和老公彼此初恋，我怀孕后他出轨了

 helaogongbicichulian，zaiyiqi20nian。xiaohaixianzai7sui。zaishourushaoweigaoyuta。zaiwohuaiyunzhiqian，womenganqinghenhao，wohuaiyunyihou，tachuguile，faxiantazaiwaimianzhaodisanzhe。woduocitichulihun，dantadoubuyuanyi。zheiduanganqingwoshifouyinggaifangxia?

wo86nian，shengao165，tizhong120jin。laogongshengao180，tizhong135jin。

 lianggerenxuelixiangdang，jiatingtiaojianwojiahaoyutajia。jiuxianmuqianwaitiaojianlaikan，takendingyouyuwo。futubicichulian，zaiyiqi20nian。xiaohaixianzai7sui。

 laogongduonianyizhichuyuyangaoshoudidezhuangtai，kaiguojicigongsidouyishibaigaozhong。shuyujinrongzhongjiexingye，xianzaishouruhenshao。wozaitadeyingxiangxia，yezaicongshizheigexingye。shourushaoweigaoyuta。

 zaiwohuaiyunzhiqian，womenganqinghenhao，wohuaiyunyihou，faxiantazaiwaimianzhaoxiaoj。zaizheiqibanianshijianli，womenfanfanfufuyinweizheigeshiqingchaonao，woduocitichulihun，dantadoubuyuanyi。bingqieyizhiduiyuzuozheixieshiqingmeiyoushenmeneijiuzhixin，juedeshiweileyingchoudexiaoshi。

dangwoshengbingdeshihou，napashiganmao，youkeyihenguanxinwo，pingshiduiwohenlengdan，ailibuli。womenxingshenghuoyehenbuxiediao。

我的诉求是：

 zheiduanganqingwoshifouyinggaifangxia?zhongbenzhishangshuo，woshibuyuanyide。yinweiliangrenzaiyiqi20nian，bingqiehaiyouxiaohai。qinglaoshiweiwozhiyinfangxiang!

花镇情感咨询师回复：

 nidelaogongxiongjinghencha，youcongshijinrongzhongjiexingye，haizainihuaiyunzhihouchuguizhaoxiaoj，lvjiaobugai，yishangtezhidoubiaomingletajiushizheiyangtianxingduoou，erqiedaodeganjidi，taduiyuchugui “meiyoushenmeneijiuzhixin”，zuoweijianziyeshishuzhengchang(danbuzhengque)。

 hetazaiyiqi，nimenzhinengguokurizi，bunengguohaorizi。nishengbingshi，haihuiguanxinniyixia，shiyinweitalvcichuangyeshibai，shouruhenshao，yangjiadezhongdanzainishenshang。

 nimendeqingkuang，woyijingbangnifenxiwanle。duiyushifouyinggaifangxiadewenti，niyemingquebiaoshile“buyuanyi”。jirannibuyuanyifangxia，neijiuzhinengguozheiyangderensheng，shenxianyemeiyoubanfa。

 huashuohuilai，nihelaogongshimingzhongzhudingdeyiduiyuanou。duitalaishuo，niyouchuqianyoushenghaizi，hainengrenshoutaduoou，zaitaxiongjingchenggongzhiqian，dangranbuhuiyuanyilikaini。erduinilaishuo，tanengjinitigongbierendoujibuledeqingxujiazhi，suoyiniziranyebuyuanlikaita。xiangnimenzheiyanghubudelianggeren，jiushihuilaolaosuosizaiyiqi，yishibanhuihaizhenfenbukai。

 jirannimenbicidoubuyuanlihun，shuangfangyedoushiyinghejieshoulezheiduanguanxi，neiwozenmezhiyinfangxiangdoumeiyouyong。nimendehunyindaodichixudaonayitian，jiukanweilaihuiyouzenyangdejiyu。yexutabujiuhouyouleqian，jiutongtongkuaikuaidilikaileni;huozheshinimeiguoduojiuyoushengleyigehaizi，huozheyudaolebozhemvjiangdi，kenengyejiubuzaijiujiehezhengzha，zhijietangpingrenmingle。

 daoneishinikenengjiuhuimingbai，shenmejiaozuoguanpeideliliang。suirantaduoou，zhaodisanzhe，duiniyebuzenmeyang，danniyeshibanjinbaliang，zhongxinzeou，bijiaonanburuhunyin，nihuimanmanjieshouxianshi。wozhidaozheizhongjieguohenkepa，guochengyehentongku，danzheishiyijingzaiwushurenshenshangzhongyanle。