男人变心，自己该怎么对待第三者

 yingduizhangfudepanbian，xuduo laopodounanyirenshou，yincifeijinxinsigezhonggeyangfangfayingduidisanzhehezhangfu。keshiyaolejie“daogaoyichimogaoyizhang”，yaoshimeiyouyouliangdefangshiheconghui，nanrenbianxinfeichangrongyizaoshoulingyifangdeshuangxiangjiagong。aiyigerenzhendeyoucuomaneimadaodigaizenyanglingyifangdisanzhehezhangfuni?

最先，要分而治之，攘外安内。

 yaoxiangyingduidisanzhehezhangfu，nijiuxuyaomingbaifenerzhizhi，yifangliangrenningchengyigusheng，jiangniduli，houbiandisanzhezhuanzheng，niquefandaobianchengbierendexiaoliao。zhangfuwangwangwaiyu，tongchangshiwaibiandeyinyouchongzu。yaolejiezhenduinanshengeryan，yidanqueshihuochuqule，neitongchangbinvxinggenglixing，liyideshiertashihuizuodechuqude。yinci ，nixuyaoxiangyingduidisanzhehezhangfu，nijiuxuyaoxiankongzhunidezhangfu。niyaoshiyougongzuonenglikongzhuleyitou，neimayigebazhangpaibuxiang，renyoudisanzhezenyangchengbayifang，neiyeshizizhaomeiqu。yinci ，nixuyaomingbaituanjieyizhiyiqienenggoutuanjiedeliliang，naizhinidegongpo，rangtamenjinizhuangdaliliang，yiqiposuidisanzhe，xianshouhaojiazhong，qitadenantihoubianzaijiejue。

次之，要调虎离山，以问题为导向。

 xuduo qingkuangxianvxingdexutaotongchangbianchengnanshengbeijinglixiangdeyuangu。nijiranxiangyingduidisanzhehezhangfu，niyejiunenggoushifanghuaqugaozhizhangfuninengruheyingduidisanzhe，lingwainiyenenggougaozhidisanzheninengruhekandainizhangfu。nanrenbianxinjiliangrenchedibuyiyangdeguandian，rangliangrenzishenquwujiexianghu，jinershengchanzhizaotamenzhongjiandekongxi，nicongzheidangzhongganyu，bazhangfuwanliujiazhong，rangdisanzhejianjuhunyinshenghuoyiwai。jiazhongdeguanjianbianshirangzhangfugendisanzheduanjuelianluo，yinci niwubixiangbanfarangzhangfulejiedisanzhequanbudequexianhenanti，naizhirangzhangfugaoqingchu，tajinjinxiaishangyigelixianghuadelianren，ershishishangzheileimengxiangzishenxiangxiangde，disanzhemeiyoutaxiangxiangdeneimajizhi。errichangshenghuozishenbianshiyaozhongguizishendezuobiao。

最终，要明白忍者龟，福流源长。

 ruguonihaojinyiqienengliangjiangzhangfuliuyoushi，nijiuxuyaomingbairennai，rennaitaduinidebumanyihemaiyuan。youyuyigeneixinjinglitarendenansheng，tongchanghuinanigenlingyifangjiaowei。keshinixuyaogaoqingchu，hunyinshenghuodangzhongyuanbenbianshichanzazhexuduo buhexiedeyinlefuhao，lingyifangzaoyiliudaonideshenpangle，nihekuqujinjinjijiaotaneixindaodishiruhexiangde，jibian taxiangdedao，tayezuobudaoshiquanshimei。dengguoxieshiri，quanbudereqingdouhuazuopingpingdandan，ninenggaoqingchu，zhenduijiazhongeryan，pingjingdeqingkuang，pingfandeshenghuozishenbianshiyizhongxingfukuaile。tebieshizainianjiyueda，yuebuxiangqujinjinjijiaowangri。tajinglidisanzhe，keshinikendingbuhuiyouyutayiqianfanguodebuzhengquejiusheqilingyifang，erzheizishenyeshiyizhongbaorong，yeshiyizhongtonghuashun。

 ruguoniyingduiledisanzhehezhangfu，ninenggaoqingchuhaodehunyinyuanxianbianshiguowangbujiu，zhongguipingpingdandan。fufubicizhongjian，yizhihuichuxianyifangzuocuoshi，mingbaijiejuekunnandeneiren，tongchangcaihuizaizhihouhunyinshenghuozhongjubeigenggaodezhudaoquan。aiyigerenzhendeyoucuomayinci yiwangdeshier，jiuzuoweishishuizhimeng，rangtamendoubianchengyiwangba!