爱与恨的边缘,想知道你在他心中的重要性？

 anquangandeai，zaijiaowangyiduanshijianhou，xuduonvhaixinlizongxiangyaozhidaoyixieshi，liruzaitaxinlizishendebiyaoxing，xinlihaixiudenvhaiziranburongyijijiwenzheigewenti，bingqiejibian lijilejieyebuhuihuodeshijidehuida。dangzheigewentizainixinlihuixuanshi，nishibushiyouxiangguozenyangcaikeyidedao zishenyaoxiangdehuidani?neimeaiyuhendebianyuanyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaizhendexuyaoyongqidewenzhangba。

 shijishangbaozhengzheiyidianbingbuhuitainan，tangruoxiangyaozhidaonizaitaxinlidebiyaoxing，anquangandeai，nenggouduibixiabianzheizhongbiaozhun——

1.看他的表述

 biaoshushirenmenzuijichudeyuyan，mingbaibiaoshuzishendeganqingdenanhaizi，neixinshenchuyouyizhonglanmandeqingjie。zaizheiyiqian，niduilanmandelejiezhishicunyouyuhuashuhexizhu，danpengdaozheileinanhaizihou，nikenengfajue，yuanxianlingyifangdeyiyanyixing，jiqitaduiganqingdebiaoshuquanshilanmande。

yinci aikanzheiyinanhaiziduinidexintai，nenggouguanchayixiatapingchanglishibushihuibiaoshuzishendeganqing。

2.看他对你的关爱水平

 bianchengqinglv，nanhaizikenengdanfuqidaliangdeyiwu，zheizhongyiwuzuijichudezhuyaobiaoxianweiduinideguanai。guanaidelingyicenghanyishiaixi，duijiniaixidexintai，duidajiadeganqinghenaixi，neibiaomingzaitadexinlinishihenzhongyaode。

yinci ninengkanyixiataduinideguanaishuiping，zheicongduofangmianyiweizhezheduinideshiminggan。

3.对你的重视水平

 zaiwomenxinlingshenchugangkaishizaiyiyigerenshi，neimadajiazuixianhuizhongshita。ziranzheiershuodezhongshi，bingbushixiaobeiduilaorendeneileizhongshi，zhishineileichuziyuzaiyidezhongshi。

 dangzheiyinanhaizihenxintengni，banikankandekanguanjianshi，dangranhuigangkaishizhongshinideniantou，yaoshiqianshedaodajialianggerendeshi，tadoushihuicanzhaonideniantou;erzhenduizishenqingkuangle，tayeshiweichizhongshixintaide……

4.看他对服务承诺的遵守水平

 lianaizhongdenanhaihenvhaizongzaisuonanmianduixianghuxuguofuwuchengnuo，yinweitanlianaishihunyinshenghuodegangkaishi，yinci tahaowuyiwenshuoguoyouguanyishengyishideyuju。yingduizheizhongfuwuchengnuo，nihaowuyiwenhuihendadong，danniyinggaikanxieduofangmiandewupin，zheicaikeyifajuetaduinidezaiyishuiping。

 aizhendexuyaoyongqi,zhenshiainizaihunideren，shiburongyisuibianxuguofuwuchengnuode，youyuzaitamenlaikan，zheizhongfuwuchengnuoyiweizhezheluozuanyiyangdejiandingbuyi，tashibukeyisuibiangenggaide;danyaoshixuguofuwuchengnuo，bianhuiyongxingdongquguanchechengnuo，erqiehuiyizhiweichizunshoudexintai，jibian youwaizaiweihaiyefenhaoburongyiyouyidingdegenggai。

yinci yaoxiangkanzheigenanhaiziduinidezaiyishuiping，neimejiukanyixiataduifuwuchengnuodezunshoushuipingba。

5.对冲动的抑制

 lianaizhongdenanhaihenvhaidouhuijianjiandifazhanqushi，manmanyouhunyinguanxi，danhenyoukenengnibingbuyuanguozaodechansheng，yinci duiyucishishaoyoupaichi。dannanhaizizhongjiushiyouchongdongde，yingduizheileizhuangkuang，nishibushiguanchaguotadexintaini?

 aiyuhendebianyuan,tangruotanengduichongdongyouyidingdeyizhi，neibidingbiaomingzaitaxinlinishiguanjiande;dantangruozheiyinanhaizinanyiyizhi，neibuyidingyiweizhenimeiguanjian，danhaowuyiwenbiaomingtaduitanlianaidexintaibuzudanchunxing。