和喜欢的女生聊天总是冷场，该怎么办？怎么和女生聊天不冷场

 youdenanshenghepenyouxianliaoyizhinenggaotankuolun，zenmehenvshengliaotianbulengchang？youliaobuwandehua，keshiyidaohexiaidenvshengliaotiandeqingkuangxia，liaobushangjiju，jiuyouyujiaolvbuanhuoshibiedeyuanguliaobuxialaile，zaochenggaliao。zheileizhuangkuangyinggaizenmebanni?gennvshengzenmeliaotiancaibuwuliao？

 xiabian，hedahuoergongxiang3gefangzhixianliaogaliaodefangfa，xuehaozheizhongfangfazaihexiaidenvhailiao，nenggourangtayougenniliaobuwandehua，rangdajiabuhuizaigaliao。

1、为她给予使用价值

shenmejiaozuojiyushiyongjiazhi?

jugeshili，niwennvhaizaiganshenme，tajianghenwuliao，zaidayouxi。

 ok，rujinneimewentilaile，jirannvhaiwuqu，neimatadangjinzuibixudehaowuyiwenbianshiyuelaiyuebuwuqu，dajianengweitagenggaidangjinqingkuang，zheicaisuanshiquebaotanenggenninyougongtonghuatidebiaozhun。

 zenmehenvshengliaotianbulengchang？jiarunihenlaoshibajiaodegentashuo：“yinweiwowuqu”，huoshiwenta“wanshayouxi”，zheilianggenantiduinvhaieryan，nimeiyouduitadangjinqingkuangzuochuyiqiegenggai，tarengrandezaicidayouxi，neimatabidingdoumeiyoushenmehuayaogenniliao，lijijiubatianliaosile，bidingxiamianbianshigaliao。

 zheishiqiadangdezuofashiduitakaizhanshiyongjiazhishouyu，liru：“chuquniyaochishabing”，huoshiweitajiangyixieyouyisideshi，baituotadangjindewuquqingkuang，rangtayouyuanyinbuwanyouxi，neiyangnvhaicaihuiduininyouhuakeshuo。

 dajiagennvshengliaotiantongchangbianshibixuyongzheileigousi，bubiyizhiduitakaizhanshiyongjiazhisuoyao，youqishinvhairangnixushuyixiedishiyongjiazhiqingkuang(liruwuqu)，buyaoshuoyixieyudangjinqingkuangbuxianggandehuatitaolun，youyuzheizhonghuirangtameiyouqudongli，yemeibiaozhunjijizhudongduinizuochuganenhuikui，tazongshixiaochenjiejueni。

 huoshijushangbianshili，nvshengshuozishenhenwuliaozaidayouxi，niwentashenmeshouyou，zheijiuguishuyuyutadangjinqingkuang(wuqu)buxianggandenanti，tagaozhilaowenzishenzaiwanshayouxi，yebuweihaihaidezaicidayouxixiaomowuqudexiankuang，yinernvhaitongchangzaicihanzhetadeshoujiyouxi，suihoufuyanleshishidehuinijigezi，tianshiliaobuqilaide。

jinyouweitajiyushiyongjiazhi，rangtayouchongzuyuanyinxuehuifangxiashoutoushangshilaigenhuifuni。

2、把握节奏感

 xianliao，buguantiqianzhunbeishiduoshaohuatitaolun，dajiayizhihuipengdaohuatitaolunyueyongyueshao，shenzhihaojindeqingkuangxia，suihouyueliaoyueliaobushangyikuai，fashenggaliao，zheitongchangbianshiyouyuniduijiezougandezhangwofashenglenanti。

 shuobailejiezouganzhidebianshinibixuyijunvhaidangjinxintaihefanyinglaijueceyongnazhongfangfaxianliao，shizaicibadangjinhuatitaolunjinxingxialai，huoshiyaolijichachetaban，huoshigaidaobianhuanhuatitaolundeqingkuangxia。

 jiarunimeimingbaibianbienvhaidangjindeqingkuangshibushixiangyaoxianliao，bumingbaifenbiannvhaishibushiduinidangjindehuatitaolunyouxingquaihao，bulejienvhaidangjinduishenmezuiyouxingquaihao，duishenmemeiyouxingquaihao，niyejiunanyicaokongjiezougan。

neimazheizhongyaozenmebianbieni?chayanguanse!

 ruguoshidangzhong，tadexiaobiaoqinghuilijiduinishuotadezhuangkuang，ruguoshiwangliao，neimatadangjinduinideyudiaoyuqi，zaironghepingchangzhuyaobiaoxian，yekeyidedaogedayue。

 lirunizhaotaxianliao，tahenjiqingdehuifuleni，danshihoumeijudoufeichangjiandan，naizhiyouyixiexinfan，neimanvhaihenyoukenengqiahaoyimateng，wufalizhisisuo，neimaniyejiubukeyichanzhetayizhiliaoyizhiliao;

 tazhujiangenniliaoderuhuorutu，huranduinixintaidafuduxiajiang，neimahenyoukenengnizhaodehuatitaolunqiahaogouqiletazhiqianbuyukuaidelijing，huoshinishuolebuyinggaishuodehua，neimazuihaoshihuoshihuanyigehuatitaolunba，erqiewanzhuandejitadaogeqian。

 jiarutayizhiduinifanyinglengmo，nigongxiangyixiejingdiangaoxiaoduanzi、shenpangchanshengdexinxianshieryehuoshixingzhisuoran，zheibiaomingtaduinibingmeiyouduoqiangdesixu，zheileizhuangkuangjiubuyihetajinxingaimeiguanxixianliaole，paochuquyigegaoshiyongjiazhiyihoumashangguandiancaisuanshizuihaoshidezuofa。

3、明白正确引导和聆听

 jiarunikendingbuhuizhaohuatiliaotian，xuduoqingkuangxianenggourangnvhaijiyuhuatitaolun，keshinvhaizaixuduocengmianquanshichuyubeidongde，youqishiduiyigebulejiedenanhaizi，zongeryanzhibianshinimeiyounaxiedifangnengzaochengtadeliuyi，neimanvhaidangranyebuhuizaochengjijilaigennixianliaodexingquaihao。

yincigennvhailejiedezuichu，ninengbuyongduojijizhudongdezhaotaxianliao，danyidingdemingbaizhengqueyindaota。

 genjuzhaoxunnvhaidexingquaihaodianhexihao，paochuquduitayouyouhuolidehuatitaolun，erqiezhanxianchuyoumogaoxiaodexingqing，yongzheizhonglaiduinvhaikaizhanzhengqueyindao，nicaikeyijiqiyigeduinibutaifashaoganmaodenvhaiduinizaochengxianliaoxingquaihao。

youguanruhezhangwonvhaigerenaihao，zuijibenshangdeyizhongfangfabianshiguanchatadeweixinpengyouquan。gennvshengzenmeliaotiancaibuwuliao？

cizhi，lingtingyeshishifenguanjiandeyizhongzhengqueyindaogongzuonengli。

 henyoukenengyouxierenhuiganjuehenguaiyi，lingtinghaoxiangdajiahuichuzaijianmoqingkuang，zheibushiyizhongchuyubeidonggerenxingweima，erzhengqueyindaoyinggaishidajiajijikaizhanbingbushime?

 dajiajijipaochuqutayouxingqudehuatitaolun，rangnvhaicongmeiyouhuashuobianweiyaoxiangjianghua，zheizhuanyezhishiconglingdaoyi，buduanfazhan。danruheyizhicaokongjushi，rangnvhaiyizhiyouhuatitaolungendajialiao，neimejiukaolingtinglaijishilingzhehuatitaolunfangwei，jiqixiquqitaxinxi。

lingtingnenggoulingzhehuatitaolun：

 gennvshengzenmeliaotiancaibuwuliao？nvhairangnijiangyixiexiaogushi，dajiazuoweilingtingzhedangranbutaikenengquanguochengzhichuerduolimian，dajiabixugesanchawuchuanchuyidiandiandeyihuo，liru“zhihouni?”“shizhendema”“tazenmeyangle”“zheibudakenengba”zheixie，jiukeyizhengqueyindaonvhai，rangtadangyigehuatitaolunzhuzai，jinyibufajuetadehuatitaolun，chongfenyunyongshiyongjiazhi。

haikeyixiquxinxineirong：

 lingtingnenggoushiwomenyouchongzudehuoliheshijiansisuolingyifangzaishuoxienaxie，tongchangnvhaisuiyijiangdeyijuhua，jiufanyingletadexingqing、weirenzhengzhi、xihao、zhengzaoyushenmewentizheixie。zheizhongquanshidajiagennvhaijinyibujinxinghuatitaolunwubiyaodexinxineirong，yeshidajiashenrulejietawubiyaozhangwodeshier，caokonglezheizhongxinxineirong，dajiahetacaiyouyuanyuanbujuedehuatitaolunzaocheng。

 zenmehenvshengliaotianbulengchang？zongeryanzhi，dajiabawolezhengqueyindaohelingtingdegongzuonengli，zaixiangchuzhongcaikeyigengyouyingmian，gengyouzhudaoquan。