挽回时男友老说累，精神层面不一致如何挽回？

 liangrenqinggandezhangqi，chukaiwuzhishenghuozuoweiquebaoyiwai，haixuyaojingshenshizhicengjideqiehe。zheijiushiweiheconggudaojin，dajiadelaorenzongshuowanhunyaozhao“menbudanghubudui”deyuangu，youyuliangrendegecengmianfeichangtiejinjiubukenengyouhendadeguannianmaodun，buranyinwaiguanshejifashengdezainonghoumengliedeai，yehuibei“chuliguannianmaodun”zheijianshiqingsuoxiaomodaijinde。yiner，jingshenshizhicengjibuyizhisuandeshanglianaizhongmanbijiaoyanzhongdeyigewentile，wanhuishinanyoulaoshuolei，xiabianwojiulairangnizhijidazhao：

1、审视自己

 liangxingguanxidexianghuguanxizhong，rentidehuanaihuihuandeyishiderouqingmiyi，keshidangniyaoxiangpeinideairenchuangjianzhangqideguanlian，zheiyifangshiyidingshibukequde。jingshencengmiandeqiehecaisuanshiganqinglaogudeguanjianjingshenshizhiquebao，yincidangnidenanyoujinijuede：“gennimeiyouliao……womenjingshenshizhicengjibuyizhi……”zheileihuadeqingkuangxia，qianwanbieganjuetaxiaotidazuo，jiuhaoxiangyingguohuangchuchaersibuxihuanhaokanmeilidongrendedaiannachongfei，pianyaoxuanlebubeiwomenkanzhongdekamilayiyang，guigenjiedinanshengxunzhaobanlvhuoshiyaozhaoheziyixinside，guanghaokanshiyuanyuanbugoude。nixuyaoyongxindeshenshiziji，zhaodaozishendewentihenanyousuoshuodebugou。

2、勤奋提升自己

 niruguoyou“fuchujiuyouhuibao，huodaolaoxuedaolao”desixiangjingjie，nijiushiyigebuduanfazhanderen，mianduizishendebugou，ruguonidenanyouneiyangshuodeqingkuangxia，niyejiuyingdanggaoqingchuzishendehanyidouhaimeizuodaolingyifangdeguiding，qianxunhejinquxincaisuanshiguanjiande。duolejieyixiananyoudegerenaihaozaizheixiecengmian，suihouebuyixiazheifangmiandezhuanyezhishi，zai《yuehuizhuanjia》zheibujuzhong，youyigepubiandeqingjingbianshimeiyigenanrenyaozhuiqiuwanmeizishenxiaidenvxingshi，quanweizhuanjiadoushihuijitaxuduozheiyiwenroudenvrenhaocengmiandezhuanyezhishi，guidinggainanxingjinzaonongdongjixialai。yincizheiyifangshiyiyangshiyongni，xiangxinniweilegenghaoditazuodezheizhongmomodideqinfen，tayidingnengkanzaiyanzhong，dadongzaixinde。

三、找寻权威专家的协助

 ruguonijuedezishenbukeyiyouxiaodebaozhengwanliuta，wanhuishinanyoulaoshuolei，xunzhaojishuzhuanyexiezhuyeshihenbixude，zhongjiuwanliushiyigebixuhendangxindequanguocheng，quanweizhuanjiakeyishinijinzaodediaojieqingxu、wanliushenaizhedeta。