恋爱磨合期：分手后，你想挽回前任不做这些就对了

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youyuzaifenshoushi，tongchu、kunao、nanguodengtihui，bingbingbushiyifangde，zhishibicide。

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ninenghaoqixin，tajiujingganleshenme?nengranglingyifangneimejueran?

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neima，wanhuizhongyoushenme“jihuigerenxingwei”shiqianwanbunengzuodeni?

以损害自己来威胁另一方

 rutongshangbianshilizhongdexiaolanyiyang，yisunhaizishendefangshi，naizhiyong“si”laiweixielingyifang，zhihuiranglingyifanggengweipingdingyunifenshoudekeguanshishi，binggengweiyaoxiangtaochuzheigefengkuangderen。

zheileifangshiduiwanhuibudanhaowujiazhi，haishiliaobuji。

死皮赖脸、没什么自尊地去挽回

shijishang，wanhuiganqingbudanshizhonggoudequanguocheng，yeshigeercixiyindequanguocheng。

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随便致歉、随便服务承诺

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yinci zaiwanhuizhong，zhiqianbingbushizuizhongyaode，zuizhongyaodeshifanshengzijiuzichahezishenjiuzheng。

以受害人的视角去找亲朋好友、朋友求安慰

fenshouhou，buyaozaiweixinpengyouquan、huoshiquzhaoqinqipengyousanbuzishendefumianqingxu。

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情绪失控、随便肆骂

fenshoujianweiren，fenshouhoudenihuoxuxintaishifenbuwending，dankendingbubizongrongzishensimalingyifang。

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