如何恋爱呢？挽回首先要解决价值差异

 shilianaima？zheijitian，xuduo fensizaiyiqianyouguanwaiyudewenzhangneirongxiabianliuyanbanliuyan，zhengtikanlai，guandianfenchengliangdazhenying：neimeruhelianaini?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqidailianaidewenzhangba。

yipaijuedewaiyujiugaiyidabangjibai，rangnanshengyongbuhuishoudejiyu;

lingyipaijuedenanshengyaoshichengrencuowu，zhenxinshiyihuiguo，huanshifeichangzhidewanhuide。

neinanshengchuguiwaiyu，daodigaibugaiwanhui?

 shijishang，nanshengchuguixubuxuyaowanhui，jibukeyiyidabangjibai，yebukeyichedikuanrong，xiangxiqingkuang，shiyaolaishenrufenxide。

现阶段就我触碰过的出轨实例看来，男生出轨一般有3种状况：

01.shizhibianshihuaxinnan，xiayishichugui;

02.yinnixingchugui，weizaochengliuyi;

03.kaolvlieqixinli，zhiqiuxinxiancijixing。

zhei3zhongbuyiyangdenanshengzhonglei，jiejuededuiceyegeyoubutong。

 jiarulingyifangshiqueshihuaxinnan，zaichuguiyihoubeiniwadaodaliangheilishi，shilianaima？liruxiaozhuneileide，bachuguizuoweishiyiqiezhengchangdeqingganshenghuo，neiwoyaogaosuni，nizuihaojianhaojiushou。

 wohenqingxi，meiyigeshanjierenyidenvhaidoushihuiyou“jiejiuhuaxinnan”deqinghuai，ganjueyaoshizishengouhao，yaoshizishennengranghuaxinnanjiandaozhenxinshiyi，jiunengdadonglingyifang，shitazhongtouzailai、huaxinnanchenggong。

shijishang，budanjiushinineimexiang，meiyigebeitazhaguoderendoushihuineimexiang。

yinci ，nidaozuizhongzhiyoushidadonglezishen，huaxinnanyiranshihuaxinnan，burongyiyouyiqiegenggai。

kandaizheileinansheng，yidingyaojinkuaizuofenlichulai，jianhaojiushoucaisuanshiduizishenzuihaoshidetiaoxuan。

lingyizhongchuguizhuangkuang，bianshiyinnixingchugui。

neiyangdezhuangkuangjinguanbuchangjian，dandequecunyou。

 woyiqianyigexuesheng，chajuezijinanyougenyouxiliyigenvshenglianmaizhibo，jinguangoutongjiaoliujiaoweijingchang，danmeiyouyueleichiyibu。

beifajuehou，tananyoubitadefanyinghaida，liangrenchaoleyijiajiugangkaishilengbaoli。

zaipouxiguoliangrendezhuangkuanghou，wofaxianhenyouqudeyidian：

 zheiyinanhaizijinguanzaiyouxiligenwangminliaodaohenshuluo，keshimeiyicilingyifangmingquetichuyaowanglianbenxian，doubeizheiyinanhaizijujuele。

naizhiyoujihui，zheiyinanhaizihuiyouxindebalianmairuanjiandexianliaoyemianfangdaoneibian，dengnvyoufajue。

这实际上便是隐匿性出轨。

 yinnixingchuguidenanhaizi，yaobushipingchangbeiguandehenyan、caozongdeguojin，yaobubianshizishendeyaoqiuyizhiwufadedaokaolv，yedebudaonideguanxin。

 yinci ，tacaihuiyongneiyangdefangfa，qubiaoshuzishendebumanyi，lingwaichuansongrangniyigexinxi——nizaibuguanzhuwo，zaihushiwodeyaoqiu，woshihuiliqude。

zheileizhuangkuangshijishangshidajiazhongjiandegoutongjiaoliuchulebijiaoyanzhongnanti，conggoutongjiaoliuxiashou，quchulitadegetixingyaoqiu。

jiaruniqueshiaita，zheileizhuangkuangxia，nishinenggouquhenxiagongfuzuowanhuishijicaozuode。

zuizhongyizhongzhuangkuang，jiushitachunsuishiweilegenghaodikaolvzishendeqiuzhiyu，xiangshiyixiachuguishishajuede。

neiyangdezhuangkuangjiuxiangyaonizishenqukaolvdao：

另一方确实那麼好么?

lingyifangfeichangzhidenilaiyongxinwanhuima?

nikeyizaizhihoudeshenghuolijienatayouchuguideniantouma?

jiaruninengshuodongzishen，ninengquzuowanhuideshijicaozuo，danqiantitiaojianshibiegufulezishen。

jiarunijuecequwanhui，jiuyaotamingbaizishenshiwukequdaide，jiuhaole。

也有一点我觉得注重的是：

 xuduo nvhaiganjuenanhaiziwaiyubutaikenengwanhuide，youyunanhaiziyaoshichugui，bianshibushandaizijile，bianshiduizishensilexinle。

suihouninengchajuezijidewanhuichedimeiyoujindu。

但实情并不是这样。

woyaogaosunideyidianshi：ganjuewanhuimeijinduderen，shijishangyagenjiumeiyouzai“zhuanxinzhizhi”diwanhui。

最先第一，许多 人到挽回的情况下彻底是糊里糊涂的，自身都不清楚自身在干什么。

lirubicideguanjianfenqishisha?

自身必须改变什么?

另一方需要什么?

quandoumeigaogaoqingchujiuzaineilimanqiangrechenerxingdong，juede：wozhixiangyaozaizuowanhuizheijianshiqing，jiulilingyifangyulaiyujinle。

 ruhelianai？zheixierenjinguanshizaiwanhui，quezuozhehezongtimubiaoyamiaozhuzhangdeqinfen，jieguodangranshikanbujianqudechenggongdeqidai，doumeiyoutisheng。

 yinci jirankaishilewanhui，neimajiuduizishendeshiershangyidianerxin，yidingyaodaizhuqingchudegousiquwanhui，yaoburannizuodezaihao，zijintourudezaihao，chukaixiaohaoleshijianhuoli，douburongyiyoufeichanghaodejindu。

第二点，有的人挽回，三天打鱼三天打鱼，不愿为挽回这件事情确实用心。

 yinci zhenduizheileizhuangkuangwojianyiyaobunixianxiangqingxizishenshifouxiailingyifangzaiwanhui，yaobunijiranjuecelewanhuijiuxuyaodongdezijintouruchengbenfeiquqinfen。

 renshuodaodiquanshizisizilide，jibian youxierenzuibianshuozheduilingyigerenwangbudiao，shijishangguigenjiedihuanshituidonglibugou，renjingbugou。

youguanwobuganxinquhaohaodizhengdede，woyaogaosunideshi——

wulunshiwanhuihuanshibiede，yaoshishiyijianyounanduxishudeshi，qudechenggongdoubixuyourenjing。

 jinguanshuoqinggandeshiershicunyouzhexuduo dechunshuouran，liruyoudeqingkuangxiajibian nishadoumeiyouzuo，lingyifangyexuyouyitianjiuhurandeyaoxianghuishoule。danzheileishierchanshengdegailvzhenduizhenxingfenshoudezhuangkuanghuanshitaixiaole。

 yinci ，yaoshizaiwanhuifangweixuanzhunledezhuangkuangxia，wanhuishijishangbingbushiyijiannanti，zhibixuweizijizixinxinqujianchibuxie。

 qidailianai,jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaozishenwanhuidefangweixuanzhunlemeiyou，nenggousaomiaoyixiabiandekechengneirongerweima，wobangniyizhizaishizhanyanlianshilizhongzhengliluojisiwei，xunzhaozuiheshinidewanhuijihuafangan。