异地恋怎么维护？花镇情感导师给你4个建议

 yidilian，mingmingzailianai，quehenxiangdanshen。yigerenchifan，yigerenkandianying，yigerenshaitaiyang。yigerenfengliyuli，shenbianmeiyouni……

 yidilian，yigeqinglvmenbuyuanchupeng，danquepubiancunzaiyuwomenshenbiandehuati。2017nianzhongguozhangjulilianaidiaochaxianshi，you80.92%deqinglvjingliguohuozhengzaijingliyidilian。yidilianshiganqingzhongzuinanweichide，miaoshuyidilianyouyijufeichangxingxiangdehua：wohaoxiangshiheshoujitanleyichanglianai。

 zaiyidilianrucipubiandejintian，jingyingweihuheshunliduguoyidilian，chengweiledabufenqinglvbixujubeidenengli。woshi huazhenqinggandaoshi -liyang，guanyu yidilianzenmeweihu ，jintianwogendajiafenxiangyixiawodekanfahejianyi。

一、异地恋并不可怕，可怕的是没有规划

 yiweilaifangzhezheimewenguowo：laoshi，tazhunbeichuguoliuxueliangnianle，youkenengyaozaiguowaifazhanqibugongzuo，shunlidehuazenmeyedesanniancainenghuiguo，wohetahaiyoujixudebiyaoma?

 leisizheiyangdewentiwoxiangxinbushaoqinglvdouyudaoguo，xiangwodezheiweilaifangzhe，tahaipadeshi“yidi=fenshou”zheigegainian。yinweitabuquedingtamennengbunengkangguozheimezhangshijiandeyidilian，duizijiyemeiyouxinxin，suoyidaolezheigejieguyan，yidifangfojiuzaixuanpanzhe fenshou ，rangtawufajieshouyoubunenggaibian。

 houlai，wochangshixunwenta：nihaipayidilian，neizainikaoliangnimenshifouyaojixulianqingzhiqian，nishifouguihuaguonimenyidiguodeshenghuo、lianxi，ranhouheduifangjiaohuanyijian，zuoyigeyingduiyididejueceni?tadehuiyingshimeiyou。

 yidilianbingbukepa，kepadeshimeiyouchongzudezhunbeijiujinruyidilian，shijiandeliushijiashangyingduicuoshidebuzu，daozhiliangrenxindejulizhujianlayuan，zheicaishiyidilianshasiaiqingdefangshi。dangnijijianghuozheyoukenengyaojinruyidiliandeshihou，buyaohuangzhang，yongshangnidenaohexin，quhenidebanlvyiqitantaojiejuefangfa，buqujupa，yongyumiandui，nimencaiyoukangguoyidiliandejichuhebawo。（ ）

yidilianzenmeweihu？huazhenqinggandaoshijini4gejianyi！

二、忠诚和信任能抚平不安

 dangnidaizhexiangniandexinqing，huaizheqidaideqingxujinidebanlvfaquxinxi，duifangneitouquechichimeiyouhuiyinghuozhejinyouyijujianduandehuiyingdeshihou，nishifouhuaiyiguoduifangdezhongchengdu?dangduifangmangwanjinihuifugengduodexinxihejieshi，ernizheibianyijingguoleneigeqingxudian，xianzaizhengzaiqitoushangdeshihou，nishifourengrannenggouwutiaojiandixiangxinduifang?zheilianggewentifanyingleyidilianshuangfangdezhengchangxintai。

 gezheyaoyuandejuli，zaijiashangrichangmangliudegongzuohexuexi，lianggerendeshijianheqingxudianzhendehennanduideshang，zheigeshihoujiuhuichansheng“caiji”。

nikandaoxinxibuhuixianhuiyingwoyixiama?

nizenmezongnengzaiwoxiangnideshihouzaimang?

nixianzaigensheizaiyikuaini?

 caijidailaideshiwushudewuhuiheduifangjieshibuqingdewenti。dangcaijiyijingchuxianzainimendeyidilianqingdangzhongdeshihou，lengjingxialai，haohaoxiangxiang，nimendezhongchenghexinrenshifouyijingchuxianlegenbendewenti?

yingduicaiji，wojidajiazhenglile3tiaoshenghuozhongdexiaojianyi：

1、shuxiduifangdegongzuoshijianguihuaheshenghuoguilv，zaiduifangnengyunijinxingqingganhudongdeshihouzaiqubiaodanidexiangnian;

 2、qinglvshuangfangchangzaipengyouquanhuoqitashejiaoruanjianhequnzunei，mingquegongbuzijiyijingyouduixiangdeshenfen，liruzaipengyouquanshaishuangfangdehezhao、duifangjinijideliwu、youqitarenshitujiejinnidannixinyousuoshu......

3、duofansiheduizhaoziji，womeitianshizenmeguode?

 woyerucidinulihemangliu，woxihuanderendangranyehewoyiyang，woweishenmehaiyaoqucaiyitani?shibushiwotaixianlehuozhewoyeyouzuodebuhaodedifangsuoyiwocaihuibatayexiangxiangchengwozheiyang?

三、理解和沟通让彼此更靠近

aishilijiedebieming。——taigeer

 chaoxixiangchudeqinglvhefuqizhijiandouxuyaohenqiangdelijie，cainengrangshuangfangzairenzhihexingweishangdachenggongshi，hekuangshiyidideqinglv。

 juyigehenxiaodelizi：ruguonibunenglijieduifangyinweiyaoqucanjiazijideshejiao(gongzuotuanjianhuopengyoujuhui)erwufahenibaodianhuazhou，neimenimenjiuhennanzai“womenheshitonghua”zheigewentishangdachenggongshi。

nvfanghuirenwei，woyeyoujuhuiyouhuodonga，wodoutuidiaolejiuxiangheniliaotian，weishenmenijiubunengzuodaoni?

nanfanghuirenwei，heniliaotiandangranshenmeshihoudoukeyia，weishenmefeiyaozaiwoyouqitahuodongdeshihouni?

 zheishizailijiecengmianshangchuxiandewenti，nvfangbunenglijienanfang，tarenweiduifangbaqitashejiaohuodongkandebitahaizhongyao;nanfangyebunenglijienvfang，tarenweiduifangshizaiwuliqunaoqitukongzhizijideshejiaoshijian。（ ）

dangniwufalijieduifang，niyeganshoudaoduifangsihuyewufalijienideshihou，bufangduowenyixialianggewenti：

1、nidexiangfashishenme?

2、ruguowodexiangfashi......ninengjieshouma?

 shenghuozaibutongdekongjianli，henduoshihoufashengdeshiqingdouhezijiyuxiangdebutaiyiyang，zheishihoujiuxuyaogoutong，rangshuangfanggenglejiebici、gengjiejinbici。lianghaodegoutongnenggouzhizaogengduodegongtonghuati，zaibicizhongjianjianligengqiangdelianjie。zheiyidiankeyishuohenduo，pianfuyouxian，ruguoyoutongxiexiangkan，liuyanqugaosuwo。

四、你自己有生活建设和未来规划吗?

 ruguoshuoqianmiansandianshiyingduiyidilianyinggaijubeidexintaihenengli，neimezuihouzheiyidianzeshibangzhuduguoyidilianzheiyimorenguochengdeshicaole。paokailianqingbushuo，meigerenzaishenghuozhong，douyouyiwurangzijideshenghuobiandegengjiachongshihebaoman，rangzijibiandegengjiademeihaohexingfu。

 zijideshenghuojiansheshimeigerenjinglihezouxiangchengshudezhongyaobufen，buyaoshuoyinweitanlelianai，xinsijiudouzaiduifangshenshang，zongbazhuyilifangzai“tayoumeiyouxiangwo?”“tazaiganshenme?”shang。guihuazijideshenghuo，chulemeitianderichanganpaihegongzuo，nishengyudeshijiangaizenmeliyong?

zhoumo、jiaqiruguonimennenggoujianmian，nimenhuiyiqiqunali?

ruguonimenbunenggoujianmian，niyaoqunali?

 jizijideweilaidingyixiliedexiaomubiao，yibuyibudinuliheshixian，zaizheigeguochengdangzhongxuexixindezhishi，renshixinderen，changshixindejiechu，zaibasuoyudaodesuoyouheduifangfenxiang，bingqieyiqiqujibicideweilaizuoguihua，daxiawendingdejichu，xindejulicaibuhuiyinxianshidejuliershuyuan。

“henxiaodeshihou，worenweizheigeshijieshangzuilangmandeshiqing，jiushiyigerenpaohenyuandelu，qukanlingyigeren，xianzaiyeshi。”

 yidiliandemeiyicixiangju，douxiangguoqingrenjie;meiyitahouhoudechepiao，doushiduiaidejianshou。jintianfenxiangdeganhuo，jiushiwocongzixunshidejiaodu，weizheifenjianshoujiyudezhichiheliliang，zhufutianxiayouqingren，zhongchengjuanshu。