女友出卖了男友怎么挽回

　　nvyouchumailenanyouzenmewanhui？xiamianzanmenyaoliaoyigebijiaojingbaodehuatitaolun——nvrenchuguile，nanshengyinggaizenmeban?xianbiejizhejiaolvbuan，yebuyaomangyudechujielun，womenjintianxiaobianjiulaihaohaodipouxiyixiazheizhongqingkuang，erqiedechu5gehaoyongduice，tiniwanhuineiyaoyaoyuzhuidejushi!nizhunbeihaolema?neizanjiuliaoqilai!

　　一、冷静冷静，再理智!

　　zuixian，pengyoumen，tingyijuquan，ruguonifaxianhuoshihuaiyinidenanrenchuguishi，diyishijianqingbaozheng“sanleng”——lizhi、lengbaoli、lengsikao。buyaozaiyijidongjiuzuochushenmebukewanhuidechunshi，liruyoukuyounao、darenhuozhijietiaoming。neiyangbujinhuidaozhinixiandetebielow，haihuibabenlaikeyiwanhuidejushiwanquangaozale。

　　pingjingxialai，shiweilefangzhixintaihexinnidexingwei，shiniyoushijianqushulixinxu，xiangyixiangxiamianyinggaizenmezuo。lengbaoli，qishishiweilejiduifangyixieshijianyukongjian，bunengrangshierzaidiyishijianjiubaofa，huoxuchucizhiwaihaiyouwujieyekeyiwanhuiyudi。lengsikao，zeshiweilenihaohaofanshengyixiazheiduanganqing，nantijiujingchuzainali，jiushinipingchangguanzhubuzu，huoshigoutongshouzu，huozheqitashishenmeyuanyin。

　　二、搜集证据，但不要用“探案”方式

　　ruguoyijingpingjingxialaile，neijiexialainengzuodejiushisoujizhengju。danshizheilisuoshuodesoujizhengju，bingbushiniqudang“kenandaoer”，zhuizong、toukan、chakanshoujizhileide。zheizhongxingweibudanbufuzeren，haihuiweifanfalv，gengweiguanjiandeshi，tahuicuihuidajiazhijiandexinren。

　　zhengquesoujizhengjufangfa，yingdangshizixiguanchatarichanggerenxingwei、qingxubodongjiqihenigongchudexintaideng，laizonghekaoliang。liru，tashifouchangchangyebuguisu、shoujishangshibushiyizhimocegaoshen、duinideganqingshibushiyixiazibiandelengmodeng。zheizhongsuibunengzhijiezuoweiwaiyudezhengju，danqimanengjiniyixiejingshihecanzhao。

　　ziran，ruguonizhenkandaoleburongzhiyidezhengju，birutahebiedenanrendeqinmizhao、weixinliaotianjiludeng，neiyangjiuyaozhuyixiayibugaizenmezoule。

　　三、沟通，但别“问罪”

　　ruguoniyouleyidingdezhengju，huozheshuoyongyoumingxiandehuaiyishi，xiayibujiushigentakaizhangoutongle。danshijizhu，goutongdemudebushiweile“wenzui”，gengshiweilechuliwenti，wanhuiguanlian。

　　zaigoutongshi，yaobaochilixinghelixing，bubiyikaishijiuchizehuoshizhiyilingyifang。keyixianbiaodanideganshouhekunhuo，liru：“wozuijinganjuedajiaxianghuzhijiandeguanxiyouyixiezhuanbian，nihaoxiangyouxieyuyuguahuan，shibushiyoushenmeshierxianggenwojiang?”zheizhongkaichangcijibiaoxianleniguanzhu，youjileduifangyigekaikoujiyu。

　　zhiyaoduifangfoudingwaiyu，ninengjinyibubiaodanideyoulv，bingtichuyixiejutideliziquyindaotajieluzhenxiang。zhiyaoduifangchengrenwaiyu，neijiuyaokannimenzhijiandeganqinglilunjichuduifangdetaidulaiquedingxiayibule。

　　四、自我反省，提升自我价值

　　buguanjieguoruhe，youyidianshiwuyongzhiyide，neibianshiyaojinxingziwofansheng。yiduanganqingdechuxianwenti，bingbuyidingshidanfangmianyiwu。huoxunizaihenduofangmianzuodebugouhao，rangtajuedelexinhanhuoshibumanyi。yinci，chenzhezheigejihui，haohaodifansiyixiazijidejudong，kankanyounaxiediquyoudaigaijin。

　　yucitongshi，yexuyaonulitishengzijidegerenjiazhi。bulunshineizaizhuanyezhishi、zhuanyejineng、hanyang，huoshiwaizaipinpaixingxiang、qichang、yizhe，douxuyaobuduantishengziji。zheimezuobudanshiwanhuita，yeshiweileni。yigegengjiachuse、zixinni，buguanzairenheshihou，doushihuigengyoujingzhengli。

　　五、管理决策时时刻刻：挽回或是放手?

　　nvyouchumailenanyouzenmewanhui？zuizhong，jiudaoguanlijueceshikele。yijuqianbiandegoutongguochenghejieguoziwofansheng，womenxuyaozuochuyigequeding：shiwanhuizheiduanganqing，huoshifangshourangtazou?

　　jiaruniquedingwanhui，neiyangjiuyaofuchukaishixingdong。ninengzhidingyigexiangjindewanhuifangan，baohangenggaitamendexingwei、tishenggentazhijiandehudong、chuangzaogengdadelangmanshikedeng。yucitongshi，yeyaojitayixieshijianyukongjianjinxingsikaohediaozhengzijidezhuangtai。jilao，wanhuishiyigemanzhangjiannandeguocheng，bixufuchuhenduodenulihexixin。

　　jiaruniquedingfangshou，neiyanghaiyaozuodexingxiangyixie。bubibuyiburao，bubieyanxiangxiang，yebuyaozuochunaxieshanghaitarenhuoshizijideshilai。fangshoubingbudengyubuchenggong，ershiyizhongchengzhangyuxuehuifangxia。huoxufangshouyihou，dajiadoukeyizhaodaozuishihezijidexingfuni?