恋爱女人的奇葩心态

　　weishenmenanshengfenshoubuhuifapengyouquan？zheishiyigepubiandexianxiang，caixiangshenhouhenyoukenengcunzaiduogeyuangu。huoxushinanshengxiangbaocungerenyinsi，bukengongbuzijideqingxubianhua；youhuoxushiweilehuanjiegangahetianyoujiacudeshuoci；yeyoukenengshichuziyuzunzhongyuwanshandekaolvdao，buxiangrangshangdaoqiannanyou。buguanshinayizhongyuangu，nanshengbuhuixuanzepengyouquanfaxieqingxu，yexuqujueyutamenxiwangtongguogengsimi、chenwendefangshichulifenshou，bingchixuxiangqiantuijin。

　　对外公布的爱恨纠葛

　　1. 追寻秘密与保护个人隐私

　　weishenmenanshengfenshoubuhuifapengyouquan，nanshengfenshoudeshihouxuanzebufapengyouquankenengshijiyuduisirenxinxideweihu。zairujinshejiaowangluoshengxingdeshidai，dajiaxiguanyutarenfenxianggezhonggeyangshenghuozhongdexijie，keshifenshoushiyizhongjiaoweiminganqingxutiyan。nanshenghuoxuganjuemeibiyaogongbuyuzhong，xiangbaoliuyifenmimigan。genjubufapengyouquan，tamennenggouzaiqinmipengyouquanyiwaibaocunyipianziyideyinsikongjian，tongshijianshaoleduijiugedejinyibushandong。

　　2. 缓解尴尬与不必要评价

　　weixinfapengyouquandaibiaozhebaoluzijiaiqingbianhua，danzaifenshouhou，nanshenghenyoukenengxuyaohuanjiegangadejutiqingkuangbierenduifenshouyuangudeliuyan。genjubupengyouquanxianlu，tamenkeyifangzhizaishejiaopingtaishangbeiwenhao、lianminhuopingding。zheiyangdexuanzeyekeyijianshaobubiyaodeguanxinheganrao，rangtamennenggougenghaodijiejuezijideqingxu。

　　3. 尊重和成熟的标志

　　nanshengtiaoxuanbufapengyouquandejudonghaihuilaiyuanyuduiairenzunzhonggengjiachengshudekaoliang。fenshoushiyizhongjingshencengmiandewanbi，nanshengyexujuedegongkaixuanbunengjiqiannanyouzaochengshanghai。tongguoxuanzebufapengyouquan，nanshengchuandachuyizhongzunzhongyuwanshandexintai，cushishuangfangkeyigenghaodedulichengzhang，jianshaobubiyaodejiuchanbuqinghelianjiu。

　　4. 找到新的出口和支持

　　nanshengfenshouhoubufapengyouquanyekenengshiweilenengjijizhaodaoxindechukouhexunzhaoshiyong。zaifenshouzhihou，youderenjinxingyigexindezhutihuodong、lejiexindepengyou，genjuduoyuanhuadejiaoyoufangshiconggerenjiazhizhongzhaodaokendingyukuanwei。nanshenghuoxuqidaicongxianyoudehaopengyourenqunzhongdedaogengzhunque、gengfuhededalizhichi，erbuzhishixianyuwangzhankongjianlidepingjiahuoguanzhudianzan。

　　weishenmenanshengfenshoubuhuifapengyouquan，nanshengfenshoubufapengyouquandeyuanyinhenyoukenenggezhonggeyang。bulunshizhuixunmimiyubaohugerenyinsi，huanjiegangayububiyaopingjia，huoshizunzhonghechengshudebiaozhi，huozhezhaodaoxindechukouhezhichi，nanshengmendouyouquanlizhaodaoshihezijidefangfalaijiejuefenshou。zheiyitiaoxuanbujinshiduizishenqingganshangdechengdan，yejiushizaichengzhanghexiangqiandaolushangzhuiqiugenghaodezishen。