当代大学生如何处理好人际关系

 jianlilianghaoderenjiguanxi，shiyigerenshiyechenggongdejichu。dangdaidaxueshengruhechulihaorenjiguanxini？zuoyoufengyuan，yourenyouyu，xuyaoyikekuanrongdexin，xuyaozhencheng，xuyaozhudongxingdejijijiaowang，yaosuzaolianghaodegerenxingxiang，shanyonggezhongjiaojishouduan，kefushehuizhijuezhongdepianjian。yishangjitiaojiqiaoshijiaoniruhechulirenjiguanxide。

一、悦纳自己克服自卑心态

yaoxiangxiediaohaorenjiguanxi，rangbierenjienahexihuanziji，shouxianyaoyuenaziji。

 yigerenzibei、quefazixinwangwangyuduizijimeiyouxingchengzhengquederenshihepingjiayoushifenjinmidelianxi。womenyutarenjinxingshehuibijiaoshi，yishiyaozhuyibijiaodebiaozhun，bunengyiyizhiduanqubibierenzhizhang，zheiyangshibidaozhibijiaodewucha。ershibijiaoshibixuzhuyiyaokeguan，qianwanbunengrenweizijimouyifangmianburutarenjiushenmedoubururen。

 yaoshanyufaxianzijideyoudianhezhangchu。zhiyouzheiyang，cainengduizijiyouyigekeguangongzheng、fuheshijideziworenshiyupingjia。dangduizijiderenshiyupingjiakeguanhelishicaihuizengqiangzijidexinxin，zixinxinqiangcaiyoukenengkefububiyaodezibeixintai。

 ruguoduizijiderenshiyupingjiabufuheshiji，kuadalezijidequedianduanchu，kanbudaozijideyoudianhezhangchu，zezhihuishizijizaibierenmianqiansangshixinxin，zengqiangzibeigan。zaigoutongzhong，yaoyoujiaowangchenggongdexinxin，buyaozongshibeirenjijiaowanghuishibaidexintaisuokunrao。zhiyoutongguoduoyurengoutong，cainengzengjiayutarenjinxingshehuibijiaodejihui，yecainengyouliyufaxianzijidezhangchu，congeryouliyuxingchengzhengquedeziworenshiyupingjia，zengqiangzijidexinxin，kefuzibeigan。

二、真诚待人、尊重他人是人际沟通的基本原则

 rujindangdaidaxueshengruhechulihaorenjiguanxini？daxueshengzairenshijiaowangzhongzhenchengdairen，xuyaochengqingruogancuowuderenshi，xuyaofenqingzhencheng、zhengzhi、zhilv、zhengyansizhejiandeguanxi。zhenchengshizhiyigerendairendetaidu，shiyigerenfazineixinerbushixuqingjiayideduitarendeguanxinhezunzhong。zhengzhishizhiyigerendepinge。shiduiyigerenwendingde、yiguandepinzhishengdepanduanhepingjia。renyujiaoliushi，yinggaijiangjiufangshifangfa，youqizaibiaodabumanshigengshiyaokaolvdaojiaowangduixiangdejieshouchengdu，yibianyugongzuonenggouyouhuarenjiguanxi，jianshaorenjizhijianbubiyaodechongtuhemoca。

 yibanqingkuangxia，zaibiaodabumanshi，womenrenweiyinggaizunxunruxialiangtiaoyuanze：diyi，duishibuduiren。duishibuduirenjiushizaibiaodabumandeshihou，zhiduishijianyoubenshenfabiaozijibutongdekanfa，buyaogongjiduifangderenge。dier，duijibuduiren。duijibuduirenjiushizaibiaodabumandeshihou，yaozhijiebiaodazijideneixinganshou，erbuyaoqingyididuiduifangdexingweixiajielun。yibaneryan，daxueshengdelingwuxingdoushihenqiangde，zaiyigerenweiwandibiaodalezijidebumanzhihou，shihuiyousuoganwude。

 yaozuodaoduitarendezunzhong，jiuyaozuodao：shouxian，yaoxuehuimiandaiweixiao。weixiaoshifazineixindeduibierendeyouhao、jiena、zantong、lijie、kuanronghezunzhongbushipixiaobuxiaodexuqingjiayi；yansuduirenchuandadezeshifengbi、lengmo、jujue、didui，chouhendengxinxi。suoyi，yaotixianduitarendezunzhong，jiuyaoxuehuiweixiao。qici，yaorenzhenqingting。zunzhongdelingyigezhongyaodebiaoxianfangshishirenzhenhuiqingting。

三、平等待人是人际交往的基础

 pingdengbenshendehanyishihenguangfande，baokuozhengzhi、jingji、falvdenggegefangmian。jiaowangzhongdepingdengzhuyaoshizhijingshenherengeshangdepingdeng，zhuyaoshizhijingshenherengeshangdepingdeng。shijishenghuozhong，jiaowangshuangfangzaizhengzhi、jingji、wenhua、shehuidiweidengfangmianshihennanwanquanpingdengde，meigerendexiangmao、caixuedengyeshiyouchayide，danmeigerenderengezunyanyinggaishipingdengde。

 renjijiaowangzhongyingzunxunzheyitiaohujinghuzundeyuanze，huozhejiaozuodengjiayuanze。pingdengdairendeyuanzeyiweizheyizhongduiyigerenjibenrenquandezunzhong。tongshipingdengdairendeyuanzeyeyiweizheyigerenjibenrengededuli，yiweizheduirenyurenzhijianrenshenyifuguanxidefouding。

 xianshishenghuozhong，renjizhijianzhenzhengyaozuodaopingdengjiaowangshihenkunnande，liru，diweijiaogaoderenwangwangqingshidiweijiaodideren，changchangdaiyouyizhongjugaolinxiadexintai；erdiweijiaodiderenyiwangwanghuizibei、bugangaopanhuobuyuangaopandexintai，zheijiurongyizaochengjiaowangzhongdexintaizhangai。

 yaobasuobawopingdengjiaowangdeyuanzeyifangmianyaoyishitongren，pingdengdairen；buyimaoquren，yishiquren，yicaiquren，yiwuquren，yijiajingquren，yixuexichengjiqurendelingyifangmian，yeyaopingdengdaiji，kefuzibeixintai，buyaozishidirenyideng。

四、宽诚待人体现大学生的良好品格

 daxueshengmendezizunxinshifeichangqiangde，buyunxubierenqingyidimaofanziji，zheishikeyilijiede，danyoushiyeyaoxuehuirennai。youxiexueshengzairichangshenghuozhongyidiankuiyebuchi，yichujitiao，dianhuojiuzhe，benlaiyaoweihuzijidezizun，danwangwanghuishideqifan。yinggaizhidaoruhechulirenjiguanxidewenti。

 daxueshenggexingdeduoyanghua，ganjuedeguominbukebimiandihuichanshengyixiemaodun。zheijiuyaoqiudaxueshengzaigoutongzhongbuyaojinjinjijiao，eryaoqianrangdadu、kezhirenrang，bujijiaoduifangdetaidu，bujijiaoduifangdeyanci，bingyongyuchengdanzijidexingweizeren，zuodaozaixiangdulinengchengchuan”。zhiyaoxionghuaikuanguang，fahuoderenyidingyehuizijuewuqu。kuanrongkezhibingbushiruanruo、qienuodebiaoxian。xiangfan，tashiyouhanyangduliangdebiaoxian，shijianlilianghaorenjiguanxiderunhuaji，neng“huagangeweiyubo”，yingdegengduodepengyou。

五、掌握人际沟通的技巧和语言艺术

 1、chenghudeti。chenghufanyingchurenmenzhijianxintaiguanxidechengdu。qiadangdetidechenghu，shirennenghuodeyizhongxintaimanzu，shiduifanggandaoqinqie，jiaowangbianyoulelianghaodexintaiqifen；chenghubudeti，wangwanghuiyinqiduifangdebukuaishenzhifangan，shijiaowangshouzuhuozhongduan。suoyi，zaijiaowangguochengzhong，yaogenjuduifangdenianling、shenfen、zhiyedengjutiqingkuangjijiaowangdechanghe、shuangfangguanxideqinshuyuanjinlaijuedingduifangdechenghu。duizhangbeidechenghuyaozunjing，duitongbeidechenghuyaoqinqie、youhao，duiguanximiqiederenkezhihuqiming，duibushuxideyaoyongjingci。

 2、shuohuazhuyilimao。zhengqueyunyongyuyan，biaodaqingchu、shengdong、zhunque、youganranli、luojixingqiang，shaoyongliyuhefangyan，qiejipingpingdandan，lanyongcizao，hanhanhuhu；yuyin、yudiao、yusuyaoqiadang，yaogenjutanhuadeneironghechanghe，caiquxiangyingdeyuyin、yudiaoheyusu；jiangxiaohuayaozhuyiduixiang、changhe、fencun，yimianxiaohuajiangdebudeti，shanghaitarendezizunxin。

 3、shidudichengzanduifang。meigerendouxiwangbierenzanmeizijideyoudian。ruguowomennenggoufajueduifangdeyoudian，jinxingzanmei，duifanghuihenyuanyiyuniduogoutong。danshizanmeiyaoshidu，yaoyoujutideneirong，juebunengquyifengying。zhenchengdezanmeiwangwangnenghuodechuhuyiliaodexiaoguo。

yuannisuoyoukuaile，wuxujiazhuang。yuannicishengjinxing，chichengshanliang。