如过婚姻中出现第三者，我们如何对待？处理第三者最好方式是？

 waiyu，yongyouzhuduofumianyingxiang，dantazeshiyigerichangshenghuodajiayoukenengzaoshoudeshiqing。ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？tangruonibeicanzaoyuleta，yingdangzenmebanni？chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 shujudiaochabaogao，chanshengwaiyuhou，25%deairentiaoxuanleliyi，75%derenbaochilebenlaideguanlian。danzheibingbingbushibiaomingniyinggaicongzhongxinli，zheiyihuiyingyebushijianyide“quanfen”huo“ziranshikuanrongta”。

guanlianshibushizaici、zenyangzaici，zaiyubicizenyangkandaizheiyiduanguanlian，jiqilianggerenshibushiweixiubuguanlianerqinfen。

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1.ta外遇的本质是啥？

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？waiyuyouhenduozhongduoyang，nixuyaogaoqingchudeshi，tashiqipanxingdeshenmigan，huoshiyouyigezhuanyedezongtimubiao？tajinjinsuiyiliaoliao，huoshiqueshishenaizhelingyifang？youshi，chuguizhezishenyebuyidingqingxi，danweilegenghaodishulidajiadeguanlian，bixubiciyiqipouxi。

2.你的道德底线又是啥？

 meiyigerenduichuguidedingyihedaodedixianbuyiyang，youxierenhenyoukenengbuzaihuzaiweixindaqingmaqiao，zhizaihuroutichugui；youxierenzehenyoukenenglianairenkanseqingshipin、zhaopiandoubukeyijiena。zaiguanlianzhujianshi，zuihaoshiduiyuzheizhongdaodedixiankaizhangoutongjiaoliu，rangbiciquelibicizhijianduiguanliandelejie。

3.关联怎样再次，由爱人决策，而不是第三者：

 zaifajueairenwaiyushi，wuxudanxinwaiyudeguanjiandian，lirubuduansisuo“tamendouqunalikaifangjianle？shifoutachuangshangjiqiaojimianzi？”

 fanguolai，nixuyaoquelideshiwaiyuduidajiaerzhelaijiangdeshijiyiyihedongyin：nizenyangkandailianggerenrujindeguanlian？shibushihainengxinlaibicizhijian？dajiadeguanlianzhongshibushiyounaxienanti，zaochenglewaiyu？

4.引进保持中立人的协助：

 zhaoxunyigebaochizhonglidedisanfang，ruguoyoubiaozhun，nenggoushizhehunyinshenghuo/jiazhongkangfushikaizhanairenxinlifudao。zheiyilaiyuanyuwaibudexiezhu，huoxunenggourangdajiaguanchadaozaihunyinguanxizhong，dajiafenbiederenwujiaoseheqianzaixingdenanti。

 lilundeshuozhixuweihaifuqiganqingdedisangexingweizhutibianshidisanzhe。huanjuhuashuobabamama、ernv、nannvguimi、naizhiwuban，douhenyoukenengbianchenghunyinshenghuolidedisanzhe，naizhishiyouxi、shoujishang、gongzuozhongdoukeyibianchenghunyinshenghuolidedisanzhe，erbujinzhidisanzhe。tahuotamendefashengduifuqiganqingzaochengleguanjiandeweihai，yincidajiacaihuilaisisuo，yingdangzenyangkandai。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 yibanzhuangkuangxiafashengdisanzhezuixingxianghuadeyigezhuangkuang，shizaiqizhongyirenhuobicibaguanxindeguanjianfangdaolezheiyi“disanren”deshenshang，erhulvelefuqiganqingdeyunyinghejibenjianshezishen。liruguoduoguanxinxiaohai，guoduoguanxinzhaoguhaozijiyifangdejiatingguanxilidelaonianrenhuoxiongmei，guoduozijintouruyugongzuozhong，guoduoshejiaomeitijiaojideng，ziranyeyidingbaohandisanzhe。

yinci，fuqijiandeyiqiezhengchanglianjiejiubeiqieduanle。

 chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？jiazhongzuoweishehuifazhanzuijibendeshehuifazhantixibaomokuai，yidingshi“fufu”guanlianzaixian，caizaochengbiededequanbuguanliande。buguanfashengdedisanzheshinayizhongfangshide，dangyishidaoyoushenmewentideqingkuangxia，diyibuquanshiyaorenqingxifuqiguanxidexingweizhutishifufuzishen。shitiaoxuansheqidajiadeguanlian，huoshixiubudajiadeguanlianzaicichuangjianlianjie？shisuiyuerandefazhanqushihuoshizaicisikaonantizishen？douzaiyuliangrenduizheiyiduanguanliandelejie，jiqibicishibushixiangyaoweilegenghaodixiubuzheiyiduanguanlianergongxianliliang。

 ruguonifajuezaizheiliduanguanlianzhongbushufuhuobeihulveshi，huoruguonifajuezishenzaizheiliduanguanlianzhongyu“disanzhe”deguanlianqinmiwujianyufuqiganqingzishenshi，bianshibixudiaojiedeshujuxinhao。

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？jiarudisanzhezhidezhibuguoshi“disanzhe”，neitadefashengzishenyeshifuqiganqingfashengnantide“shujuxinhao”。zidisanzhefashengdaochuguichansheng，yidinghuiyouyigexinlizhuangtaizhengtuohexingdongshangzuochutiaoxuandequanguocheng。huanjuhuashuo，fashengdisanzheshiyigezhuangkuang，waiyushiyizhonggerenxingwei，womenyaoguanxindeshijishangbingbushizheiyigerenxingweizishen，zhishitashenhoudebenzhi。disanzhedefashengyuanshijieduan，jinjinzaochengleyigetiaoxuanheyinyou，bingbingbushifashenglezaoyiwaiyudekeguanshishi。