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 qingganshenghuozhonggengweijianao，gengweimolianrendemoubingbushiyiguolianle。zhaobudaoliaotianhuatizenmeban？bulijingyiguolianderenmeifaganwudaoyiguoliandejianxin，yiguolianshineileigezhepingmushuowoaini，shineileimeiridesiniandaowanmei，shineileiyouyuyijuhua，yiduanwenzijiujuedeshouzuwucuo，buzhisuozhong，shineileiyuangewanshuiqianshan，zhiqiuyutaxiangyu，shineileishengyuchichihehe，zhiqiuzanzurmbyiqiwanlede。liaotianhuashu900juyounaxieni？

 ziran，laolirujinyechuyuyiguolian，bingqieshijiandouyinianbanle，qineidajiajinglizhengzhi，jinglimaodun，gengjinglimeiyouhuashuodezhuangkuang，naizhijinglitichufenshou，keshirujinzaoyidingqin，bingqiechengnuo2021nianjiuxuyaohuilaizaiyiqi，shishiwanhunde。

最先，要明确好沟通交流中的标准：

 zhaobudaoliaotianhuatizenmeban？qingganshitande，yiguolianzirangengbixutan。youyubuzaiyiqi，xianliaoguanjiangenjushoujidianhua，weixindazi、shipinyuyindeng，kanbujianshenqing，huoshitingbuchuyudiao。cike，congxiwangzhixianzhongfajuexintaidebudui，rutarichangxianliaohuixiaifabiaoqing，cicixianliaojihubufabiaoqing，yuyanlengbingbing，henyoukenengbianshishengqile。

 cikejiuxuyaobadianhuadayiwang，wenyiwenshijideshishenmeyuanyin，shifoushengqile，huoshinaershoudaoleqiya。zheizhongquanshijibenshangdebiaozhun，pengdaogoutongjiaoliuzhongmaodun，huoshibuchangshunjiuxuyaotongdianhuachuli。huanjuhuashuo，waidishifahuodehua，jiuyingdangweichibulengbaoli，nanhaizijijizhiqian，nenggouyoulengjingqi，keshibukeyiyizhibuhangshengdeng。

次之，适度降低沟通交流的頻率：

 buguanzenyangdeqinggan，zhangqijiaowang，zhangqigoutongjiaoliudoushihuizaochengyanfan，doushihuiyouganqingdelengdanqi，yanjuanqi。zuihaodeganqingqingkuangbianshiyaojilingyifangliuchuchongyudeshineikongjian，chongyudesuiyi。waidideqingkuangxia，meibiyaomeitiankaizhangoutongjiaoliu，rizijiulehuatitaolundoubuhuigaibianle，meiyouyisishenmiganle，qinggannengbuhuigaibiandanma？ziran，goutongjiaoliudecishu，yexuyaoshiqianmingquehao，rumeiertiangoutongjiaoliuyici，huoshijiaomangdeqingkuangxia，tizaodashengzhaohu，cunzhexiayiciyoushijianzaikaizhangoutongjiaoliu。ganqingshenghuozhong，goutongjiaoliugoutongjiaoliudepinzhiyaochaoguogoutongjiaoliudepinci。

 yiqian，woyumubiaowaidideqingkuangxia，quanshiyitianyicigoutongjiaoliu，shijianzhangle，jiumeishenmehuatitaolun，huoshihuatitaolunmeiyoushenmeshenmigan，qingganzhongyehuifashengbianqiandezhuangkuangde。yaojilao，goutongjiaoliudemudishitishengganqing，erbushishebeidishouyimeirideliushuizhangdan，meiyicidegoutongjiaoliushiweilegenghaodi，ranglingyifang，rangzishengengkaixin，erbushijianyidedingzhengzuoye。

再度，沟通交流之际要有准备工作：

 goutongjiaoliu，youqishiwaididegoutongjiaoliu，meiyicigoutongjiaoliuyiqianyaozuochongzudetiqianzhunbei。yifangmian，shijianyaozhunbeihao，lianggerendeshijianyinggaishitongbude，yinggaishidoushiyoukongyudeqingkuangxiacaikaizhangoutongjiaoliude。bushishenmeguanjiandeshier，buyaozailingyifangguangjiegouwuhuoshigongzuoshanggoutongjiaoliu，henyoukenenglingyifangbijiaomang，bukeyilijihuiyingnidexinxineirong，huoshihuiyingxinxineirongmafan，congconghuiying，zaochenglejiewuchadeng，doushihuizaochengfenqidezaocheng。lingyifangmian，goutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxiayaozhunbeihaoxiangduiyingdehuatitaolun。

 huatitaolundeneirongnenggoushijinqichanshengzainipangbiandeshi，gongzuozhong、xuexizhongpengdaoyouyisihaowandegushi，jiaoweinankandezhuangkuang；huatitaolunneirongnenggoushiwangluorediandeshehuifazhanhuoyouxiyuleshiqing，ruxinkoufashoudeyingpian，xindeshouhuanyingjinritoutiaoshiqing，mouyidapaimingxingdebaguazheixie；yexuyaogoutongjiaoliuxiayicipengmiandeshijian，pengmiandedizhi，weilaideguihuadengneirong。

zuizhong，lianggerenyaoyitonglijingyixieshier：

 yiguoliandelianggeren，richangshenghuoheganqingbushitongbude，xintaidangranyenanyitongbu。gengweihelidefangshibianshilianggerenyitonglijingyixie，huoshizuoyixieyouyisideshiqing，ranglingyifangganshoudaobicizhijiandoushizaishenpang，douzaiyiqi。nenggoushixiangjuyitongzhuiyibudianshiju，ranhouliaoyiliaogushiqingjie，gongxiangjianjie。nenggoushixiangjukandangqixinshangyingdianying，bicizhijianxiechudianyingyingping，goutongjiaoliuduiyingpiandeguandian。

 nenggoushiyiqixiangjukanyibenshu，huoshiqinfenkaomouyizigezhengshuzheixie。niyutazaixuduodeqingkuangxiashitongbude，tayekeyishenshendiganshoudaolianggerenzaiyiqidekaixin，jiuburongyifashengmouyifangyouqigudan，mouyifangyouqimangdezhuangkuang。richangshenghuo、ganqing、xintaitongbule，neibanbicizhijiandelianqingyejiutongbule。

 shijishang，richangshenghuoxuduoyiguoliandelianren，doushihuipengdaomeiyouhuatiliaodezhuangkuang，bizoudongdaoci，yekanyixiatamenmeiyouhuatiliaodeqingkuangxia，douzaiganmaba。

 1、“kaishipin，jingjingdikanjian，huanenggoubuyongshuo，danwodekanni，bimiannigentarenpaole。”bimianpaole，caisuanshizhongyaola。

 2、“lijifeishangqulaolaodijinbao，duitashuo，wohenxiangta，shineileitongdianhuafayuyinkaishipin，dounanyijiejuedesinian。”zheiyicaisuanshizhenzhengdeaiqingya，heihei。liaotianhuashu900juyounaxieni？

 3、“gangcaiheyiguoliandenanpengyoushipinwanbi，meiyouhuashuojiugechangjitamenting，nianshujitamenting，suihoujiuyouhuashuole。”gechangshigefeichanghaodetiaoxuan，zhongyaonixuyaohuichangla。

 4、“fazishenzipaituya，falejiuwuxulitale，shitayouxiangxiangdeshineikongjianyihui，suihouwoxiangta，huijijilaizhaowotiandeya！”zheiyifangshifeichanghao，jigexiangpianshitazishenganshou，wandebianshiganqing。

 5、“gongxiangzishengangjiandaoyouxiuderenshiqing，liaoxiayicipengmiandeshijiandizhi，guanjiandeshixiangxinbicizhijiannengaoguoqu，liaobuliaoyejiumeineimaguanjianle。”zheiyishuodezaili。

 6、“lizhijiri，jilingyifangchongzudeshineikongjian，jiezhejinjitian，yehaohaodidiaojiexiazishen，qinfentigaoziji。”lizhijiri，tishengziwo，huxiangxiyinzhu。

 7、“jingjingdigezuogedeshier，shijishangmeiyouhuashuodeqingkuangxia，buyidingbixushuoxieshenme，yebuyongzhaohuatiliaotian，neixinyoulingyifang，kaileshipinyuyinhuoshishipin，buxianliaoyiyangnengjuededaolingyifang。”jinyoujingliguonanyiwanghuaideganqing，caikeyijiangchuzhishangdeguandian，shenyouganchula。

 8、“aideqingkuangxiaburongyimeiyouhuashuo，jishikanjianyeshifenhongpaopao，shubuzhibuxihuanshi，jishiyiduzihua，yingduifuyanleshiyehuimeiyouhuashuo，youyuwozaoyisuoyoujingliguole。”zhuyuanzheimingxiaoshuaigehuoshipiaoliangxiaojiejieba。liaotianhuashu900juyounaxieni？

 9、“kanjianjiuxing，dajianengganshoudaobicizhijiandecunyouzaoyihenhaola，zhidaoyouhuashuoshibianshuo。”ganshoudaobicizhijiancunyou，ganshoudaoaijiuhenhaola。

 10、zhaobudaoliaotianhuatizenmeban？“zaicizhaoqitaxinxianhuatitaolun，quchongshizijisuihoushita，zaicifajuebuyiyangdezishen，shiqishenmigan，qubuyiyangdediqudujialvyou，tiaozhanbuyiyangdeshier，nanshenghenvshengdouyingdangneiyangzuo，weichishenmiganshiyiguoliandeqiaomen。”weichishenmiganshiyiguoliandeqiaomen，wojushuangshouzancheng。