieguoba。

keshiniyoumeiyouxiangguo，nizhishaoyousanjianshiqingmeiyouzuodao？

zheisanjianshiqing，doubifalvshangdezheigehunyinzhuangtaihuozhesuoweide“ruohuatadeyingxiang”laidezhongyao。

diyijianshi，nicongtoudaoweimeiyoufansiguo。

zaiguoqu，nigenqianrenchaojiaranhoulihun，zheigeguochengnimeiyoufupan。

nidengyuxianzaizhijielinyigejieguochulaishuo：“wojiuyaogaibianzheigejieguo，danwobuxiangguanzheigeguocheng。”

 dierjianshi，nibaliyizheijianshiqinghuozhefalvshangliyidezhuangtaibenshen，kanzuoshirenshengzhongdeyigewudian，sihuxuyaomodiaozheigewudian，nicainenggouguoshanghaorizi。

qishiburan，henduorenliguohun，danhoulaihaidouguodetinghaode。

disanjianshi，nizishizhizhongdoumeiyoulijiejintiandezheigerenshengkunnan，shiniguoquderenzhixingweimoshidaozhide。

 birunizaimeiyouxianghaodeqingkuangxia，neimecaolvjiulinglezheng，kenengjiushiyinweinimeiyouzhengquekandaihunyin，duiyuhunyinzheijianshi，nibingmeiyoushendusikaoguo。

zheijiushiyigexingweimoshi，yigenirenzhishangkeyigaishandedifang。

danshiqishinibingbudasuangaibianzheigemoshi，zhishixiangyaoshiqinggaibianhoudejieguo。

 dagebifang，zheijiuhaoxiangnigenwoshuo，“aiya，wozheicishuxuekaoshibujige，ninengbunengjiaowoyigebanfa，huijiawozenmegenwomashuo，keyibubeima？”

keshi，renshengbushigaiyicichengjizheiyangjiandan，womenyaogaibiandeshizijibenshendejietinengli。

 ruguozheishiyicishuxuekaoshi，neinijiudehaohaozuoti，haohaoxuexineixieshuxueyuanli。zheiyangnixiacikaoshicainengkaohao，erbushishuo：“wozheicikaodebuhao，nizenyangbangwogaigechengji？woxiayicijiunengkaohao。”

ruguoshizheiyang，xiacihaishibuhuihaode。yinweiniderenzhimoshimeigaibian，nenglimeitisheng，xiacihaishiyiyangdiaodaokengli。

yishangjiushidaan，dankenengliangyaokukou，nikandaoleweibihuijuedezheishinixiangyaodejieguo。

 yexunixiangyaodezhishiyigehuashu。neiwoquannisilezheitiaoxin，zheigeshijieshangmeiyouzheiyangdelingdanmiaoyao，nenggoujinizheizhonglingdanmiaoyaoderen，doushipianzi。

 danyucitongshi，woyexiangjiniyigekending：nishiyigehenchengshideren，niyuanyimianduiguoqu，yeyuanyigennidexiangqinduixiangqujiangqingchuzheixieshiqing。

ranhou，woxiwangjidaosuoyouyouzheileixingkunjingderenyigejutidezuofa。

zheileixingdekunjingshishenme？womenchengzhiwei「chongjixingkunnan」。

 suoyouyudaochongjixingkunnanderen，buguannishiliguohun，youyigehaizi，haishiganranleyiganhuozhezhongdajibing，youhuoshishenfujishiwandezhai。ruguonidanxinshuochushishihuiduilianggerenjianliguanxiyouchongjixingkunnandehua，neimewomendejianyishi：xuanzeyigeqiadangdeshijishuo。

zheigeshijiyidingbushizainimengangrenshideshihou，yinweineigeshihoutairongyirangbierenchanshengfudanganzhinanertui。

 danyejueduibushidengdaoshuangfangqueliguanxizhihoushuo，renjiadouyuanyigennitanhunlunjiale，nihurangentashuo，“qishiwohaiqianleyidabizhai”，zheikendingbudui。

 deshihoushizailianggerenjijiangqueliguanxideshihou，duifangduiniyoumingquedehaogan，bingqiezhengzaigennitichuyigechengnuo，zheigeshihounikeyiyiyigeshiruodefangshi，tanchengzijiguoquyudaodekunnan。

zhuyi，yidingbuyaoqipianduifang，danshikeyishiyigexuyaobeibangzhu，xuyaobeizhichizhedejiaose。

同时，也一定要反思过去有哪些地方做错了，并且表达一种以后一定会改的态度，这样的话不会给别人造成负担感。