爱上别人的人,你知道你们为什么总吵架吗？

 aishangtaderen,loudingdekongfangzizongsuanmailechulai，budanfusonglexingebilinju，haifusonglemeiriyichaodexiaocaidan。meiyicidabufendoushiyiliangrendexiyugangkaishi，suihoumanmantisheng sangyin，zuizhongbianweinvrendeshengsilijiehuhan，canzananrendeyoushihoudahou。youshihaihuijixuyoushuaipendawan，dadaojiajudexiangsheng。neimeaishangbierenderenyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanaishangbugaiaiderendewenzhangba。

 zaidiantilihezheifuqiliangqiaoyuguojihui，kanjianquanshisiwenren，duilurenyetingyoushande，bianshixianghujianmeinaixin。yaowojiangzheiqingganyegoucishide，neimechao，rengjiuxiaomoxiaoyangdetizheshoubeichuchururu，baojiefuwulaodajiebiwodoubagua，chongwozhuaernaosai：“nikankan，haohenduokuai。”

 wodaoshiyoudianertitamenyoulv，suiranzhengchaoshirichangshenghuodeyan，shizhongdiaojihegoutongjiaoliudefangshi，danyidabadewangzhongfang，zaozhongwanhaibukexueyagaoleya。youyici，kanjianlezheiweifurenmozheleishuijindiantijiaoxiang，gangaledabantian，zongsuanjinbuzhushuo：“youzhengchaole?”tatongku：“aishangtaderen,wozhenshigaobudong，weihedajiayizhizaizhengchao。”

 shide，tamendenantitingdianxingxingde，wojianguoxuduoqingganfeichanghao，haisuanenaidefufuqueyizhixianruzaizhengchaozhizhong。tamenbaituomenlaiquanshiyoulimaoyouxiuyangdeyouzhishehuifazhanzhongguogongmin，fanhuijiazhong，menyiguan，kandaoxianghuquegenjianlechoudiyiyang，sanwujuhuazhihou，jiukaichao，fangfoshangfatiaoyiyanggenbentingbuxialai。

难题究竟出現在哪儿?

 dajiajingchangzhikanhuodezhengchaodebiaocengyuanyin——youmaodun，bianhuiyouzhengchao，xianghudouxiangbalingyifanggongzuozhifu，ranglingyifangtingcongzishendejianyi，danxuduo qingkuangxia，benlainenggouhaohaodigoutongjiaoliudeshier，quezhuanbianchengzhengchao，tongchangshiyouhenduofangmiandezhuguanyinsu。youyixieshifenyinmideniantouheguannian，maifuzailiangrenxinli，xiangdaohuoxian，cilazhixiang，shikehenyoukenengyinqifashengbaozha。

yijubuyiyangdezhuguanyinsu，nenggoubazhengchaofenchengxialiejileizhonglei：

处罚式

 xiaozhaohenanpengyouyiguolian，quankaohulianwanghedianhuaganqingjiaoliu。xiaozhaoqidainanpengyoumeirinengweizijidayigedianhua，dannanpengyougongzuozhongmang，jingchangwangji，yinci meiyicidangnanpengyouzongsuanxiangqilaitongdianhuadeqingkuangxia，xiaozhaojiuhenbukaixin，gezhonggeyangmaiyuan，liangrenshuozheshuozhejiuxuyaofashengzhengzhi。chaowanyihouliangrentongtongbiequ，xiaozhaoganjuenanpengyoubutiexin，nanpengyouganjuexiaozhaomanbujiangli。

 xiaozhaohenanpengyoudezheileizhengchaofangfabianshidianxingxingdechufashi。youyutabugaoxing，yinci jiuyidingyaobazheileibugaoxingchuansongchulai，rangnanpengyouyeganshoudaozishendezheizhongganjue，yichufatabutongdianhuadebuzhengque。

 chufashidezhengchaozhongxindiancongbuqujueyudangjinfashengshenmeshi，erqujueyuzhiqianfashengshenmeshi。ziran，neiyangdezhengchaochangchanghuiyounvrenjinxing，tamenbingbuhuiqingqingchuchuba“wobugaoxingle”zheileihuashuochulai，jinjingenjuxingdongshangdebupeihe、xintaishangdeyanfan，chuandizheileiqianyishi。zheikezhenfeichangrongyibananrencuicansia，nanrenzheileidiqingshangzhishangdexiaodongwuzenmekenenghuimingbaineimeshenaodedaxuewenni，tamenzongshiganjuemobuzhedanaodemengbiheyanfan。

 aishangbugaiaideren,dajiazaiqingganzhongjingchanghuishenxianneiyangdecuowuguannian，yuefaqingganhao，yuefaguidinggao。duiwaikaifangrenquanshiqingfengyiyangdewennuan，duizijiarenfandaobianchengqiufengluoye，chengshoubushangyidianhulve。

 yaozhongduanchufashidezhengchao，jiuxuyaoxuehaozhenglianbiaodayijian，bubifumianqingxubaoman。shizhongbixujilao，chufalingyifangbingbingbushimudi，ranglingyifanglejiezishendeyaoqiu，bingjijizhudongzhengqueyindaolingyifangkaolvzishencaisuanshizuihoudefangwei。

抵抗式

 sanmaozai《dahuziyuwo》benwenzhong，tidaodahuzitupianshiyigedikangxinyouqizhongderen，“jiarufurenjiaotaqudong，tayidingwangxi;qingtachuanhong，tayidingzhelv。ganlexide，tayaochigande;ganletiande，tashuodaohuanshixiandehao。neiyangzaijialiduizhegan，shitafeichangdadeyouxiyulezhiyi。”

 aishangbierenderen,tianxiawuyayibanhei，woguoguowaidenanrentongtongyouzheileitedian。nvrendaduoshuxiaixutao，yiwanhunbianhuikuaisuchaojibianshendaolaotaipofangshi，duinanrenguantouyinjiao，guandongguanxi，shijianyizhang，nanrenbianhuiquanzidongxiangdahuzitupianyiyang，zhangchupannidexin。