爱的理论:对付冷暴力的男人用好这3招

 shijishang，zaiaiderennannvguanxizhong，yeyouyizhongbaolixingwei，tayagenbuyongdongshounengli，jiunengranglingyifangdalianggaidong，zheileibaolixingweishiyizhongjingshenshizhishang，heqingganshangdeshuangzhongdaji，shashanglishifenda，tabianshi“lengbaoli”。neimeaidelingyizhongcunzaiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaidelilundewenzhangba。

 xuduo nvshengdouzaodaoguolengbaolidesunhaihetongchu，quebuqingchuruhejiejue，jinridajiajiugenjuliangxingxinlixue，huizongchu3gehelidefangshi，bangnizhiliao“lengbaoli”。

1.没法沟通，就不要找他“沟通”

 zaichanshengzhengzhishi，dajiadoushihuifajue，qingxubijiaoxingfendeshizhongshinvxing，ernanxingjiaoduodoushihuitiaoxuan“huijuegoutong”，yiyizhongjianmo，huotaobidefangfaqujiejuekunnan。

yizhiyu，dajianvxingganjue，tazheileixintai，zongshirangnantiyulaiyucaogao，nideqingxuyejiuyulaiyumenglie。

shijishang，zainanrentiaoxuanduobi，huoshihuijuegoutongdeqingkuangxia，bibushangxianrangzishenjingxiaxinlai，meiquzhaotagoutong。

 youyu，zaibiciqingxudoujiaoweimengliedeqingkuangxia，yingduinantiyebuyidingkeyihuodehelichuli，jiranlingyifangrujinhuijuegoutong，jiububigenqingxudikangle。

ninengtiaoxuanpingjingxialai，rangzishenqusansanbu，bajinglidoufangdaozishendeshenshang，kanyikanhua，kanyixiacangqiong，ganshouyixiafeng。

dengzhenizhenshidijingxiaxinlaihou，nihuifajuezhenduizheizhongnanti，nizaoyiyongyoushengjidelejie。

 shijishang，youshinanxingsiweihenvxingsiweidechabiejiuzaizheili，zaizhengchaodeqingkuangxiayibannanrenshiqidailiuchuzishenshineikongjian，qudulisikaode。

 yinci ，liangzhezhijianrangnantigengfanza，bibushangbanandianjiaodaotamenqusisuoba，aiderenninengquguangjie、maidongxi、sansanxin。

 dengzhenidiaozhenghaozishendeqingxuhou，nihuifajuenanrenyebingbingbushineimexiaiduobinanti，taduobidejinjinkuangzaodeqingxu，jinyouneiyangcaikeyigenghelidijiejuekunnan。

2.你的日常生活重心点在哪儿，他的心就在哪儿

 zairichangshenghuozhong，dajiadouhuipengdaoyixienvsheng，tamenbaquanbudesixudoufangdaonanyoudeshenshang，zheileitaiguodeyikao，yizhiyuyiqiedongjing，bianhuiduizishendalianggaidong。

zheileinvsheng，shizuifeichangrongyizaodaolengbaolisunhaide，youyu，zheishijishangbianshi“ziwojiazhigan”bugoudefanying。

 niyuefazaodongbuanjiaolvqingxu，yuefachixufangqizishenlaiquyuelingyifang，jiecijihuihuodeshuobailede“rentong”，kaolvneizaijiazhiyaoqiu，zheijiuhaoxianggekepadexunhuan。

nijiangquanbudeshiyongjiazhidoujiyuzailingyifangdeshenshang，queweiyouwangjilezishen。

yizhiyu，zaiganqingzhongyulaiyudijian，yulaiyububeigaoduzhongshi，naizhichangchangbeilengbaolikandai……

 shubuzhi，keyiwanbizheiyiqiede，bingbingbushitichufenshou，jiarubuzuozishengenggai，neimahuanzuohesheitanlianai，jieguodoushihuizheiban，yinci ，liangzhezhijianbaoyuantarende“leng”，bibushangjuecegaibian。

 zailingyifangbulinideqingkuangxia，qusuzaoyigezishendexihaoba，wulunzheiyixihaoyouduoda，yaoshinenggourangzishenyuelaiyuegenggaoxing，genghuanle，neinijiuquzuoba。

jinyoumingbaidiaozhengzishen，aixizishen，caikeyidedao daliangdeai。

 dengzhenibajinglichoulichulaifangdaozishendeshenshangdeqingkuangxia，nihuihuranfajue，yuanxianzishenhaikeyineimexingfukuaile，erqienihuihuodeyifengengjiankangdeganqing。

3.以毒攻毒

 aidelingyizhongcunzai,zaiyingpian《wuwendongxi》zhong，bazhangsuzhenzhengside，bianshilaogongshishikekedelengbaoli，wokanleyingpianhou，jiuzaixiang，tayidingyexiangguoxuduo fangfaquchuliba。

danyemeiyouyiyangjianxiaoguo，yinci tacaitiaoxuanletiaojingzheileifangfawanbiyiqie。

 dajiadajiadoulejie，beilengbaolideweidaoshiqueshihentongchu，danweihejibian niyingyongleshichuhunshenjieshu，doumeifarangnanrenzhongzhilengbaolini?youyudajiahushilezuiyagendeyaosu，bianshi“ai”。

 tayouduoaini?yigerenaizheni，zenhuishinizaiwujinzhihaizhongtongchupiaoliu?nimeiyourangzishenyouzhebeiziwojiazhi，caisuanshizuiyagendeyuangu。

 buyaozaidanxintalengbulengdenantile，rutongnilaizhuiyizhihudie，nishizhongdoumeifazhenshidibatayouzhe，danruguonigangkaishitiaoxuanzaizhongyipianhuayuandeqingkuangxia，nihuifajue，tadangranhuiweinitingliu。

 yinci ，taleng，nijiuxuyaobitagengleng，jiezhemeiyicitalengdeqingkuangxia，doubazishenyuelaiyuegengchuseyidian，niyouduodadeshiyongjiazhi，jiuyouduoshaoyouhuoli，jinishiduoshaoyouhuoli，tajiuyouduoaini。

 yinci ，aidelilun,yingduilengbaolideqingkuangxia，yiqiemaiyuan，yuantianyourendoubuqizuoyong，jinyouzishenzhenshidizhanliqilaichuli，caikeyibuxuzishenzaizaoshousunhai。