什么才算爱?挽回时停止这3种行为

 shenmeshiai?ganqingzhongzuitongchudeshiermoguoxiangaibunengai，benlaihaiaizhelingyifang，rengzaiqinfendequbaochizheiyifenqinggan，zhengtiguihuazhexianghudejianglaishi，quebeishiliaoweijidefenshoucuihuile。neimeshenmecaisuanai?aiyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanshenmejiaoaidewenzhangba。

yegengshiyouyuzheiyiju“fenshou”，rangduoshaorenwanquanbenkui，yuelaiyueshengsilijie。

 erdangfengkuangdexintaizhanyourendedanaodeshangweishi，gezhonggeyangmeiyoudaodedixiandegerenxingweiyejiugangkaishifabingle，erzheizhonggerenxingweidekongxuelaifengbingbushihen，zhenghaoxiangfanzhenai。

 zheizhongyouaijinxingdegerenxingweibudanbukeyiduiganqingyouyidingdehuifu，fanguolaihaihuijixurangxianghujiandeliefengyuelaiyueda，zuizhongyuelaiyuemeifahuifu。

weilegenghaodifangzhizheileizhuangkuangdechansheng，jinrijiaoshijiulaigaozhidahuoerzaiwanliushishenmegerenxingweishiganwanbunengzuode。

第一种：心情低落，精神不振

fenshouzhenduizheixiezaiqingganzhongtouruxuduo dereneryan，haowuyiwenyupiaopodayuyiban。

jiusuanshijijishuofenshoudeyifangyiyangyeshishifenbushufude，gengbuyaoshuobeifenshoudeneirenle。

beilingyifangheganqingyanlidajiyihou，xiaochenhechenlunxianglaiyeshidabufenrendechangtaihua。

 danshinixuyaolejiea，jiaruniyaoxiangwanliu，niyejiuwubiyaogaoqingchu，shenmeshiai?jiaruruguoniderichangshenghuolitianmandequanshifumianxinxidewupinshi，nidesuoganhesuozuobianhuizaoshouzheizhonghuaidewupinweihai。

jineryebianhuijiniyuelaiyuegengweidetianmanfumianqingxu。

shexiangyixia，ruguorangniquchupengerqiequaiyigequanshenquanshifumianqingxuderen，niyuanyima?

第二种：偏激纠缠不清，过低乞求

qingganzhongyouerzhongnvxing，yizhongshishifenqianghande，lingyizhongshishifenlieshide。

qianmianyizhongzaiwanliushichangchangfandeyigecuobianshigerenxingweishifenmenglie。

 zhenduitameneryan，buduandetongdianhua、faxinxihuanshijiaoweiwenhede，gengtaiguodeshilijishangmenjiuchanbuqingtadeqinrenhuoshiqutadeqiyenao，bingqiehaizijuedenaodeyuehuan，yuenengzhengshiaideyuezhang。

 shenmejiaoai?erhoumianyizhongheqianmianyizhongzhenghaoxiangfan，zheileinvxingbudanburongyizuochumengliedegerenxingwei，fanguolaitahuijuedezhiyoudixiatouchengrencuowucaikeyitianbulianggerenzhongjiandejianxi，yibandegerenxingweibianshiqiqiu、zhiqian。

 danshibulunshiqianmianyizhonghuanshihoumianyizhong，zuizhongdejieguoquanshiyouyuanwufen，youyuliangzhedoufanlexianghudecuo，neibianshizigaozida。

第三种：只辩驳不思考

yuwofenshouhaowuyiwenshitayiqingbielianle，zaiwaimianyounvxingle，yaobubianshiyouxierengouyinta，wozenmejiuneimecanni。

wojuedeyouzheileixinlizhuangtaidenvxinghaowuyiwenbuzaishaoshu，dequedangqingganchuxiannantishi，nanshengkendingshiyouyiwude。

 keshizhongjiuzhenzhengdeaiqinghuxiangde，shiliangrende，nibunengguangbacuotuidaolingyifangdeshenshang，tangruolingyifangqueshichuguile，tashizhanlebuzhengqueyidabufen。

keshiniruguoxiangwanliu，nidaliangdeyaozuodeshisikaoyixiazishen，shifouyulaiyuxihuanxutaole，yulaiyuzimingqinggaole。

congmouzhongyiyieryan，tawangwangfancuowu，youyibufenyuangushilaiziyunide。

 yinci a，wanliuqueshibingbushinanyi，keshinandeshiyibianwanliuyibianfancuowu，rangyuanbennenggouxunsuhuifudeganqingyuelaiyuefanzaqilai。

 shenmecaisuanai?jiaruniqueshifanleshangbiandenayizhongbuzhengque，rujinzuizhongyaodeshilikechulita，yaoburantabianhuishicuihuiganqingdeyuanxiong。