老实人吃亏是因为不会说话 高情商的人怎么聊天

 gaoqingshangderenzenmeliaotian？ziguyilaiqingshenwufaliuzhu，zhiyoutaoluderenxin。tamenbuqingchuheshibianchengzhenzhi，xuduoshizairenwangwangchidakui，doushiyouyujinjintaoxintaofeiweitarentouru，erdaozuizhongquebingmeiyouhuodeyigehaojieguo。gaoqingshangdexiangqinliaotianjilugaosuni，gaoqingshangderenshuohuahentaolu。

 nandaoshuoqueshishiyouyushizairentaishizai，yincikanqilaitaiguoduyudunerchidakuidema？yiqianwojuedeshiyouyushizairenmengdongwuzhi，meiyouxinyaneryincizaochengyizhibeibieren“keng”，zhizhiduguodayemengzide《tebiehuishuohuaderendouzheiyangshuohua》hou，cairumengchuxingyuanxianlaoshirenchikuiquanshichizailezuibian。

 jianeryanzhi，qiahaoshiyouyulaoshibajiaorenbuhuishuohua，caifashenglechilibutaohaodechuoxin，caiyongyou“wozhongwodexinxiangmingyue，zennaimingyuezhaogouqu”dewukenaihe。

 eryaoxiangjianglixiadeqiadaohaochu，nengrangzishendetouruyouyidingdeshiyongjiazhi，bixugaoqingshangjianghua，jinyouyineiyangdaishanghuanweisikaodeshuohuafangshi，caikeyirangzishenderenyuanrenpinyuebianyuehao。

低情商智商的说话方式，会让关联难堪

 zaixianshishenghuozhong，shizairenyibandouhenzhenxinshiyiditouru，duisheiyemeiyouguyi，duisheidouhenqianxuhereqing，dantongchangzuizhongzhihuodeleyige“fahaorenka”。tarentidaodeqingkuangxia，zuiduojiangju：zheiyeshigeshizairen。

yihou，bulunshijinshenghuoshizhangxin，douheshizairenbuxianggan，erzheixieduishizairendehaoganduyukendingbianmeiyoulexiamian。

 xuduoshizairendougantan：weishatouruleneimeduo，quezuizhongwufadedaoyinggaiyoudehaojieguo。rutongxiaoyixiaojinqipengdaodekunaoyiyang。

 tashiheheyoumingde“shizairen”，bulunshipenyouhuoshipengyouyoujishijiaotabangzhu，taquanshitaoxintaofeidibangzhu，congbuhuihuijue，shubuzhiyouyitianxiaoyixiaobujingyiduiyigepenyoufadeyijuyuanyan：wozhendeburongyile。erbeidui：fangfoshuodesheigenfeichangrongyiyiyang，woyebufeichangrongyia。

 yincixiaoyixiaoxiangdaozishenduipenyoudetouru，erbiequditongkuqilai，tajuedezishenduipenyouyixiangtaoxintaofeidehao，zishenshangxindeqingkuangxiayuanbenyaoxianghuodeyixiekuanwei，xiangbudaoquerangzishennanguole，jinerganjuezishenduipenyouyiqiandetaoxintaofeidouyiwenbuzhi。

 shijishang，xiaoyixiaoshuozishenbuyiyezhibuguoshikoukoushengshengdefaxie，danzheileixiaochendeyuyanbiaodajiaruguazaizuishang，bianhuirangtarenjuedenanshou，zhibuguoshixiaoyixiaodepenyoujianghuayehendiqingshangzhishang，yuanbenxiaoyixiaoshixiangtasuoyaokuanweide，daobianchengtayiqidediaokan。

 ronghe《tebiehuishuohuaderendouzheiyangshuohua》，xiaoyixiaopenyouyaoxianggaoqingshanggoutongjiaoliu，buyinggaishuozishenyejianxin，zhishinenggouneiyangshuo：xiaoyixiaonijinqidequetingjianxinde，yaoliuyihelianpaishijian。

 neiyangdehuifubianshigaoqingshangdegoutongjiaoliu，yifangmianhaowuyiwenlelingyifangdejianxin，zheiyeshihuanweisikao，lingyifangmianyedechudejiejuefangfa，yaohelianpaishijian。

nikankan，yiyangyijianshi，yongbuyiyangdeshuohuafangshi，biaoxianchulaidetihuishichedibuyiyangde。

不明白讲话的招数，只能深陷担心

 huijianghua，shijishangshiyizhongjishuxing，erbuhuiliaotian，zhiyoushenxianshizairendeguaiquanzhong，meifabaituo。bingbingbushishizairentaichun，zhishiyouyubumingbaijianghuadezhaoshu，yizhiyushenxiandanxinhefenqizhongbunengziba。

 zai《tebiehuishuohuaderendouzheiyangshuohua》zhong，chuangzuozhejuedejianghuashiyouzhaoshude，mingbaijianghuadezhaoshu，huidedaogengqiangderenjijiaowang，yehuihuodebeitarenshangxihexinlaidejiyu，diqingshangzhishangdeshuohuafangshishineiyangde，liru：

nijinqishifoufeichangleia？nideqingkuangyoudianerbudahao？

 zheiyeshixuduorenyipengmiandekaichangci，niyoubushilingyifangdulidejishengchong，yizhangkoubianshuolingyifangqingkuangbugao，huiranglingyifangganjuezishenshifoumiansehencha，kanshangqubingbushihenjingshenshizhi，congerhuizaochengbushuangdexin。yincijiusuanweitarenzuozaiduodeshi，lingyifangneixinyeshiduoshaohuiyoudianernanshou。

 cikehaiburuzunxunneiyangdejianghuazhaoshu：nijinqiguodetinghaodeba？neiyangwenhaodefangfabazhudaoquanjilelingyifang，lingyifangkeyishuohaimeideshuo，haikeyishuojinqimeiyouxiexihao，qingkuangmeiyouyiqianhao。

 danwulunlingyifangshiruhehuiying，yongliuyudideshineikongjiandelejie，lingyifangbianhuijuedeshushihebeizhongshi，yebuhuizaochengdichudexinlizhuangtai。

 congshehuixinlixueshangkanlai，meiyigerendouxiaibeikuajianghehaowuyiwen，ertaoyanbeizhizehuotichuzhiyishirendebenxingdebennengfanyingyaoqiu，suoyishuojinyoubawozhudajiaxinlidexuqiu，bingchixuzaijianghuadeqingkuangxiayoumudeyulingyifangtonglixin，neiyangdangranjiunenghuodehaodehuifu。

 erjiarubumingbaijianghuadezhaoshu，jiufeichangrongyishenxiandanxin，bianhuifashengchilibutaohaodezhuangkuang，erzheileizhuangkuangyibanfashengzaizhiwentouruwulunquanguochengde“shizairen”deshenshang。

 danyoushi，bingbingbushizhibanshi，zhiyaotourujiuyidingnenghuodelingyifangdehaowuyiwenyuzhongshi，daliangqingkuangxiahuishuohuaderen，neizhihaoderenmaiguanxi。

高情商的沟通交流，才最行之有效

 shuobailegaoqinggaodegoutongjiaoliu，chukaiyaojiji，gengyaojijizhaoliaolingyifangdetihui，zheijiushitonglixinshigoutongjiaoliu，erhuishuohuaderen，budannengdedaodaliangdehaowuyiwen，yehuidedaodaliangdehaoyunqi。

 gaoqingshangderenzenmeliaotian？zhenduigaoqingshangjianghuaeryan，bingbingbushiyushengjulaideyizhongzhuanyejineng，zhishinenggougenjuxunlianmeiyigerendounengxuehao，danyaozunxunzheisandianjibenbiaozhun：

 diyi，zhaoliaolingyifangdetihui，jijiyidian。ruguowomenpengdaoyigehaozhangshijiankanbudaoderen，zhangkoushuoshuo：nihaijidewoma？jiukanqilaihaoxianglingyifangzaimolianzishenyiyang，yidanbujidebianhuikanqilaifeichangganga。

 zheishihoujiaruyongzhaoliaolingyifangtihuidewenfa，nenggouneiyangshuo：nihao，woshizhiqiangenninpengmiandemoumoumou。neiyangjijixianglingyifangziwojieshao，wulunlingyifanghaijidehuoshibujide，doukanqilaiyoulimaohegaoqingshang；

 dier，jianghuashi，bubichouxiangxing，jinliangshiji。ciwaibianshigenlingyifanggoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，nengshijidaomouyiren、moushideqingkuangxia，buyaoshuodetaihanhu，youyutaihanhudejiaofataiguodufuyanleshi；

 disan，yaoqianxu，erbushizhigaoqiangdezihaogan。zuizhongyaoliuyijianghuadeyikouqi，bubiguodujiansuankebo，liru：neimerongyideshi，niyinggaimeishenmewentima？

 neiyangdehuabudanlingrentingdeyingwennanshou，haixianchugaoaoyuzihaogan，huilingrenbuzijuezaochengdichudexinlizhuangtai。congxinlizhuangtaifangmiankanlai，bulunshibeihushihuoshibeiqiwangdoushihuiduidajiadexinlizaochengpaichi，suoyishuoxuduoqingkuangxiahuibanshi，yougongzuonengli，jiarubuhuiliaotian，bianhuizaibujingyijianzhongrongyidezuiren。

 neiyanglaikan，gaoqingshangderendoushihuixuzhuyijianghuadefangfa，erxuduoshizairenwangwangchilibutaohaoshijishangcongmouleishijiaoshangeryan，yeshiqingshangzhishangbuzugaodezhuyaobiaoxian。

 congmingderenwangwangconghui，shiyouyulindeqing，lejieheshigaishuonaxiedehua，jinyouneiyangrenyuanrenpincaihuiyuebianyuehao。gaoqingshangdexiangqinliaotianjilugaosuni，gaoqingshangderenshuohuahentaolu。