怎样对付第三者？处理第三者的最好方式：无动于衷！

 haijide《qingshenshenyumengmeng》zhong，heshuhuanshuoguoyijujingdianhuaxinnanjingdiantaici：woxiangwobingbushiquanshijie，weiyiyigeyucitongshiduiliangnvxindongderenba~haoxiangtamen，mianduidisanzhezhengquedeyingduifangshiyounaxie？congjinyihou，jiubianchengxuduonanshengjizijiganqingpanbiandetuoci，haoxiangjishipanbianle，haikeyizhengdaguangmingdehuodekuanrong。zenyangduifudisanzhe？

 naizhiyeyouyibufenmeinvbeizheizhongguandianhuyou，juedemeigerendoufancuowu，tangruoqueshishenaiyigeren，buguantazhiqianzenyangduini，buguantafannaxiecuo，nidoushihuiqukuanrong，naizhiweitazhaoyuanyin，tangruobuaiyigeren，henyoukenenglingyifangzhishuocuoleyijuhua，jiumashangsipolianpitichufenshou。

 danbuzhengqueyefenchicun，feishiquanbubuzhengquedouzhidebeikuanrongde，ziranyeshiyouqiantitiaojiancunyou，neibianshilianggerendeguanlianshuiping。

 zhenduixuduofufulaijiang，jiusuanbicifashengleganqingshangdepanbian，chongfenkaolvxiaohaijiqibicilaonianrendetihui，dahuoerdoushihuitiaoxuanyanqianzaicijingyingaiqingguanlian。

 bingdongsanchifeiyirizhihan，youdeqingkuangxia，bingbushinvrenyaoxiangyiwangjiunengyiwangde，youyuhuichuxiandisanzhewujiezhidedachaodanao，yaoxiangqudaitade。

yingduizheileidisanzhe，zuihaoshidechulifangfabianshishierbujian。

缘故一：理睬她便是给她脸了

 mianduidisanzhezhengquedeyingduifangshiyounaxie？zuoweinanshengxuanbudelaopo，dahuoercaisuanshibeixuduorenrentongdenanshengdeairen，erdisanzheshizhongshiduozaiyinanchu，haipajiantaiyangdeqiezei。

 tamendaozoulenvxingdehunyinshenghuo，daozoulenvxingxiaohaidehexiejiating，daozoulezheiyijiazhongdepingjing，tamendecunyou，haosiyipanrenjianmeiweizhongdewenchong。

 jiarunilicaitamen，tamenfandaohuigengweijilianbuyaolian，lejiezishendecunyou，queshiduinidehunyinshenghuodaozhileweihai，bianhuigengweimingmuzhangdandehuihuai，zhizhidajialihunhoushouwei。

 jinguanshuozheiyiquanshijiederen，bushifensanliujiudengde，meigerendoushigongpingde，danshehuidaodequejiangrenquhuabianchengbuyiyangdejieji。

 mingzhidaonanshengzaoyiyouqishidezhuangkuangxia，haixuyaohengchayijiao，neiyangdenvrenshimeishenmeshehuidaodeketande，yehuibidahuoerzhuolieshangxuduo。

duiyuanyuanburuzishendenvxing，dahuoeryouhekunazhengyanqukankantamen，neiyangjiuzongshidielezishendeshenjia，taijuledisanzhe。

缘故二：让她知难而退

 disanzhewangwanghuimingmuzhangdandefashengzainiderichangshenghuo，guanjianmudibianshiweilegenghaodiexinxiangtuni，haocongzheidangzhonghuoli，kenengshijiecijihuirangdajialihunhou，zishenhaoxuanbucongbeihoulaidaozoudao，yehenyoukenengjinjinweilegenghaodicongzheidangzhongdedaoqiancaishangde“peichang”。

keyishuo，zaiquanbujijibianchengdisanzhedenvxingzhong，jiumeirendexinlizhuangtaishitianzhende，quanshiyoumudide。

 biru《sanshieryi》zhongdelinyouyou，conglejiexuhuanshanzhujian，jiulejietashiyoujialiyouxifuyouxiaohaide，dantahuoshixiangjinbanfadetiejinlingyifang。

youyutaxiaixuhuanshan，xiangyaochengweixutaitai，erzaishixiaxuduonvxingdexinli，zhixuxingfu，quanbudeyiqiedounenggoubeikuanrong。

 zaitamenlaikan，ganqingpindeyeshiyizhongdanliang，buguyiqiededonglexin，huoxujiuzaiyiqile，ciwaizheixiejuqibudingde，bansuizheshijiandeliushi，nongdebianqianle，shendebiandanle，tamengantan“cuoguole”le，shijishangjinjindangshichaleyidian“yingyong”。

 jinjinbingbushiquanbudeyiaiweiming，dounenggoubeichenweizhenzhengdeaiqing，xianglinyouyoudeaideneimeshen，daliangdeshizisizili，congshizhizhongdoubuguoshiweilegenghaodidadaozishendechongdong。

 jiaruzhenaiyigeren，niyidinghuiweilegenghaodilingyifang，erxiangyaozuochuyiqiefangqi，danlinyouyoudeaideneimeshen，burongzhiyizhibuguoweilegenghaodizishenbale，congmeiqueshikaolvdaoguoxuhuanshan。

 zhenduizheileizhenduixingquelidedisanzhe，niyejiugengweimeiyoubixulicaitamenle，yidannilicailetamen，bianhuigaozhilingyifang，tamendemudidadaole。

 youyulejiezishendechuangjinqueshirangniderichangshenghuodaozhileweihai，ruguoniyaoxiangranglingyifangwanquancongniderichangshenghuoxiaotui，jiuwubijiufan。

 huoshishiyouyulingyifangdecunyou，erhenanshengzaochengwujiezhidezhengzhi，zhizhizuizhongzheiyiduanbenjiuyaoyaoyuzhuideqinggan，wanquantubengwajie。

fanguolainideshierbujian，haoxiangshizaigaozhilingyifang，jie，buyaochinizheitao。

rangtamenquanbudegongjigerenxingwei，douyuelaiyuehaowujiazhi，zuihoujiuzongshibuzhanerbai！

缘故三：谁惹出来的事儿谁处理

guigenjiedi，zheibuguoshinvrenhenanrenzhongjiandeshier，zhibuguoshiyouyunihenanshengdeyizhihunshu，caijiangnichelejinqu。

 jiarudisanzheyaoxiangqianzheng，neimabidingyaolijingnanshengdeyuanyi，zheishiqingyunimeishier，youyujishinibuyuanyi，jiarunanshengzaoyikendinglexinyaohelingyifangzaiyiqi，nideniantouyagenbuzhongyao。

jishinimeiyuanyiliyi，lingyifangyekeyizaiwaimianjianlizishendejiating，exinxiangtusini。

 jiarunanshenggenbenjiumeixiangguoqueshiyaohelingyifangruhe，haixiangyaobaohuyunidehunyinshenghuo，neimazhixutadexintaichongzuguoduan，disanzhebianhuibuzhanerbai，chelizhibuguoshijianwenti，taruguoxiangyaoliangzaineili，jiujitaliangzhehaola。zenyangduifudisanzhe？

 jiarudisanzhejinjinqiucaiyun，neigengmeiyoubixulijingnideyuanyile，youyuzheishiqingnanshengzishenzishenjiunengchulihao，hekuxiangyaonitongyi。

 yinci，wulundisanzhedemudishisha，nvxingdanenggouzuowoxingwosu，jiangnantidiujinansheng，yuanbenzheizhongshierbianshilingyifangrechulaide，jiuyingdangtamenlaichuli。

 danghunyinshenghuofashenglechuangruzhehou，daodishigaizaicihuoshigaifenli，tashikunhuoxuduonvxingdenanti，meiyigerendetiaoxuanquanshibuyiyangde。

 jiaruniquedingzishenkeyizaishijiandequanyuxia，wanquanxuehuifangxiazheizhongwangri，neimajianchixiaquyemeiyoushenmebutaihao，danjiaruyizhishinichangranruoshi，couhepinjiedehunyinshenghuoyekeyibubi。

 danyouyizhongzhuangkuangbixudahuoershensishulv，bianshilingyifangshibeidisanzhedezhuangkuangxia，genbenbianshiyinweizishendenanshengzaiwaimianshuohuangyoupianbiededenvxing。

 zheileizhuangkuangxia，tiyidahuoeryaolixingyidian，lijibaituoneiyangdenansheng，caikeyirangzishendecishengxingfukuaileyougenggaodequebao。

 zenyangduifudisanzhe？xuduoqingkuangxia，shixianeiyigedajiarenweimaibuyiwangdejian，yiduanshijianyihouzhuanguotoukanshijishangzaoyiqingqingsongsongraoguo；shixianeiyigedajiarenweichengbuyiwangdeshike，shijishangqiangrenaozheyejiushunlichengzhangdiguoqu，zheishijianmeiyoukeyizhenzhenzhengzhengjibainidewupin。

 richangshenghuozaizaici，jianglaihaijiaozhang，danghunyinshenghuofashengnantihou，nengxiuzexiu，xiubushangdehua，jiudiuqi，haizishenyigeqingjing，zhidaotiaojianchengshu，zaizaicigoumaiyifen。

 mianduidisanzhezhengquedeyingduifangshiyounaxie？jilao，zheiyiquanshijiemeishenmebinizijidekaixingengguanjian，quanbudetiaoxuan，douxuyaoyizishendekaixinxingfukuaileweiqiantitiaojian，neimanantiyejiudedaojiejuele~