恋爱理论：为什么挽回越用力对方反应越冷淡？

 lianaimoheqiyounaxie？ershi，dajiayizhiduineiyangyijuhuajianxinbuyi：qinfenlejiuyidinghuiyouhuode。neimelianaileixingyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanlianaililundewenzhangba。

 keshimanmanzhangdazhihou，quefajuexuduo qingkuangxia，bingbushizheiyang，naizhishifanguolaide，qinfenlebingmeishenmejieguo，erqieyueqinfenlizongtimubiaoyuezhang，youqishizaiyingduiganqingdeqingkuangxia。

 nixihuanyigeren，lingyifangquebuxihuanni，niyuefaxiangrangtaxihuanni，yuefaqiuzhibude，nitourulequanbu，tahenyoukenengjinjingennishuoleyiju：baoqian，nibushiwoxihuandeleixing。

 fenshouhou，niyaowanhuiyigeren，niganlexuduo qinfenhegenggai，yizhaoqiadangfangshiqushijicaozuo，jieguotadefanyingquemeiyouanniyugudefazhanqushi。

 tajinjinyikaishijileniyidiandafu，zhihoujianjiandideyoufanhuilegangfenshoudeqingkuang，ruguonizhuyaobiaoxiandejijizhudongyixie，taquehenlengdan，naizhishidichunidetouru。

weihenizheibanyongjingdequwanhui，quzhengshiniziji，qugenggai，tahuanshineiyanglengdanni?

 wojuedehenduorenhuitongchudejuede，shiyouyulingyifangqueshiruguobuaileba，lianaimoheqiyounaxie？meileganqing，yinci caihuizheiban。

 shijishang，bingbingbuyidingdequanshineiyang，rutongnihenqinfenquemeiyouhuode，henyoukenengzhibuguoshiniqinfenbuduifangwei，huoshijinjinkanshangquhenqinfenbale。

 wanhuiyeshizheiban，xuduo qingkuangxia，nideqinfenwangwangdabushangyuqimubiao，gennide“xinlizhuangtaiyugu”he“qingganxuqiubudapei”xiangguan。

shenmeshixinliyuguni?shijishangfeichanghaolejie，bianshinineineixinduinidetourunenghuandedeshouyideyugu。

 jugeshili，jinierketang，ruguonizhijileyikeduitashi，nineixinxiwangdeshouyishitanengrangniyigexiangyong。ruguonibaerketangdoujitamendeqingkuangxia，nineixinduitadeyuguhenyoukenengbianshirangniyigejiewen，erdangtazhijileniyigexiangyongdeqingkuangxia，niyejiuhuijuedebufuhe，juedenidetourumeiyouhuodexiangduideshouyi。

 wanhuideqingkuangxiayeyiyang，jijiwanhuiderenyidinghuitourugengduoyixie，zaizheigequanguochengzhong，ninengyouyiquzuoxuduo shier，guidingnitourushijianhehuoli。

 zaizheigequanguochengzhong，nizijidadonglezishen，yedadongletashenpangdeyixieren，yincinijuedetayeyingdangbeinidadong，zheishinideyugu。yidantameiyoubeinidadong，niyejiuhuijuedejidadexinlizhuangtaiqifu，ganjuetalengdan，jueqing，duinidewanhuimeifanying。

 lianaililunyounaxieni？ruguonideyuguguogaoshi，niyongjingdetouruhetameiyouzuodaoniyugudefanyingkaizhanyibizhao，chabiejiubeiyouyibiandale，nidexinlizhuangtaibianhuishouyingxiang，gangkaishiyaobaibudinghekuangzao，fourenzheiyiduanganqing。

 yinci zuihaoshidefangfashijianshaonidexinlizhuangtaiyugu，bubiyouyiquzhuzhongniweitatouruleshiduoshao，zuochuleshiduoshaoqinfen。neiyangdangtayidangangkaishidafuni，niyejiunengyougenglianghaodexintaiquzuojiexiaqudeshier。

ciwaiyidianbianshi，nishuchudeqingganxuqiu，bushitabixude。tongsuyidianeryan，nijidebushitayaoxiangde。

taqidaiyouyigetiexintongqingdalidenvyou，nipinlemingyundongjianshen，suxingduitaeryanmeiyouyong，meifajifatadexintai。

jiarutayaodeshiyigewaiguanshejirela，meiruotianxiandenvxing，nijiangxingqingxiuliandezaiduotayebuganxingqu。

 ganqing，bingbushiniyoushenmeyangdejitamennaxie，tabianhuidadong，meiyigerendezhuiqiudiandoubuyiyang，henyoukenengnishiruozhenbaode，duitaeryanqizhibilv。

jitamenyaoxiangde，yuanbijitamenniquanbugengnengshitadadong。

 wanhuibingbushiyiweideshengbanyingtao，zhishiyaoyijujutifazhanqushizhuangkuangkaizhandiaojie，lianaileixingshishenmeni？jinyouneiyang，caikeyihuazuishaodeqilizuodaojiaoda deshijixiaoguo。