高情商聊天术 3招教你打造高情商人生

 gaoqingshangliaotianshuzhong，gaoqingshangliaotianhuashufanliyouhenduozhidexuexidedifang。yiqianzaiwangluoshangjiandaoyizeyouyisideduangushi：xiaozhaodaishangnvyouhuijiale，qiaqiaogebilaowanglaichuanmener。tajiandaohoujiukualeyiju，nizheichouxiaozizhenyouyanguang，gennibayiyang。jianyiyijuhuajiubadaochangdesigerendoukualeyibian，zheibangaoqingshangdejianghuashuqueshirangrenqinpei。jishishishoudaobeipan，yenenggaoqingshangmianduinanpengyouchugui。

richangshenghuo，jianxindajiameiyigerendouyudaoguoneiyangdekunao：

zaihetarenliaotianshi，buqingchujiujinggaishuoxienaxie，tarenwenyijunidayiju，yixiazijiubatianliaosile。

benlaiyigejianyidejiandanziwojieshao，yizhandaozoudaojiuzhujianjiaolvbuan，danaokongquexiamianshuoxieshenmeyebuzhidaole。

xuduoqingkuangxia，biaoshufeichangjiandandeyijuhua，yebeishenbianderenjiwuhui，meiyicidouyinankanshouwei。

 shuobailezaishihedechangdishuoshihedehua，bunankanchu，jianghuashiyimendaxuewen，yeshibixuzhuzhongzaoxingyishude。ruhebashuohuadejiqiaoyingyongdaorichangshenghuo，zheijiubixudajiaxuexipeixunyixiegoutongjiaoliucengmiandefangfahefangshi。

下面，我们一起来看一下表述的重要标准都有哪些呢？

一、高情商表述的重要标准

 zaiyurenxiangchuzhong，guanlianpangencuojie，haodeyujulingrenmuyuchunfeng，xiangfenghenwan，erzhishangdeyuyan，shichirenbutugutou。jitarenchanshengsunhai，yeweizijiyedaozhiganga。

 liangyusandongnuan，eyanliuyuehan。jianghuashidajiadebennengfanying，erhuijianghuabianshigaoqingshangdezhuyaobiaoxian。yaoxiangchuangjianyouliangderenjijiaowang，jiuxuyaolejiezainaxiedechangsuoshuonaxiedehua。

1、zenmehuifashengliaobudaodezhuangkuang？

 chuangzuozheyiqianzuoleyixiezixun，zixundemubiaoquanshiyixiechangchangcanyuxiangqinyuehui，quehuoshiyubushangxinaimubiaoderen。xixinzhangwoyihou，tamenyizhishuo：woyuzheixienanpengyouchediliaobudao，yinciqingganyizhiyouyuanwufen。

neima，zenmehuiliaobudaoni？

 jiunaxiangqinyuehuizheijianshiqingeryan，xianglaihenduorendoushiyouguoxiangqinyuehuidelijing，bingbushisanguliupoxiangxijieshao，bianshicanyugezhonggeyangdazhongxingxiangqinyuehuikuanghuanpaidui。bicizuozhehoudeshufenzhongneijiuxuyaozaixinzhongyijulingyifangderongmaojiqizhuyaobiaoxianzuoyigepingding。ganjueokdejiukaizhanxiayibudezhangwo，taoyandejiulijipassdiao，zaizaicixiayilundexiangqinyuehui。

 zheizhongganjuejiuhaosizhaopinmianshiyiban，jinjindajiaderenwujiaosedoubianchenglezhaopinzhe，yaoduitarenkaizhan“xuanbo”he“qudai”。nanxingshi“jijitiaoxuandeyifang”，nvxingshi“beitiaoxuandeyifang”。shuangfangguandianbuyiyang，shunlichengzhangfashengle“jiaojiexian”。

 shuangfangdoushihuiyouyuguandianbuyiyangdenantifenbiecaiyongbuyiyangdexingdong，bicizhijianmeiyoubicizhongshi，dangranjiuburongyizaochengyouliangdehudongjiaoliuhegoutongjiaoliu。

2、xuehuayiqian，xianxuehaojiehua

lejielediyigeyuangu，dajiayiqilaikankandiergeliaobuqilaideyuangu，bianshi：“yiwenyida”dehuihuafangshi。

 haodegoutongfangshibianshixiangdayumaoqiuyiyang，laiquzirudounengdazailingyifangdeshoushang。liaotianyeshiyigedadaoli，bawozhulingyifangxiaidedianquliao，lirulingyifangxiaikandianshiju，neinenggouliaoyiliaolingyifangxihuanshenmezhongleideyingpian，zuijinyoushenmexindexindianyingshangyingzheixie。huoxunimenkanleyiyangyibudianying，qiahaojiukeyiliaoyiliaozheibuyingpiandexindetihui，ruciyilaidangranjiubaituolefangbianzhimen。

 dajiameiyigerendouxiaibeitarenguanxin，yincidangranshanyugongxiangzishenxiaideshier。xuehaohuihuayeshiweizijizaojiuyigeqingqingsongsongdeliaotianziranhuanjing，bicizhijianzhongshi，bicizhijiangongxiang。

3、“tongtongshuo”bibushang“shuoguanjian”

zhaopinmianshiyeshiyizhonggoutongjiaoliu。

 yingpinqiuzhishiyigezishenzhanxiandequanguocheng，zaizheigequanguochengzhong，dajiadoubixuquzhanxianzishendegongzuonengli，caihenyoukenengzhaopinmianshishangxinaidezhiwei。yizhiyu，henduorendoufanleyigepubiandebuzhengque，neibianshitaixiangchengxianzishenle，baquanbudewupindouyigunaopaojizhaopinzhe。

 chongzudetiqianzhunbeishimeiyoucuode，jinjinzheileizuofanijiangnidaxueshidaidehuihuanggerenshijidoujiangwanle，jiuchedihushilewenzhedetihui。tamenmeifabuhuoguanjian，dangranjiujibudenidetexing。zheijiurutongshuo，zhaopinzheaichiyiwandamifan，niquejiletaxianmiantiao，guoqiaomixian，baozimantouzheixiedewupin。wupinguoduo，taaichidedamifanhaidezishenhuashijianquzhao，neitahaowuyiwenningkecuoguoleyebuhuichizheiwandamifanle。

 yinci，zaikaizhanlingjuligoutongjiaoliushi，yaojijiguanchalingyifangdefanying，suishisuididiaojiezishendecuocishengyin、shengyinsuduhezhutifengge，gengjingquedequbiaoshuzishen，neiyangcaikeyishibeigongban。

neima，womenyiqilaixuexipeixunshijigaizenmezuoni？

二、立即见效的沟通的技巧

 haodegoutongdejiqiaorangwomenderichangshenghuohegongzuozhongbuhuizaichuyubeidong，qianbianlejielegoutongjiaoliudezhongyaobiaozhun，rujindajiayiqilaikankandouyounaxielijijianxiaodegoutongdejiqiao，shiniyibububianchenggaoqingshanghuishuohuaderen。

1、zenyangcaozongyinxiang--zaikaijushi“qianru”xinxineirong

yaoxiangjitarenliuyouyigehaodeyinxiang，kaichangcijiuzhiguanzhongyaole。

 jiaruniyishangchangjiuhenzaisandejidahuoerwenhao，shuo：“jinrijidahuoerchanshengdeneirongshifenyouyisi。”guanzhongbudanbuzaihu，naizhihenyoukenenghuishifendichu。

 chuangzuozhezaizheierxiangxijieshaoleyigeshifenjianyierhaoyongdexiaofangshi，bianshiwomenyaozaiyanshuodouhaimeijindaozhuti，guanzhongmendouhaimeicheditiqianzhunbeifeililuo，neiyangshuo：“jinriyaojidahuoerchanshengshifenjingcaifenchengdeneirong。”huoshi“jinrideyanshuoneirong，huirangdahuoerhuoyifeiqian。”

 zheizhonghuazaiguanzhongdouhaimeitiqianzhunbeifeililuo，buzhibujuedeshuochuqu，jiunengqiaoqiaodibahuapaoruzaitamendenaozili。youyudengyanshuowanbihou，dajiazuikaishichangshuodehuahuicanliuzaiguanzhongnaohaizhongli，jinerweihaitamenduiyanshuodezuihoutihui。

zheiyifangkanqilaifajianyi，qishiyouzhejudadenengliang，shifenhenling。

2、ruhejiechutifang--zaibuzhibujuezanyang

ruguonixiangyaoquzanyangtarendeqingkuangxia，yinggaizenmezuocaihuilingrenjuedezhenxinshiyierbuyouyini？

 shulitijiyigefangshi，bianshiyaochentamenxinlizhuangtaibushetifang，shifangyalidezhuangkuangxialaizanmeitamen。youyucike，tamendexinshishikaiqide，gengnengjienawaibudexiangsheng。

 liruniyaozanmeinideyiweizhigongshi，batajiaodaoyanqianyongxinshuo：”jinqigongzuoyejihenfeichanghao，fazhanfeichangda。“tahenyoukenengjiuzhujiantifangni，ganjuenibieyouyongxinle。danniyizhizailijingtashenpangwuyijiandeqingkuangxia，qujitashuodaotamen，zuodaodeshijixiaoguobianshichedibuyiyang。

 zheiyixiaochutifangdefangfaguanjianjiuqujueyu，womenyaozailingyifangshenxinjupidezhuangkuangxialaizanyangtamen。chuangzuozheduiyucishimingquetichule2geguanjianhuanjie：

yishi：zanyangdeqingkuangxiabiekanlingyifang。

ershi：jianghuashiyaoxiangnannanziyu，hendangrandequzanyang。

 yidingyaoranglingyifangjuedenibingbushizaiketaohuahuoshitaohao，zhishinidezhenxinhua。zheiyangzicaikeyixiaochutadetifang，jienanidezanyang。

3、zenyangfangzhifawei--jingcaifenchengdeneirongxianshuo

 gaoqingshangliaotianshuzhong，gaoqingshangliaotianhuashufanliyouhenduozhidexuexidedifang。dajiadoulejie，xiaopengyoujinshi，diyishijiandoushihuixuanzezishenxiaidexiantundiao。zheijiurutongjianghua，yaoxiangxiyinzhutarentingnishuo，jiuxuyaoxianjiangzuijingcaifenchengdeyibufen。

jiandaozheier，dahuoerhenyoukenenghuixiang：jingcaifenchengdeyibufenbingbushiyaocunzhezhongdianzuizhongshuoma？

 jiarunineiyangxiangjiucuodalele，guanzhongdeshizhishiboqingguayiqiefeichangrongyiyiqingbieliande。jibiannijuededehenyouyisi，tamenyehenyoukenengyouyuyixiesuoshizoushenhuoshilichang。jiaruyikaishideneirongmeifaxiyinzhutamen，tamenjiuburongyizaixiwanghoubiandeneirongle。

yiner，yaozaiyikaishiyaoxiangxiyinguanzhongdexingquaihao，neinijiudexianpaochuquyixieshifenjingcaifenchengdeyuer。

汇总

 gaoqingshangdegoutonglinenggoushiwomenfengcaibiaozhang，chongchizhezixinxin。buguanzairichangshenghuolihuoshizaigongzuoshang，shidajiameiyigerendouxiangxuededeyixiangzhuanyejineng。tebieshizaiduiyuchenmoguayan、jianghuarongyidezuiren、yuyanbiaodanengligongzuonengliruodenanti，ruguoniyongxinquyueduwenzhangzheibenshuhou，ninengfajuenirichangshenghuosuozaoyudegezhonggeyanggoutongjiaoliunantidounengzailimianxunzhaolingrenmanyidehuida。

 youxingqudepenyoukehebuyiqilaikanyikan。zuizhong，suishihuanyingbianchengyigegaoqingshanghuishuohuaderen，taruzoushangrenshengdianfeng。jishishishoudaobeipan，yenenggaoqingshangmianduinanpengyouchugui。