人到中年，婚姻关系中出现了第三者，如何处理第三者关系？

 zaiqingganzhongniyoumeiyouxiangguoneiyangdeyigenanti：“jiarunideqingganzhongfashengledisanzheninengruhe？”ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？dajiarenyifangtanlejizufufu，shiwomentaolunyixiatamendehuiying。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 anvxing：worenweizaiyiduanqingganzhongjiarunengfashengdisanzhe，zheijianshiqingbukeyizhiguaidisanzhe，airendechuguixingweibangwochanshengdesunhaiwonanyipingfu，neimayejiudaibiaozhetashiyiduanshifendipinzhideqinggan。zuiculudechulifangfabianshiliquzheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo。worenweimeiyigerendaohunyinshenghuoshangdouhuipengdaogezhonggeyangdeyinyou，hebiedeyixingpengyoufangzhibushangxiangchu，neimanengfoukeshouzhuzishendedaodedixianzaiyuduihunyinshenghuodemanyidu，jiaruyigerenzaihunyinshenghuozhonglianzuijibenshangdezhongshidouquebaobushang，wogentahaizaiyiqitushenmeni？

 bnvxing：henyihanwoshibeiwaiyudeneiyige，dajiarujinyouyigexiaohai，zaixiaohaideyanqianbicizhijiandeguanlianshifendehao，danwofaxianletalaogongjingshenchuguile，keshitabingmeiyouheneiyigenvdefashengxingguanxi，woyebuzhidaoyinggaizenmeban，buqingchuzenmechulitayudisanzhedeguanliandajiacaiburongyitubengwajie，wojuedewanliuwodelaoban，gairuhedisanzhecaihuizhudongdezishenchechuni？wogaiduitashuowoyijingzhidaotamenzhongjiandeshierlemeiyou？

 cxiansheng：ai，zheiyidailvmaodaidewozhendeshicuobujifang，dangshizaozhiyebuyingdangjianchibuxiezijideniantou，xianzaiwomeisheiledouxiangzhaogediquzuanru。dajiashifouyoubeixifuchuguide？woshenpangquanshinandewaiyu，wojingranbeichuguile，wojiujingshinalizuobudui，woduitahenhao，qianyibaishun。yiqianlejietahuaileyunkeshineiyigenandepaole，wohetawanhungenbierenshuozheiyixiaohaijiushiwode。woyiweineiyangtabianhuixincunganenyizhiduiyuwohaoxialai，danshini，tajingranchuguile。tayaowokuanrongtajiangtajinyouyici，danqueshibuqingchuyinggaizenmebanle。kanjianxiaohaijiaonendeliankong，wozaoyibatazuoweiwoqinxiaohaile，zheigeshihoushitaxuanzelikaigensuitaneibukekaodemuqinwozhendeshiguanian。

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？dangqingganzhongfashengdisanzhedeqingkuangxiahenduorendiyishijianquanshixiangqiwanbizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo，danyeshiyouyixierenxiangbaocunzheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo。neimazenyangcainengzaiyiduanqingganzhongweihubaoyangzishendequanyi，yongconghuirangzishendezhangfudiaozhengxintaini？

 neimadajiaxianpouxiyixiaweiheqingganzhonghuifashengdisanzhe，zaizheigequanguochengzhongnixuyaoxiangyixiangshenmejiaodisanzhedeshenshangyoudeyaosu，shenmejiaozishendedeshenshangmeiyoudeyaosu。qingganzhongwaiyuzongshibushiduide，dantongguozheiyihaikeyikandechulaidajiazhongjiandeqingganhaowuyiwenfashengleyidingdenanticaihuirangdisanzhejiejierru，bingbuyiweizhenizishenshimeiyouyiqienantide。

 ziranjiaruniyaodejinjinganpaodisanzhe，bingbingbushizhenzhenzhengzhengrangzishendezhangfuhuolaopodiaozhengxintaidehua，neimadajiazhongjianhaowuyiwenhaihuijixufashengdisizhe，diwuzhe，shubujinderen。

 neiyangdefangfabunenggenchu，bukeyicongyidiandeshuipingshangquchulidajiazhongjiandenanti，zheigeshihounixuyaoshanyuguanchadajiazheiyiduanqingganzhongjiujingshinalifashenglenanti，yaoxiangbanfaxiufudajiazheiyiduanqingganzhongdeliefeng，zairichangshenghuozhongjianjiandirangzishendezhangfugaoqingchu，zishenzhongguiyujiazhong。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 biru：youyigeyueduzhetazairichangshenghuozhongyizhipipanzishendezhangfu，zhangfuyoudeqingkuangxiabenxiangjilaopoyidianxiaojingxi，danhuodedejinjinlaopoyiju“youzheiyishijianniyaobibushangquxiangyixiangruhetigaozijidexiaoshouyeji，duojijiazhongzhuandianqian”。jiandaozheiyiniyoumeiyouyixieshenyoutihui，shifouyouduizhangfushuoguoneiyangdehua。ziranzhangfuzaitingjianneiyangdehua，zishenneixinyeshishenmeganjue。neimahaola，zheigeshihouruguoyouciwaiyigenvrenzanyangzhangfudezixi，kanhaolezhangfudelanman，dabufenzheigeshihoutamenzhongjiandeguanlianbianhuiyuezouyuejin，zhangfudabufendaozhonghouqibianhuilunxianle。

youdeqingkuangxiahenyoukenengjinyouyijuhuajiukeyidakuazhangfudexinlizhuangtai，rangdisanzhesanjiejishangtai。

 xiangzheileizhuangkuang，jiarunifajuelemeimuzhihounenggoushiduyuelaiyuewenwanyixie，duoshouhouta。dadaochushideguishugantayouhenduozhongduoyangfangshi，jiewen，xiangyong，pifudefumo，wennuandeyifukuzi。zheizhonggerenxingweidounenggoushitaganjuenizhuanbianshifenda，zaizheigeshihounijiuxuyaojulishuomingshuosheinajiadelaogongyouwaiyu，zhihouzenyangdecan。

neimadabufendaozheierzhangfuyejiudongle，xinlidianrandehuoyanjiukeyilijidizuge。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 ziranzairichangshenghuozhongyouhaoduohaoduonenggoumoshadisanzhedefangfa，jiarunidezhangfujiqilaopozaoyichuguile，neimaworenweinilaizhaodisanzhenaochedimeiyouyong，youyugenbenyuanyinfashengzainidezhangfudeshenshang，nixuyaocongzhangfuzheierkaolv，jiarutazaoyichediyiqingbielianle，worenweiwanliuneiyangdeyiduanqingganshimeiyoubiyaode。

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？jiaruniyuairenzhongjiancunyoushiyongjiazhiheluojisiweidechaju，niyaonulixuexi，huoshishitanulixuexi，jinerdaxinliduideqishangbicizhijian。zaidisanzhelaiyiqian，shouweihaozishen，yeshouweihaodajiadeganqing。