冷眼观爱：年纪大了，对现在的男友不太满意怎么办

　　yinggaigenchuguilaogongshuonaxiehua，zaimianduichuguideshijishi，womenyaojiandingdizhimianwenti，ranhouzhaodaozhengquedefangfayuchuguidezhangfukaizhangoutong。yingdanggenchuguidezhangfushuonaxiehua，zheijiushiwomenyingdangshenzhongkaolv。zaijiaotanzhong，womennengbiaodazijideqingxuheyihan，tongshihaiyaobaochilixinghelixing。zuizhongyaodeshiyaozhenchengdixushuzijidexiangfahedanxin，yucitongshimingquetichubenshendeqidaihedaodedixian。genjugoutong，xiwangkeyikaiqiliaotiandeanquantongdao，lejiebierendexiangfa，xunzhaowentiduice。

　　jianshu: ruhegenchuguidebanlvkaizhangoutong

　　了解自己的心情

　　yinggaigenchuguilaogongshuonaxiehua，zaihechuguidebanlvjinxingjiaoliuyiqian，zuizhongyaodeshilejiezijidexinqing。zheiyangdeqingkuangxia，xuyaobaochilixingshijiannande，danshiwomenbixutupoziji，jinkenengjingxiaxinlai。shizheqingtingzijineixinshenchu，lejiezijidexiangfa，bingzhiliyubiaodafangfa。

　　表达真实体会

　　yubanlvzhenchengdigongxiangzijideqingxuyinggaishinantidediyibuchuli。zaijiaotanzhong，bubihulvezijidexiangfa，buyaoyayizijiqingxu。yingyong“woshengan...”neiyangdehuayu，tanrandibiaodaziyidejiaolv、xinhanyutongku。zheiyouliyulingyifanggenghaodilejieneixindexintai，bingdailaigengshencengcidehuihua。

　　探寻的共识与理解

　　zaigoutongzhong，yaochangshilingtingduifangdejieshihuoyuanyin。suiranchuguigerenxingweibunengjiena，danshitongguolejiebicidongji，dajiakeyigenghaodelejiezijidesixianghetihui。zheibingbutichuyaokuanronghuojiena，gengshiweilekaiqiliaotiandefangshi，chuangjiandegongshiyulijiedeqianti。

　　确立期待和道德底线

　　zaiyuchuguidebanlvjiaotanshi，womenyaoqingxidibiaodazishendeqidaihedaodedixian。tanlvdibiaomingzijiduiciduanguanxideqiwangyijiduiyuzhongshideguiding，zheiyeshibixude。yucitongshi，yebixumingquebiaodazishenjieshoubulezijidedixian，jinyibuzhuzhongzijiduiyuguanxidegaoduzhongshihezizun。

　　探寻解决方法

　　goutongdexiaoguobujinjinshibiaodaqingganyuqidai，haishixiangyaoxunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa。yuchuguidebanlvyiqixiangzheruhezhongjianxinrenhetigaoguanxi。nenggoutantaohunyinfudao、zhuanyexinlizixunhuoqitashihedefangshi。gongtongshangdingyigejihua，bianyujianjiandixiufufujianguanxi。

　　保护自己利益

　　suiranwomennulihechuguidebanlvjinxingjiaoliuhehuifuguanxi，danshiyeyaobaohuzijiliyi。zheiyexuyinggaikaolvfawuhecaiwubaozhangdeng。zhangwozishenquanyihebaohuzijiliyi，baozhengzishendeliyibuhuishoudaosunhai。

　　自我疗愈与成长

　　chuguijinglishitongkuyushanghai，buguanyubanlvdeguanxihuizenyangfazhanqushi，douyaoziwoliaoyuyuchengzhang。xunzhaojishuzhuanyexinlishudao、jijikaizhanshentijiankangzhutihuodong，zhaodaoziwowanqianghefujianzixinxindefangshi。

　　重建信任的一个过程

　　zhongjianxinrenshiyigezhangqiermanzhangdeguocheng，meiyoujiejingkezou。bicibixureqingheqinfen，tongshihaiyaojiyubicizhijianshijianyukongjian。tongguobuduandegoutong、zhongshiyuxingwei，buduannulidezhongjianxinren。

　　考虑到离婚挑选

　　zaiyiduanhunyinzhong，chuguihenyoukenengshirenchanshengpanbiandeganjuele，nanyirenshoubingqieyuanyixunzhaoliyi。zaizuochuzheiyijuedingyiqian，bixushensishulv，bingchongfenpingdingguanxizhongdemouxieyaosu。lihunshiyixiangzhongyaodejueding，zuihaoshizaibaochiqingxinghelizhizhuangtaixiazuochu。

　　坚守本心的基本原则

　　yinggaigenchuguilaogongshuonaxiehua，buguanzuihoudejuedingzenyang，zuizhongyaodejiushiyaojianchizijidebiaozhunhesixiang。zaihechuguidebanlvkaizhangoutongshi，biewangjiziyidezunyangerenjiazhi。buguanjieguoruhe，zishizhizhongbaochizhuwanqianghexinxin。