处理第三者最好方式：“第三者”对于“双边关系”所起的作用

 yitiji“disanzhe”，dajiazuixianxiangqide，henyoukenengbianshihunlianjiaoyounantizhongde“disanzhechazu”。ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？shijishang，budanshihunlianjiaoyouguanlian，yiqieyizhong“zhanlvehuobanguanxi”，douhenyoukenengyinwei“disanzhe”deganyu，erchanshengbianhua。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 youshi，yigerenyuanbenbingbuyuanzuowei“disanzhe”erganyubierendeguanlian，keshiyinweitadedaochang，tahuoshijuyoule“disanzhe”degongxiao。liru，liangrenzhengchao，chaoleyizhenzi，rujinzaoyichaodebuneimaxiongle，danshi，yikandaopangbianlailayiwei“guanzhongmen”，mashangyoudashengdifashengzhengzhi。wulunzheiming“guanzhongmen”zhuguanxingshangshizenmexiangde，zaikeguanxingshang，taxianeryijianshiduizheiliangwei“beigaofang”，juyoule“guli”degongxiao。

 ziran，yeshiyouneilei“yanerbuxinbuluan”deren，tamenjiandaoyouxierenzhengchao，jiuxinggaocailiediquhuoshangjiayou。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？yeyouyizhongzhuangkuang，shifashengzhengzhide“beigaofang”，jijidiyaoba“guanzhongmen”jiajinlai。tongchangshizhengzhidebici，douzhengzhexiang“guanzhongmen”gaobai，zishenzenyang“qiadang”，lingyifangzenyang“manbujiangli”，xiangrang“guanzhongmen”jizijibangqiang。

zheijileizhuangkuangxia，“disanzhe”dedaochangheganyu，quanshiwulieryouweihaide。

 youshi，zhengzhidebiciyinweixintaiguoduxingfen，yagentingbujianlingyifangdaodizaishuoxienaxie。jinyoujianshizhelejie，tamendezhengzhishimingyueshijiyiyide，zhixushuangfangdounenglingting，bingqielejielingyifangchangshuodehua，jiuchedimingyuezhengzhidebixu。

 womenkeyiqingmeiyoubenrendexintaiheguandiandedisanzhedaochang，shitajiejinsuonengdilailingtinghelejiebicideguandian，binghuiyingbicichiyoudejianjiehesuobaodexintai。chulidisanzhezuihaofangshiyounaxie？

 dangzhengzhidebici，doufajueyouxierennengjiejinsuonengdilejieta，nenglizaitadeguandianshangkanlainantishi，jiangqihualaijiubuhuizaineibanyanguoqishile，xintaiyebuhuizaineibanpaichile，doumeiyoubixuzaiweichineileijuedezishenyidingshiduide，juedelingyifangyidingshicuodexintaile。

 ruhechulidisanzheguanxi？laikan，bulunshicongzhenglianeryan，huoshicongbeimianeryan，“disanzhe”zhendui“zhanlvehuobanguanxi”qizhedegongxiao，quanshiburonghushide。yaojiejuehaorenherenzhijiandeguanlian，dajiayifangmianyaoyunyong“disanzhe”qizhedejijizhudonggongxiao；lingyifangmian，haiyaobaochijingti，bimian“disanzhe”dui“zhanlvehuobanguanxi”qiyingxianghehuihuaidegongxiao。